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I am new sorry to hear of all your losses

Tabitha - posted on 08/06/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

My name is Tabitha I lost my 5 year old angel almost 4 years ago and in 4 years still have not found reason or peace from this I looked for people to talk with that knew what I was going through, not the ones that keep saying it will be ok or i understand when they dont. I have looked at the pictures of your beautiful angels and my heart goes out to you. Maybe here I can find some people to talk to when I need someone who really does understand. I also have 2 other children 2 boys Phoenix and Dalles. Alyssa would be 9 right now. My son Dalles witnessed the death of my daughter and Its hard to comfort him the way he needs also any suggestions?

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Jenny - posted on 08/08/2009

I am sorry for your loss my girls witnessed their brothers death also and I remember trying to get them out so they didnt have to but I failed I got them counseling and I have pictures of him for them to look at, I let them know he will always be with them and watching them from heaven, and I tell them everything they want to know about him and what happend so they understand a little bit even though I really cant even understand why my baby boy had to be taken and they know that we can sit and cry when we miss him but we can smile at how sweet and precious he was he passed when he was 3 months old so they got to spend a few months with him and luckily I have pictures with them together that they can hold on to but if you ever need to talk I am always here to listen

Ivy - posted on 08/07/2009

Journals.. Help them make some journals to write down their feelings.

Diane - posted on 08/07/2009

although my daughters didnt see their brother die i have found it difficult to know the right way to comfort them.its hard to give comfort when u feel so low yourself but go with your instincts i have.if the girls want to talk about their brother i am here to listen .we usually have a few tears together but usually end up smiling through the tears.my girls had councilling after he died and that helped alot,have you thought about it it might help.how old are your children,maybe they could write their sister a letter or draw apicture and they could send the messages to heaven with a balloon.i hope this helps in some way.please feel free to message me if u need a chat.you could tell me all about your daughter and sons.xxwith love

Diane - posted on 08/06/2009

hi tabitha i hope you do find comfort by talking on these pages and the good thing is we do know what u r going through.i have found comfort and have found alittle comfort knowing that i am not alone.it is hard to talk to family and friends even when you no that they care,because the pain and feelings we have do not compare to any other there just is no comparison.just know that we do understand and can relate to your felings.love to you and your family