How you were with your children after your child passed?

Karen - posted on 09/15/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I had a daughter pass that was stillborn on 10/10/04. She was my 1st daughter. I was lucky enough to have 2 more girls after her. It was hard pregnancies to know if they would live or not since my first daughter was 3 weeks from due date. I had to get a Doppler for both of my subsequent pregnancies. Now even that they are here I am still fearful that anything can happen almost like holding them back. I was wondering if any other mom feels fearful of their children after loosing a child?

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Jennifer - posted on 09/22/2009

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After my daughter passed she was 18, my other daughter was growen and married, but I still 5yrs. later call to make sure she made it where ever she goes. Sometimes most of the time if I here a siren call her.

Emily - posted on 09/21/2009

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I lost my first at 32 weeks pregnant. Abigail was fine until her heart stopped suddenly and there was nothing my doctor could do but induce me. She would be almost 5 now. I had a hard time accepting my 2nd pregnancy . . . I didn't want to become attached, so great was the fear of losing that one too. I was 8 months pregnant with my second before really starting to become connected with her . . . but didn't really believe she would make it until she was handed to me by my doctor and I got to look into her eyes. She made me believe that she was going to stay. I worry about her a lot, but I can't exactly wrap her in bubblewrap and put her on a shelf!!! She's 19 months old now and a tough little nut. I still think of my Abigail every day . . . and it still hurts . . . but the pain has lost a few of it's sharp edges.

Ange - posted on 09/20/2009

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hi, i lost twin girls march 06, i was 21wks pregnant, they were both alive until the second they were born but couldn't stop the labour, ive since had a boy whos 2 & half and ive got 3wk old baby girl, my sons pregnancy was emotionally stressful as i lost his twin at 8wk pregnant and had a scare at 30wks, and with my daughters pregnancy it was lot easier but i had a bleed at 32wks & also had placenta praevia, i cudn't properly relax & enjoy either pregnancy until they were born and i held them and watched them cry, im ok now there here & having my daughter has filled a hole after losing the twins.

Renee - posted on 09/18/2009

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Hello. I also had a stillborn 4-12-95, I was a week and 3 days over due. He was the biggest baby of my 3. It took a good 3 yrs till I could talk about the death of my first born without shedding many tears. I still do on the anniversary of his death. I do feel something might happen to one of my grandchildren (few yrs to worry about that) in that painful way. Still births seem to hit my family at one time or another. I don't wish anyone to have to go thru a 9 month pregnency and the midwives (I had a doctor with my younger 2) not being able to do a C-section put my healthy 7lbs 12 ounces in the ground and me almost passing too. So for all of you who plan to have more babies or it being your first REMEMBER Doctors knows best. Mid wives only practice half of what a doctor can do. I will NEVER allow Aaron's wife or Isabella to give birth with a mid wife..Just remember too things happen for a reason and we will get thru it no matter the cost. I sure hope I helped out somewhat. Keep smiling and go on and you can be a great mom and make sure your girls have the best possible care while going thru pregnancy and delivery. Things (bad) can happen in a blink of an eye. Renee'

Marci - posted on 09/17/2009

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Hello, my son was stillborn in 2006 since I have blessed with another beautiful baby boy. I really don't have fears for him now. I guess just the norm, him hurting himself but not that anything major will happen. I can understand why you would have those fears, I think that you should relax some and let them live. Don't hold them back, hold them up and let God light their way.

Amy - posted on 09/15/2009

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I fear it everyday but I put my faith in God and trust in his will. I have been trying to get pregnant and succeeded 17 weeks ago but lost that baby 9 weeks ago. Its not easy but I remember that everything is for a purpose. Love your girls with all your heart and cherish every min with them. What you are feeling is normal.Amy

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