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holidays and birthdays

Laura` - posted on 12/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I know it has been coming up 10 years since my daughter Katherine Elizabeth was stillborn( I was 8 1/2 months). I have learned to deal but when christmas and her birthday comes around 02/26 it kills me. My husband doesnt understand because this happened before I meet him. He says that I am being folish. If it was his daughter he wouldnt say this. I just went out to decorate for christmas and i broke down. I couldnt even drive home. Is there ne 1 out here that can give me some help?

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Rebecca - posted on 03/25/2013

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my sister died. And every time its the death day of hers my mother brakes down and i understand her. its very natural for u to brake down. its like something is missing in ur life that will never be replaced. dont worry i understand im here for u

Katherine - posted on 12/13/2009

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I am so sorry, I don' t know how to deal with it besides talking about it. My daughter would have been 6 this year and it's harder for me to deal with on her birthday more than anything. I talked about her more this year than any year and it still just tears me up inside to even think about her. Maybe just talking to other moms that have been through the same thing will help. I keep saying I am going to join a group to be with other parents that have gone through the same thing, but when it comes down to it I just tend to deal with my emotions on my own and internally. I have always been that way and I have a hard time changing. I know this isnt an answer for you but maybe it will help to know we all go through it like you do. You are never alone.

Delina - posted on 12/13/2009

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your not crazy It is hard ever year. I just lost my daughter in july, She was four. Every year around this time people are happy and joyful and it's "all about family." Your family doesn't feel complete. Most dont know what its like to lose a child and he really doesn't get it. there are a few books i got from the hospital here in calgary about grief on holidays and special days send me a e mail Delina_24@hotmail.co.uk and ill send u the mail outs and the book names. God bless and stay strong girl.

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