Brandy - posted on 09/15/2009
It is the three month anniversary of my ectopic pregnancy. I agree that people focus on the medical emergency and not the baby. And even I did at first. I was so relieved it was caught. Only one person said to me I am so sorry for your loss. I was given the drug metholtextrate instead of surgery. It is a cancer drug that prevents cells from dividing. preventing the baby from growing. The weeks that followed were very difficult. I had to go for blood tests twice a week to make sure my pregnancy hormones were going down. I felt that my baby was dying a slow death inside of me. Has anyone else had this drug? I too was never offered any counselling to help me through this difficult time. But it does get easier anyways, This month is definetly easier than the previous two. But I am glad to have stumbled upon this group. I think it will be helpful to hear other people's stories. Everyone I know is so relieved that I am ok physically it would be nice to have people empathize with my pain. I only knew I was pregnant for a day before this happened. So for other people they never had time to think about this baby. A day is enough time to have a lot of dreams. Good luck ladies with all you too are dealing with
Katie - posted on 03/25/2009
Hi hun i had an ectopic pregnancy with twins when i was 17 i lost 1 of my tubes im not sure which i didnt feel like a whole women anymore they told me it was boy/girl and my girl had died causing me to lose my boy they also said id never carry girls full term after a miscarriage and my son joshua passing when he was 2 days old i didnt think id ever have children but in september 2003 i was blessed with alexander joshua hes 5 now i also have samuel joseph who is 4 and to top it all off my baby GIRL jessie helen was born august 2007. the moral of this is dont give up i know what u are going through ive been there but ive come out on on the other side and sooner or later so will you. Good luck with everything.
Nicole - posted on 03/20/2009
I had an ectopic pregnancy in March of 2008, just 3 months after the loss of my twins at 13 weeks. The first test came up negative, but I still hadn't had my period, then two weeks later I started spotting but the pregnancy test came up positive but faint. At 8 weeks after continuous off and on bleeding, they diagnosed the ectopic pregnancy. I had surgery that day and we were advised to remove the tube as well. It was my right as was yours, I was disheartened, I was not only devastated at the loss now of 3 children within 4 months but with the loss of my tube, I was afraid that getting pregnant again might be a problem. My doctor told me that your body will compensate for it's loss and when you ovulate from the right side, the egg will eventually know to travel over and down the left side. I have proof that this is so, in June of 2008 I got pregnant again, my third pregnancy in less than a year. The egg came from my right side, and I now have a 5 week old son to join my other 3 surviving children.
It was tough to get through, but time helped, not to mention proof that everything was still working as well as before. Best of luck to you!
Kim - posted on 03/17/2009
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had one 2 years ago this month. I didn't have to have surgery, but know the feelings and emotions you are going through. Got through it one day at a time with the help of husband, friends, and having my other kids. Can't say that I don't think about that baby from time to time however. It was our second pregnancy loss.
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Debra - posted on 03/17/2009
hi i wish you all well,i have lost 5 baby's 2 that was ectopic
i had my first 2 children with no worrys but then my 3rd child was ectopic, i then had twins to which was stillborn at 31 weeks which i found very hard to cope with, i fell again with in 6months but i misscarried this baby as well, i began to think i would never have another child, but the next summer i gave birth to my son and my daughter 18months after that, sadly 2 yrs on my last child was ectopic this time i nearly died and had my tube removed.
Hayley - posted on 02/04/2009
hiya hun i had ectopic in my right tube too which ruptured and nearly killed me this was in may 2008 i am still heart broken i allowed the hospital to use my "product of conception" for histology and feel i have made the biggest mistake of my life. i see a little boy with you on the photo he will be your focus time dont heal all wounds but he needs you and you have to keep going i find chatting helps im on face book if you need me. my 4 beautiful girls helped me take care hunxxxx
Tania - posted on 02/03/2009
I just had the surgery this past Friday. The surgeon was able to save my tube though. I have a 4 year old daughter. I am having a hard time dealing with this as well. My pregnancy was very abnormal. The day after I found out I was pregnant, I started bleeding. I went to the ER and they told me I was probably going to miscarry. That's what I thought was happening. Well, it turns out that I was actually carrying twins. The first one was in my uterus and I miscarried and the second was in my tube and had to be removed. Feels like I had to suffer the loss twice. The surgery came 2 weeks after the miscarriage. I was finally starting to accept the miscarriage and then this came along. I'm so distraught!
Sarah - posted on 02/03/2009
I have had 2 misscarriges and on the 31st december 08 i had an ectopic pregnancy, i had surgery & my right tube removed. i have a 10 yr old so i think myself lucky to have her. i feel very upset and disapointed that my doctors just refused me counsiling because it was only a cell (to them maybe) it was our baby we lost, you don't get the right help these days. i have been tryin for 8yrs to have a baby and its heart breaking, i also have P.C.O.S (polycistic overy symdrome) and i,m blood type o rhesus D negative so i'm having it pretty tough at the moment but i always seem to pull through it. good luck with everything.
Jennifer - posted on 12/30/2008
Deidre ~ I have had 4 ectopic pregnancies. 3 of them were in my tubes and I lost both of my tubes and one was a para-ovarian ectopic. I had a very tough time after all of these but was blessed with two living children all due to IVF. IVf also blessed me with my boy/girl twins that sadly passed away at birth and shortly after birth due to a placental abruption and prematurity.
I am so sorry for your loss. I had a cornual ectopic pregnancy and had the corner of my uterus and right tube removed. The hardest part was that people focused on my surgery and not the loss of my baby. It was terrible. I saw a therapist once a week for a few months to help me through the loss. I did tons of internet reading in the interim and assumed I would need IVF. 1 year later I got pregnant natually, and now have a 10 month old. I am very lucky and I hope you will be too. If you ever want to talk in more detail, just send me a message.
Angie - posted on 12/15/2008
Wow... I just posted a very similar link... I just had the surgery less than two weeks ago. Still have the tube, but am TERRIFIED, that I'm not going to be able to have another baby. I've been searching online for detailed information on conceiving again etc. and am having a really hard time. How are you doing now?
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