Michelle - posted on 02/03/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )
We found out at 20 weeks that our unborn child had several problems. 3 doctors and 2 weeks later, the diagnosis was a fatal form of skeletal dysplasia plus fetal hydrops. So in a nutshell, our son's chest cavity was no longer growing to accomodate his thriving heart, lungs and other organs. In addition, his body was filling up with fluid that had now reached his skull. We had been advised that IF he made it to term, he would most likely not make it through delivery......and IF he made through delivery he would require immediate surgery just to be able to eat (his SD also affected the positioning of his jaw). So on Aug 16, 2005, we chose to end our son's suffering. I chose to deliver him instead of having a D&E. Austin Bernand was born still at 2:07 p.m. on AUgust 17, 2005. The doctors and nurses were wonderful and allowed us time with him. We had been counseled to bring a camera which thankfully we did. The nurse took photos of the 3 of us which I am now able to look at without feeling a tremendous amoutn of pain. We buried our son at a local cemetary and had a grave side service. I visit him often. In December 2006, we had a Safe Arrival in the form of our beautiful daughter Autumn. I know her brother is here looking out for her.
I tell my story to show that there are those of us out here who have made this choice out of love for our unborn child and not as birth control. This is a sensitive subject and not really discussed except in a negative light. As a result, I often feel alone. I know there are others out there who feel the same and I welcome your comment.