First "anniversary"

Emily - posted on 08/12/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Our first anniversary of our son's death is coming up. And we just can't figure out what to do. Obviously, we want to do something to honor him. Any ideas? What did you do?

Some quick facts.
He was 3.5 months old.
We lost him to SIDS.
We had him cremated.
The day is August 27th.

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Tara - posted on 08/14/2010

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Let him know in anyways you love him maybe that is having cake maybe that is buying a balloon an watching it go into the air till you can not see because your boy has it. maybe that is buying a flower just let him know he loved and missed and most of all talk to him this day and tell him be is loved and missed I talk to my little boy alot i tell him i love him alot

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Grace - posted on 06/04/2011

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Julia, sorry to ask, but where can I get some of the lanterns? My son died January 8th, 2009. My daughter loves Tangled and misses her brother very much. I think this would be very helpful to her.
Thanks

Christine - posted on 06/04/2011

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We also lost our twin daughters at birth and will also be celebrating their 1st remembrance day on Aug 24. we are planning to celebrate with our closest family and friends to honor their lives through offering a mass and having dinner afterwards. We also plan to light up lanterns and release them with our messages on them.

Julia - posted on 09/02/2010

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im so sorry for the loss of your baby son, i also lost my daughter to sids in 2001

i suggest some lanterns, we let 9 go on our baby girls 9th anniversary.. we wrote messages on them and they looked beautiful lighting up the sky.

godbless.xx

Emer - posted on 08/30/2010

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my daughter was stillborn at term on 6th of nov 2006& every year we tie a ballon with her age to her grave stone the 1st anniversary is always the hardest xxx

Beverly - posted on 08/28/2010

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We lost are son when he was almost 9 months he died of a rare blood disorder. When he died we put a yellow and red rose and a blue,pink and white carnation for the other children. So every yr we put the same colors on his grave

Pushpa - posted on 08/22/2010

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we went down to his grave and kept a boquet and donated a few things to poor neglected kids on the roads of india as i lost him in india and had my daughter the same night so she replaced my son and she was 3 weeks premature

Brandy - posted on 08/22/2010

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My daughter Addison was stillborn 11-22-06. On her first Angel-versary we had cake out at the cemetary and released balloons with messages written to her. And watched them float up to heaven, it was very theraputic. I don't know if you live in a house/apartment but another idea since youhad him creamated (i don't know if you placed them ina cemetary) but would be to plant a tree in your yard and watch it grow. Then you could do balloon releases there. Just a few ideas. Thoughts and prayers are with you!

Gaynor - posted on 08/22/2010

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i am very sorry for your lose
i telling you this as i lost my son to sids at 2months 3 weeks and 5 days old in 1994
i can only advise you on what i do even now
i buried my son so i have a place to go to every year
i went to his favourite place it was a park and i talk to him andi tell him all kinds of things as he was beside me
also i put flowers on his grave and i talk to him there as well
it was doing that i could cope with losing him

Tania - posted on 08/21/2010

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For us...its the Xmas tree. My daughter was stillborn at 33 weeks on November 13th 2006. We put the tree up on her birthday and take it down on her due date...which is January 1st. This is a special time of memorial for us. Each year we buy a new decoration for the tree....its always special....sometimes with her name on it....or her age......or a message. This works for us......it gives me peace. I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure no matter what you choose to do....your son knows you love him! Take care. xxx

Portia - posted on 08/15/2010

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I lost my son at the at the same age and to the same reason as you...but to honor him me and my two boys now go to his grave and have cake and take flowers or a small toy. We also take pictures and I keep a scrapbook of every year. He would of been 12 years old this year next month but I still keep his memory alive and always will.

Kerrin - posted on 08/15/2010

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We had our daughter's first anniversary just this January (she was stillborn). My husband & I just spent the day together. We visited the memorial park where our daughter's ashes were scattered over the lake & left rose petals there. And in the evening, we lit a pink candle.

Juliana - posted on 08/12/2010

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For my daughters "first" birthday we had cake and ice cream and went to the cemetary to release balloons with messages on them that we wrote for her. Her Angel day is in December and we plan on releasing balloons again to celebrate her life. She was 4.5 months and we also lost her to SIDS.

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