Hope do you cope with your grief?

Cindy - posted on 02/04/2010

I lost my oldest daughter about 2 1/2 years ago. she was only 21 at the time. I cope with her loss by simply taking one step at a time. I still have days that I sit and cry but my belief in God has been the only thing that has saved me. I know in my heart that she is with Him and that someday I will be there too and I will get to be with her again.

Louise - posted on 02/04/2010

In my 5th month op pregnancy, I lost my daughter Marselle. I still think of her every day. She would have been 3 this year. It has been difficult at times. I know her face and will never forget her.

Nina - posted on 02/01/2010

When I lost my son, I kept a journal and wrote poetry. I keep a shadow box with a few of his pictures and toys, a binkie and his religious necklace on the mantle above the fireplace. I use his toys, clothes and what blankets we have left for his sisters when they are the right size, and I make sure that they understand that they had an older brother who taught mommy and daddy how to love and be a good mommy and daddy for them. We still have a birthday for him, a small one with a cupcake we put on his grave, and at Samhain we leave an offering for him out on our doorstep when we go to bed. We burn candles and talk about him often in remembrance.

While we miss him much, and I still do cry, I try not to dwell on the fact that he'd be in kindergarten, or things like that, as each of my daughters hit a mile stone that he never got the chance to see. While the loss of him saddens me, I try not to let the tears and heartache rule my life or make me live in fear of losing one of my daughters each day. It makes me cautious, but I try to remind myself every day that losing him taught me what love is, how to love and that love is not something that should be sheltered and cradled, but something that should be shared, enjoyed and flaunted... never to be held back and guarded, but given openly and fully to those around us.

Patrice - posted on 02/01/2010

Every child lost leaves us with precious memories no matter how they were lost. The important thing is that we remember they are a blessing from God! My daughter was murdered five years ago & yes I do miss her, but I don't have that deep sense of prevailing grief that can haunt us. I am truly healed from that aspect because I gave it to the Lord & refuse to give into it. Yes, I do cry once in a while, but I know my God & I know who holds my hand & that she is in His Mighty hands. NO matter how our children died, we can be thankful we had them for the time & we never forget & they will always be a part of us

April - posted on 02/01/2010

My husband and I took a greif counseling class right after the death of our 2 yr old son....We find comfort in the 2 children we have had since loosing our son. There are days when I hate the world still even after 6 years without him. I have found that reading or playing computer games to distract me work well in my case.

Chelsey - posted on 01/31/2010

I lost my daughter chelsey 11 years ago and I wrote a journal every day because eveybody deals with it different so by writting my thoughts down helped nobody could say that i was wrong or that i should feel a certain way. My husband at the time would want to act like it didnt happen and that would drive me crazy but i learned over the years everybody deals different so write write away and let others deal in the way that helps them :)

Eva - posted on 01/29/2010

It has been a long time since I lost my children, Bethany would be 22 and Adam would 24 now but, when I was overwhelmed in all my grief{ my father also died in between} I would write poetry. It was so carthartic, I could take all the pain that was inside me and put it on paper. I too never realized that I had the creativity in me but, at times the words would just flow out of me. I even entered one of my poems in a writing contest but, most were private. Not everyone can write poetry but, they can write and let thier feelings out, it's amazing how light you start to feel when you do.

Jenn - posted on 01/29/2010

As for me...well, I sculpt one of a kind babies out of polymer clay. It took me about 5 years after Maddie's death to discover my new hobby, but now I'm addicted. To date I'm just about to finish up my 400th sculpt....I never knew I had it in me. ~Jenn