how to handle a christmas card

Charity - posted on 10/11/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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We want to send out a christmas card with our picture on it. However, the last time we did we included a picture of our son Austin. I have some people who loved it and some who did not because Austin is not alive in the picture and they thought it was weird. However, he is our son and just because he is not here does not mean he should not be included. Has anyone else had to deal with this or have some thoughts on it.

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Billie - posted on 10/27/2011

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I lost my 17 yr old son to brain cancer 13 yrs ago. I put a sticker on the back of the envelope that says "In loving memory of Del", everyone loves it.

Charity - posted on 10/20/2011

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thank you Paula and Lucy. I have decided to include him in a different way. I have created our card and used an image of a boy on a cloud looking over us and have his name included on the card. this way i can include him and hopefully not offend anyone.
I think Paula your daughter is beautiful and you should show her off anytime!.
Lucy, I know it is hard knowing what to do. If you want to share Vivian's picture you should. the thing to remember when people make comments is that they do not know what to say and they are scared when it comes to the death of a child. I know it hurts the comments people make, it is because they have never walked in your shoes.

Lucy - posted on 10/19/2011

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Hi there, I'm new to this group. I have a similar questions but for thank-you cards from shower gifts I received. I want to share a picture of my baby girl Vivian Marie who was born last month, at full term (38 wks), she was stillborn, but I am afraid of how people will react and afraid of getting hurt if I get negative comments. I had initially planned on adding a photo of the baby. I'm not sure how /if to do it. do you even still send 'thank you for baby gift' type card?, i thought of putting a picture of her little footprints maybe .. any other thoughts ?
Charity, I also agree with you and Paula to include your son Austin's picture in xmas cards .
Paula I am so sorry someone was so cruel to you like that when you shared pics of your baby girl. I think she's beautiful in the pic on your profile!

Paula - posted on 10/15/2011

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I agree with you...I too would have sent pictures of the whole family....even if they are not all present in this life. People have issues because they don't understand. I had too had an issue when I posted pictures of my little girl by e-mail .....it was pictures that I didn't know I had since they were on a friends camera disc. she gave us the disc and low and behold....more photoes of her. I was so thrilled....I got to see her again...somehow....but the response I got from some....was sad and from one person it was darn cruel. That person...wrote that I should never send pictures like that....of her in the hospital with tubes ....because it was creepy. To this day....I have not spoken to this person. I could not beleive.....I was so sad and hurt.
so I say....post or send what you beleive is right and in your heart. your child existed....he was here. you loved him and that is all that matters.

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