How do you cope with your children moving away?

Marian - posted on 12/28/2012

my daughter her husband and my only grandsons age 6 and 4 are emigrating to australia how do i cope when they go

Cassie - posted on 10/28/2012

How can I cope better since my sons father moved him to Vegas without my permission, and my son is my whole world?

Crystal - posted on 10/15/2012

I feel sad reading all these post, but It helps to know I'm not the only one. My oldest son just moved out a week ago, and I don't know how to get over it. He is 18 and has been home schooled most of his life, so we are very close. I also have another son that was born mod/severe deaf, and it has been hard not be able to have the son around that was easy to talk to. I love both of my son's, but I do miss the dynamic of them two together, boys being boys. You miss seeing them sleepy in the morning, their voice, even the little annoying things they use to do. You do regret all the arguements, over small things. How he always left the milk out, or used too many Q-tips,lol. Or how he would sing opera when he was in the restroom. He played the guitar for us, and just loved to talk, now the sounds are all gone. We are a family of 7, and it seems only me and the baby and the cat miss him, or is showing it. So I cry to the cat,lol. I feel bad that I want things to not work out so he has to come back home. I don't think I will ever get use to this. My husband is quiet, my oldest daughter is quiet like him, my middle child is at gymnastics most of the week and she is only 10, and the Baby and my deaf son don't talk much, so I feel lonely in some ways. Cindy, I also lost a baby at five months along, and yes it does feel like a death, or like someone kidnapped him. Please pray for me if you believe in God.

VK - posted on 08/13/2012

My daughter moved to another state 1 day after she turned 20....she dated a guy for 2 years before that who refused to let her have a relationship with me(and she even lived in my house)...after she broke up with him ...she met her now husband and she moved and got married....and has a step son.....I see her several time in the summer....i am not a winter driver ....so there is like 5 months that I dont see her....My question is....Everytime we leave each other I cry the entire day.....My heart aches like it did the first day she left....when I watched this little girl had become a young woman pack her clothes an pull away from the house....now i regret everytime I didnt play with her...everytime she wanted to go somewhere and I didnt take her because I wasted those moments,,,,(I am crying my eyes out as I am typing this,,,,,,)....I so want her to be happy....But I want to be a part of her life..... made her a promise that day 6 years ago when she left ...she said....Mom promise me you wont be 7 hours away forever.....and I did...it kills me that I dont see her......someone plese tell me what to do

Lisa - posted on 06/01/2009

Hi Cindy,

I don't know how you would cope with your daughter moving away, but thought I would answer anyway from the daughter whos moved away's perspective.

I moved to Australia from the UK in November 2008, my mum was my best friend, & my son was her only grandchild, so I have been consumed with guilt since then. My mum hasn't helped the situation either, & had pretty much told me I've ruined her life.

It has been just as hard for me moving to a new country, where I don't know anybody, & my own mum won't support me either.

So I would just say, its ok to cry & be upset in front of your daughter, but please don't put any pressure of any sort on her, or make her feel guilty in anyway. She is probably like me, doing what she feels is best for her family, but it will be breaking her heart too. I miss my mum everyday, its so hard.

& you never know, she may come back one day!!

Good luck with it all

Karen - posted on 05/30/2009

My daughter moved to a different state on her wedding day. I was happy for her because she seemed so happy, but inside I was crying. She had a baby 10months ago and I dearly wish they were close by so I could really be a grandma to her son. Like anything else us moms have to do, you smile at them, hug them, and when they aren't looking you cry your heart out. Or at least that's what I do.



One good thing is the internet, I keep in touch daily with facebook and she emails me pictures of my grandson every week so I can see how much he is changing. It's a poor substitute, but at least we can stay in each others lives that way. Good luck.