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Has anyone had a birthday party for their child after they passed away?

Mindie - posted on 05/24/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daugter Esabella Rose passed away 4 days she tur 6 months. She was born with only the right side of her heart, no spline, and some of her organs were on the oppsite sides. She was my 1st born and I made her my life. Her 1st birthday would be in September and I was thinking about having a party for her with letting butterflies go and balloons go at the chemitary, then having a picnic for our family. Has anyone done anything like this.

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Wendy - posted on 06/06/2012

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I am so sorry about your little girl Esabella Rose. To answer your question, yes, we have celebrated our son's birthday twice now. My son was 1 year and 19 days old when he passed away, and he would be 3 now if he was still with us. I say he is Angel 3 years old.

For the first birthday after his passing my husband, children and I went out for the day in the city and had a picnic lunch in the park next to the river. We also hired paddle boats and went out on them. While we were there I saw a Mummy and Daddy duck, along with their 8 babies. It was a wonderful sign for us. There were a number of other signs which related directly to my son's final days, which was quite strange, but also gave me a sense of comfort as well. I don't know if you have received any signs after your daughter has passed away, but if you open your heart on her birthday you may receive one as well.

It is a wonderful idea to celebrate her birthday, she is a part of you and your family and she will never be forgotten, so if you want to celebrate her Angel Day then please do so. It has helped us a little, because I feel he deserves to be remembered, and you deserve to remember that special day when she came into your life, all be-it way too short.

I hope this has helped you a little in making your decision :)

Marlina - posted on 05/25/2012

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I am sorry for ur loss... We lost ours 2yrs ago she was stillborn. No i have not done anything like that but i have made birthday cards for her. I say go ahead and do it if it will help you thru this and it is good to celebrate her birthday.

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