Death of a child

Jennifer - posted on 09/18/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I will never forget the phone call at 3:00 in the morning, having to go to the morgue to ID my daughter. that was the nightmare I have never woke up from. On Oct. 17, 2004, I got the call to go to the hospital my daughter Mandy had a car accident. I already knew because they said she wrecked at 11:30 I was asleep and at 11:30 I sat up in bed and started calling her because I felt something was wrong, and I was right. she rolled her car and did not have her seat belt on and was thrown from her car. It is almost 5 yrs. and keep asking why, what did I do for this to happen. It still feels as it just happened yesterday. It is like apart of me died with her, 18 yrs. old and she won't get to live her life to the fullest. when will the pain ever stop? Two years ago my son-in-law was killed the same way car accident he was like one of my children, OUR CHILDREN ARE SUPPOSE TO BURY USE PARENTS ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO BURY OUR KIDS!!!!

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Erika - posted on 10/23/2012

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My son would have been one October 17 2012 he was born at 11:52pm..he died 7/30/12 while I was at work....miss him so much. I think the point is that God wants your attention read, look, and listen to what he is telling you. Make something good out of what has happened. your loved ones are in a happy place and would only want the best for us. I know it's hard and people say the most insensitive things and sometimes it literally feels like you want to die. Remember everyday you live you live for God because that is what you child is now. They are with God. I try to get up every morning look myself in the mirror and tell myself that I am beautiful because of him(my son). I make sure I try to know God even when I really don't want to....I know God more then ever because of his death and that's how I am more beautiful because him. Let God carry you and let go of the flesh. LET GOD CARRY YOU! You can not do this on your own it is too heartbreaking and requires too much healing for you to trust anyone other then God.

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Rodessa - posted on 03/17/2014

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I know what you are feeling, because when my daughter Tenisha died 9 years ago I ask God the same questions. Did I do something wrong. Then 3 day till the year of our daughter our 18 year old son Don drown in a boating accident , and I knew I had to trust God to bring me through this are I would lose my mind , when people ask me how I was doing I would just say all is well. I didn't know why this had happend to me but one thing I did know that God doesn't make mistakes so I just trusted him to bring me through and he has.

Susan - posted on 03/17/2013

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May God comfort you in this time of grief. You will learn to live again, but with a hole in your heart.

Never forget, though. She is not gone, merely away. You will see her again. She is at peace.

Erika - posted on 10/31/2012

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Going out and laughing with friends helps but when all is said and done and you find yourself low, alone, by yourself that's when the dark creeps in...have to stay true to yourself and rely only on God. People can not and will not always be there because most people have other responsibilities...in a time when there are so many more lows then ups....it is all normal process...or so I am told...

Marinda - posted on 10/06/2009

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Hi dear Jennifer, I`m so sorry for your loss, I also lost my 20 year old daughter just 4 months after you`ve lost yours. The pain never goes away, it`s always there lingering in the back, I still woke up at night suddenly realising she`s gone...

We will never get over this or get through it, we just learn to live with it and to handle the pain as best as we can. You must have also realise that people tend to forget and then go on with life but we as moms do not have that priviledge, our angels had took apart of our souls with them and never will we be truly happy again.

I`ve learn to make the best of life, to live life just one day at a time, never to think of tomorrow because that`s to far and is also meaning another day without my angel.

I hope that you will find some peace. All of my love and blessings to you...

Jennifer - posted on 10/06/2009

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I SET AND WONDER WHAT I DID WRONG OR AM I BEING PUNISHED, I HAVE THREE THINGS IN LIFE I LIVE FOR AND ONE WAS TAKEN AWAY! IF IT WASN'T FOR MY OTHER DAUGHTER KATHY AND MY GRANDBABY I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO.

Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2009

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There is nothing wrong with you, just that like others your heart was broken.

Jessica - posted on 09/19/2009

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i lost my two year old son douglas due to a hotdog...ambulance put his intibation tube in wrong... he passed away five days later in albany med due brain damage due to lack of oxygen... i was 7 mnths pregnant with my other son jacob... i then had to tell my then 4 year old daughter emily she would never see her little brother again. its been two years and i have yet to deal with it...what is wrong with me?

Laura - posted on 09/18/2009

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I know what you mean high way patrol came to my door to tell me that my son was in a car wreck. that was the worst night of my life. we headed to the hospital in kansas city  that was the longest drive i have ever made to KC. he was only 24 had 1 son that i'm now raising because the mother doesn't want any thing to do with him and that is sad but i have had him sents he was 6 months old and he is almost 5 now                                                                                                                                                                                 Quoting Jennifer:                                
 
Death of a child 
    
I will never forget the phone call at 3:00 in the morning, having to go to the morgue to ID my daughter. that was the nightmare I have never woke up from. On Oct. 17, 2004, I got the call to go to the hospital my daughter Mandy had a car accident. I already knew because they said she wrecked at 11:30 I was asleep and at 11:30 I sat up in bed and started calling her because I felt something was wrong, and I was right. she rolled her car and did not have her seat belt on and was thrown from her car. It is almost 5 yrs. and keep asking why, what did I do for this to happen. It still feels as it just happened yesterday. It is like apart of me died with her, 18 yrs. old and she won't get to live her life to the fullest. when will the pain ever stop? Two years ago my son-in-law was killed the same way car accident he was like one of my children, OUR CHILDREN ARE SUPPOSE TO BURY USE PARENTS ARE NOT SUPPOSE TO BURY OUR KIDS!!!!


 

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