Having another baby after SIDS..........and 41 this yr,

Stephanie - posted on 11/24/2010

I also recently lost a daughter to SIDS/SUID(sudden unexplaind infant death) and a considering trying again, from everything I've read, the chances of SID happened a second time are basically nill. Hope this helps, and best of luck!

Sharon - posted on 03/25/2009

I too lost a baby to SIDS he was 7 months and 8 days old and my husband and I are thinking of having another baby. I will be 40 this year and am not sure because of my age! I am so sorry about the loss of your baby. Cherish the memories and remember you don't always have to be strong.

Holly - posted on 03/25/2009

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  It never goes away but I hope you remain open to options... I am 38 and after loosing our 10wk old son to SIDs in August just found out we are 6 weeks pregnant!  I am anxious as well but the elation far exceeds it.  Good luck.  Reread about all the other mothers who have gone on to have multiple children that thrive!  May we both be blessed!

Marie - posted on 03/23/2009

hi ur not wrong. i lost my boy at five months old to sids and it was nealy 3 years ago n even thou these breathing mointers are ok. when u lose a child like this it makes you worry more well me anyway n im scared of having another child

Alice - posted on 02/28/2009

Hi,

I lost one of my twins to SIDs in 1991. My heart aches for you....You need to have answers...there are none! At that time i researched alot about sids. It is not hereditary....if you want to have another child, do it! Nobody can guarentee anything....there is no way you could have prevented your baby's death! I would like you to add me to your circle. I had three others after....I always thought..."if there is a god he would not be so cruel to do this again"and he didn't. my thoughts are with you....

Nicole - posted on 02/28/2009

i lost my daughter wynter 5 years ago from sids, so i know how you feel. i was worried about that too. when i decided to have another one i was scared for sure. i always keeped her by my side or in the bed with me until the 6 weeks was over but even after the 6 weeks i was still very nervous about leaving her alone in a crib but we got through it and she is now a heathy 3 year old.

Kristin - posted on 02/25/2009

I lost a child to SIDS in 2007 and my second son was put on an apnea monitor until he was six months old and the risk of sids is lower.   The monitor works but alerting you if your childs heart  or breathing stop or are irregular.  My son is now 7 months old and off the apnea monitor.  We have a video monitor and a movement monitor for his room.  You are the best judge of if something is right for you. 

Sue - posted on 02/01/2009

you should try i lost my son 25 years ago now but went on to have 3 more kids and even though it was hard and frightening at first i coped and your family and friends will always help you.

Sarah - posted on 01/31/2009

Hi.. I lost my daughter in 2005 to SIDS and I also wanted to have another baby. We had twins born in 2007. They were our healing babies. It was really hard at first. We were scared so we had he heart and breathing monitors also. We come home from the hospital with them and used them for almost a year. We only used them when they were sleeping but you can use them all the time. Our insurance paid for them and the doctor ordered them for us. We had the same doctor so he knew what we had gone through with our daughter. He was very understanding with the extra trips to see him just to make sure they were doing ok. We were happy to make it through the 1st year but we also had to have faith in God that he would take care of them and that they would be ok. You can do it and it is wonderful. We still miss our daughter everyday and wish she was here with our family but we know that we have a special angel to watch over us and all our children.

Rebecca - posted on 01/31/2009

I am sorry for your loss.

My first child was stillborn so I was paranoid when we were planning for the second.



I got an monitor that went under my baby's bed and would go off if their breathing dropped below a certain rate. It has a green light that blinks with every breath so you can watch it if you want. The one I got was called Baby Sense II they have version III now. Had to buy it online and I think have it shipped from Israel or something like that. I was about $120 at the time. If you search for apnea monitors I think you can even find clip on ones that monitor breathing.



Afterwards I stumbled across information about Dr Sprott. He is a scientist in New Zealand who has a theory about SIDS. There have been NO SIDS related deaths following his methods. To me it makes a lot of sense. Here are some sites with information about him and how to prevent SIDS www.prevent-sids.org/who-is-dr-tj-sprott.htm www.babysake.com www.cotlife2000.com

Good luck with TTC.

Rhonda - posted on 01/30/2009

My heart feels what your heart is feeling. Empty, angry, sad, and depressed among tons of other feelings. I lost my baby to SIDS in 96 a little boy I named Dylan Matthew. He was 10 days old. Even though many years have passed and the pain does get easier it's still something that stays with you everyday for the rest of your life.

But, it is okay to move on and to give yourself the opportunity. I had my second son in 99" he was sent home with a heart monitor that simply wrapped around his chest and if he stopped breathing a alarm would sound loudly. This gave me a great deal of peace. First talk to you doctor about becoming pregnant again, tell him your worries, and explain to him that if you do get pregnant you'd like to be release with a heart monitor for your own sake of mind. It really helps!
You didn't mention how long it's been since you lost your sweet baby. But be careful to give yourself healing time. Because when you have this new precious baby you'll want to be able to give it all of your love, and kinda put the love for your loss one in the back of your heart.
Good luck with your journey. God bless you and your new baby to come!

Jamie - posted on 01/29/2009

First, my condolences for your loss. I cant imagine how it must feel to be in your shoes.. But I am happy for you that you've decided to try and get pregnant. I can imagine your worry but at the same time, I hope all that worry doesnt take away from the wonderful experience of having another child. I worried so much with my 19mo DD, that I swear some nights I just laid there listening to her breathe...I lost a lot of sleep! I dont do it as much these days but I still go in there to check and make sure I can hear her from my room.

When she was smaller, I used a thick folded towel to make a slight incline in the head of her mattress. That gave me some peace. And I still dont have anything but her blanket in her crib. I've also heard that having a small fan to move air around can help remove the danger,

Be sure you talk to your dr, let them know your fears. The best of luck TTC!