Kim - posted on 04/13/2009 ( 47 moms have responded )
We lost our son a little over two years ago. We chose to have him cremated because I knew that he could always be where we are. My nephew passed away about 8 years before my son and they had him buried in a cemetery close to their house, my sister tells me all the time that they are now tied to that house and spot because she could never leave him, I am curious to know what others have done and why.
I would also like to know if you choose cremation what you did with your child's ashes. I still have my sons ashes, they are in our living room next to a picture of him with his sister. I have never been able to scatter them as it gives me so much comfort to have them here with us. I have told my older children that it is okay to bury this ashes with me when it is time, I don't think they should be responsible for carting them through their lives just because I can't part with them.
I found this to be one of the hardest choices to make when my son died, most people do a big funeral and burial and I just could not do it, my other children were devested and coudl not have handled a long viewing and two days worth of services , we did a memorial service with friends and family and then took his ashes home with us and found a place where we can see them and know he is still with us.