Dawn - posted on 01/30/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
My Daughter lost two children, both in the third trimester, and it's been the most devastating loss there has ever been in my life. I can't imagine hers. Her first was at 8 months, and her son was still born. He was perfect. No answers. We were all so obviously heart broken. Even her brothers, who have never been the crying type, held her baby and cried all over him. My poor daughter, devastated, and emotionally not correct afterwards, decided to try again, since they told her that there was no real reason for it. Just a fluke. She tried again, and at 29 weeks she went into labor. Her son, lived a week and passed. These two boys are so loved, and so wanted and missed. Why would something so horrible happen to such a young healthy girl? Will she ever be able to conceive? Not sure she will ever try again... The second loss was more than she could handle. More than we could all handle. We all had such high hopes the second time. To hear that she was in preterm labor again was so scary and so devastating. He came out perfect as the first one, and lived. We all cried and prayed for the best. To see him move and breathe, and to hear a week later, that he developed a brain bleed from being so small.... OH GOD... does it get worse? I know you all understand here, but does the loss ever get better? I know for me, her Mom, it never will. For her my heart breaks daily. I know she is desperate for her children, and she is never going to be right. She dreams about them, looks at pictures of her son that lived for a week, and stares at his tiny finger holding hers. God I wish I could help. It's never ending pain.