I am so depressed its been 3 yrs sence my daughter died

Shauna - posted on 09/20/2009 ( 76 moms have responded )

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will the hurting ever go away its been almost 4 yrs sence my daughter has passed away i have a new baby hes 17 months but i am at a lose i miss my daughter i think about her all the time the things she would do getting ready for school her bedroom and so on I miss her so much what can i do to get over her death? if anyone knows anything about this then can email me at hotrods_mommy4308@yahoo.com

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It's been a year since I lost my beautiful 26 year old daughter. It hasn't gotten easier. I haven't learned to accept it. I don't know how I'm surviving this sorrow. I adored my daughter. We were extremely attached. People have been supportive, but they can't understand how persistent the pain is. I lost my fiance when I was 24, and thought I wanted to die. But, I was ready to move on within about six months. I still loved and missed him, but I accepted what happened and went on with my life. I lost my father when I was 35. It was life-altering and sad, but the grieving process was similar to when I lost my fiance. This is different! I'm not going through a normal grieving process since I lost my daughter. I think about her constantly. I still cry every day. I'm incapable of feeling happiness. I'm not me anymore. I go through the motions of living, but inside I'm somewhere else, thinking about my daughter all the time. It will be good if I can recover someday. I'd say I hope I do, but I'm incapable of hope at this point. I know I haven't said anything to comfort you, unless it provides a shred of comfort to know that you're not the only one out there suffering in this way. None of us deserved this. No one understands this pain except those of us who are experiencing it. My heart reaches out to every parent on earth who is suffering the loss of a child.

Thomas - posted on 08/23/2013

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Amanda I still feel guilty when I feel even a little joy. How do I believe in anything I was taught when Those very same things have not been true over and over again through out my life ? I've been alienated from the God of my youth many times and have turned to Him on my knees in prayer and accepted His plans for me. Having had a spiritual awakening I have been bought back to life.
How do I accept the unacceptable ? The only thing I asked was to keep my family happy, healthy, safe, and warm while I was away for work, another accepted situation bought on as a result of past mistakes in my life ! Punishment enough for my wife and children ! I was willing to accept the consequences of my actions. Was that enough OH NO ! he had to punish them more ! Leave me to witness their suffering. I accept my suffering punish me not my pure and God loving family !
"Happily ever after fails and we've been spoiled by these fairy tails"

Brenda - posted on 09/08/2013

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My daughter passed away many years ago and I will always have the pain in my heart for her. Every day she is on my mind and helps me get out of bed. As I was suffering I discovered that there comes a time when we must learn to use that pain in a positive manner.

I took all of the pain and suffering that my daughter experienced and turned it into compassion for other young people in need. With determination I used her tragedies
as knowledge to help those who cannot help themselves. I advocate whenever possible on behalf of youngsters because they don't know their legal right to happiness. By helping others I feel it gives my child's life meaning.

So, take one step at a time through our lonely road of loss until you can convert your pain into knowledge to help others. It works for me!

Sylvia - posted on 07/07/2013

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Sylvia Russell Posted July 6, 2013

I lost my beautiful Daughter one year ago on February 6th.
We had a great long lunch together on Saturday and Monday I found her too late.
She took a lethal dose of antidepressants and I didn't see the signs that she was going to do that. She seemed fine. I am her Mother, why didn't I know ?
She was 46 and lived alone. I talked to her at least once a day if I didn't see her.
You all need to pray for signs. I do and have a lot of them. It is really true. They are with us
I haven't been able to accept it yet and I am so sorry for all of you going through this terrible loss..

Pretty - posted on 01/02/2014

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It real painfull to lose a baby and I dnt think I will ever stop thinking abt her coz everytime when I saw baby gal I think abt her even when I entre in a shop my eyes will c a gals clothes.it playing her a film in my eyes evey thing the last smile she gave me.early in the morning I change her nappie ,she was playing with her feet and smile at me but with two hours she just felt slept 4 ever without being sick,carring her to the hospital with a big hopes dat she still alive but it was over sometimes I asked why why it because I could b a good mother to her or I'm a big sinner why God?

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Maria - posted on 02/13/2014

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Shauna I feel your pain. I lost my beautiful daughter Linda 20 months ago. She died suddenly on her birthday. I didn't even have chance to say goodbye. Linda was 27 and my first daughter. I have two beautiful daughters who I love dearly but I miss my Linda every single day. There is so much that I want to tell her but I can't. I write to her and every month I send her balloons on the sixth. No matter how many children you have nothing is the same when you lose a child. I am on lexapro and it does help a little. But there is a hole in my heart that can never be filled. I feel your pain but my therapist said pay attention to those who are here and hold your angel in your heart. But my heart is empty and I feel bad for you.

Angels - posted on 01/17/2014

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:( I thought reading simular story's would help me greave but seems makes it harder hearing heartbreaking story's from wonderful people who deserve better - my first child was still born at full- term on the 9th of January 2014 - we had no indications of any problems - she was kicking me all night as I spoke to her - was ment to the be best day of my life , instead it turned into a nightmare after waiting so patiently - take care people - kiss your family daily and tell em you love them daily

LADAPLIN WAR - posted on 12/29/2013

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My 37 year old daughter,Bajop, passed away on 30th January 2013 leaving a six year old daughter. We spent the last three months together when her condition turned critical and then she died. It was heartbreaking and i still cry every time I remember her- a small item or a piece of her belongings reminds me so much of her. I cannot help crying. One thing I do to divert my mind and channel my time and resources is by.taking care of the less fortunate around me- feeding, clothing ad loving them. I feel so much relieved and I could feel love filling up my heart.This helps!

Kerri Gene - posted on 12/09/2013

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I feel your pain. I am so sorry for your loss. All you want to do is hear her name and talk about her but for some reason no one wants to say much. This is what I don't understand. I lost my daughter 4 years ago. She was born the first day of Spring, March 20, 2009. She lived 11 minutes I had a pre mature son who was born April 13, 2000. He weighed 2 pounds. He has many challenges. Today he is 13. Jaelynn was 1 pound and the dr's did nothing to resuscitate her. I miss my daughter so much, and I have so much sadness. It's okay to feel this way. Don't let anyone tell you different. Grieving is not an 8 step process that so many have shared with me. You will go through all the steps in your own time, over and over again. Getting through each day will be minute by minute. Congratulations on the birth of your son. Jaelynn was my last. My husband and I are not going to try, which makes me sad but one thing I do know and It helps me that when I look at my son Elijah who is 13 I remind myself as I look at him and see just a little resemblance of Jaelynn in him and that makes me smile. So look at your son and know that your little girl is a part of your precious boy. Thanks for letting me share. I am hurting too especially around Christmas. Many blessings to you and please take one day at a time. I have also thought that it gets better as years go by. It's been 4 years now and there is still an ache in my heart, and again it's okay.

Krystal - posted on 12/05/2013

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its very hard but cry when you want and laugh and smile when you feel her present. Talk to her she is your angle watching over you ! Always will you have those days where you feel lost but its normal . I've been going through the same thing. But just think she is in a happier place and okay...

Beverly - posted on 09/20/2013

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its been a year and some change for me since my three year old daugther past and i really dont have any encouraging word but be strong and love your brand new bundle of joy it will never be the same but you can make something new for you and your new bring and by saying that know she looking down on you and her new brother or sister and she loves you both no matter what and she has no worrys or grief against you if you ever need to talk contact me and well talk cuase i need someone to talk to as well and i know what your going thru . god bless you and know he loves you

Linda - posted on 09/10/2013

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My heart goes out to all of you.. My 20 yr old daughter passed going on 9 months ago .. My heart is empty without her. When I look at her pictures I at times can't believe she is no longer with me .. I miss her more and more every day

Shauna - posted on 09/04/2013

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My daughter was 6 weeks I had her in dec of 05 and lost her 6 weeks later.

Marianka - posted on 08/31/2013

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My little baby girl just passed 2 weeks ago. I could spend 9 months with her and then only 10 days after she was born. 10 days...she was healthy, strong baby, surrounded by loving family, she had her life in front of her, but she passed away. All of sudden. No warning. SIDS...but I don't believe the diagnosis and will always blame myself. She was in my arms, I kept her in a baby wrap, I used to use with all of my kids and she stopped breathing. If she was in a stroller...or out of the wrap...I might help her. She was so quiet, warm, peaceful, she looked like she was sleeping as usual and I didn't notice, she is not breathing anymore. I was walking with her in my arms and she was dead, right by my heart...I love her so much. Please somebody, get back time and let me help her...please...

Yvonne - posted on 08/26/2013

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We lost our younger daughter a month ago who drowned while taking swimming lessons in summer camp (those SOB !). She was 4.5 years old. The pain is too much to bear. I don't know how I can live the rest of my life. I have tons of photos and videos of her on my computer and on my phone, I usually spend 5 minutes looking at them and then take a long walk in tears.

Paula - posted on 08/23/2013

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it wil be 1 year 13 /9/2013 that my daughter passed away, she would of been 32
I feel the same way as you...

Amanda - posted on 08/21/2013

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How would you feel if the pain was not there? You would feel guilty... at least that's how I feel sometimes when I don't feel anything at all. I feel as though the pain is what keeps me alive, I would be dead without emotion and what other emotion more appropriate in the loss of your most precious gift? It's a balancing act, the pain will not diminish, but hopefully you can learn to even out the scale, and learn to love just as hard as you hurt; to laugh just as much as you cry; for every sad thought, balance it with a good thought. Its hard work to balance this, its the hardest work you will ever do now in your entire life. Embrace this path, it was somehow meant for you... embrace it knowing you hurt and she is in an amazing place where fairies are real, where the sun never sets, where time does not exist so she is not waiting, but rather just BEING.... BEING happy, being loved, and being divine. Grab that pain and feel it, feel it fully. Like exercising your muscles at the gym, learn to control it, and at designated times that you are ready for the slap, let it in.... 150% let it in and let it bring you to your knees and cry from that deep place you never knew existed in your soul. Then pick yourself up, for her. Throw your middle finger in the air, and keep going. Dont expect anything from your new child, especially don't hold your breath that he/she will replace any hole that is there, but let that baby have his/her own space.

Paula - posted on 08/20/2013

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don't think the pain ever goes away or we get over it, just gets softer
I think of my daughter every day its going to be a year next month

JANIS ANN - posted on 08/20/2013

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SHAUNA, HONEY, I LOST A CHILD THREE YEARS AGO, TOO, HIS NAME WAS JAMIE, AND I STILL MISS HIM DEARLY, BUT I HAVE THREE OTHER KIDS AND TWO ON THE WAY, I KNOW THE FEELING OF WANTING TO CALL THAT PERSON'S NAME AND THEY AREN'T THERE, OR HAVING DINNER AND HE ISN'T AT THE TABLE WITH HIS TWO BROTHERS AND SISTER, IT STILL MAKES ME SAD, AND AT TIME I CRY BECAUSE I GET DEPRESSED AND DOWN, I SOMETIMES BLAME MYSELF SAYING '' YOU SHOULD HAVE RAN '' OR '' YOU COULD HAVE TAKEN BETTER CARE OF YOURSELF, AND BECAUSE OF IT, JAMIE IS DEAD AND IT'S YOUR FAULT '' I TELL M MOM '' OH, MOM, IT'S MY FAULLT JAMIE DIED, IT'S TRUE, I'M NOT A GOOD MOTHER, AND I WASN'T CUT OUT TO BE ONE, I'M NOT A FIT MOTHER FOR MY KIDS '' MY MOM SAYS TO ME '' OH, IN WHOSE EYES, NOT MINE, YOU DIDN'T ASK TO BE BRUTALLY RAPED AND SODOMIZED, IT JUST HAPPENED, THERE WAS NOTHING YOU COULD DO TO GET AWAY FROM THEM, YOU KNOW THAT, YOU ARE A TERRIFIC MOTHER, HONEY '' I WOULD SAY THE FIRST PERSON YOU TALK TO IS YOUR FAMILY, THEY CAN SUPPORT YOU IN ANY WAY THEY CAN, IF IT DOESN'T HELP, SEE A THERAPIST, HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO HELP YOU WITH YOUR GRIEF, I KNOW IT WORKED FOR ME

Thomas - posted on 08/19/2013

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Glenda Hoff
My birthday is March 7th ! My daughter died on Nov.6, 2009 She was 16 yrs young She developed the same fatal conditions due to the onset of the H1N1 influenza. Came down with mild flu symptoms on Tues. and passed away 3 days later on Fri. She was so vibrant, so healthy her doctor said she will be fine no need to worry ! just a little fluid in her lungs. I cannot talk about her with out getting upset not even when I try to speak of the happy or positive memories I just miss her even more. I am left with either not talking or thinking about her which is impossible or crying all the time on the inside cause no one really wants to hear about it anymore !

Thomas - posted on 08/14/2013

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I hope this is acceptable. I am a Dad and tragically my daughter Meaghan suddenly took Ill and quickly was taken from us 4 yrs ago in Nov. I am having one of those days
today and so I found this page. I didn't know where else to turn. I even tried praying very seldom do that anymore. My twin 18 yr old sons and my wife don't or can't talk about it. We all went to a grief counselor for 3 yrs. which helped but life has gotten in the way. My life has crumbled, I am miserable most of the time. Even the daily Meds aren't enough. The best advice I received I still can not do accept and rejoice that she is with God until I do I will be in pain. I hope this helps at least now I know when I am able to do this I will be better.

Vanessa - posted on 07/20/2013

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This helped me i lost my son he was almost 7 and i have another son 3 years younger i had to keep tellin myself that my 3 year old was just as important and he needs me if it was not for him not sure i could have made it

Leeanne - posted on 06/13/2013

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Hi all its been a year since I lost my daughter she was 15 years old. She had been diagnosed with terminal cancer a year before. Our whole family were in shock, denial you name it, how could this happen to us she was soo healthy looking active they are so wrong....I remember the night she passed she was still walking around but she was in pain, so brave she was she tried to hide it the meds, pain relief wasn't working...my baby was feeling tired and cold,,,she was uncomfortable kept tossing and turning...when she fell asleep I lay down to rest and heard her last sigh...oh how that night plays over in my mind...There were alot of things I should've said to her....but, no one thought she'd go that night...I still cry for her I often whisper "I want to see your face hear your voice please tell me you are ok Treena" 'Give me a sign or something'
Am I wishing too hard...People say it gets easier as time goes by...others say it dosen't..I say to myself I should've told her I loved her I didn't that night,,,why?

DeeDee - posted on 06/09/2013

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Today is 6months since my son died. He was and still is my first born. I still cry everyday. I still wish and prayer I will wake up for this horrible nightmare. I know GOD called him home but I continue to have great difficulty with believing GOD needed him more then I needed and want him. His sister has lost her only brother and is so alone without him. I still keep his room closed and do not let anyone in. I just want my son back so badly, I would give almost anything to have him on this earth again.

Ann - posted on 03/11/2013

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When it first happened I didnt get any signs because I was in shock. I was trying to figure how to bring her back. I know it sounds wierd. One night I cried out to the god help me please let me know where my daughter is. Since that night god has been with me. Its hard to explain but if you call out to him he will come.
I cried out oh lord let me hear the sound of the words mom.
My daughter came to me and say Hi mom its me Rochelle.
Most people would think I nuts. But if God made this world he can surely let me talk to my daugher. When I crying its hard to connect its when Im at peace she comes. Has anyone else out there had any signs?

Glenda - posted on 03/09/2013

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One thing for sure - the hurting never goes away. You learn to adjust to each day. Our beautiful daughter passed suddenly Mar 7, 2011 from influenza that led to PVL MRSA with necrotising pneumonia. It's been devastating for myself, my husband and our 18 yr old son. She was about a month away from her 15th birthday. To add to our devastation, about 7 months later her closest friend, who was like a daughter to us, died in a car accident. Honestly I've learned your only option is to take each day as it comes to you. I relive the event of our daughter's death Mon-Fri every week of the year as I step through the doors of the hospital where she was being cared for & go to my office. My best advice is to remain strong and surround yourself with people that are only positive. Talk about her as often as you need too but try and keep the conversation & stories positive. Others really do care about you but they have no idea what you are going through. It's so easy to alienate others because they are uncomfortable. They don't know it's ok to talk about her. They don't understand how much you need to keep her memory alive. Do positive things to remind you of her. My husband, son and I took a season to build a large pond/raised flower bed in our front yard. It includes stepping stones she made as well as stones & objects that remind us of her, her best friend & our other family. We will continue to add to it as the years go by. I also did something completely outside of my character - had a tattoo, I designed, placed on my upper right shoulder. It is a cross that includes Leasha's name, her friend's name, our son's name and the initials of almost 30 of the girls closest friends that still stay in touch with us today. This way I carry them all with me everywhere I go. As you can see, how you choose to relate to the horror of losing a child will directly reflect on how you are able to cope with the loss. I send strength & prayers to you and everyone else on here that suffers from the loss of a child. If anything - know you are not alone :)

Leann - posted on 03/06/2013

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I lost my daughter almost years and still tear up. I have living children but I still have a huge hole. I tell my friends about her and keep pictures of her around the house. You never get over it, the pain does ease some. The coping becomes easier. I wish I could say more reassuring things. The night my daughter died I knew I would never "get over it." But I am able to laugh, enjoy my family and to move on. Hugs and prayers. LeAnn

Michelle - posted on 03/06/2013

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Linda... I lost my 22 year old daughter two months ago.i like you look for signs everyday. I wonder if they are there but I am looking to hard. I will tell you we have a cat bc that we have had for 14plus years and never does this cat meow. The very day my daughter was killed he sat in her room and cried. I got up to check on him and I immediately began to wonder why Megan had not returned from her run. Shortly after we were notified. He still about onceaweek will sit in the bathroom and cry. As soon as I go to look in on him he just begins to take a drink from hiswater bowl. A part of me believes that is my sign. I am crushed. To me this right here right now. Is how I will feel the remaining days of my life. I miss her soooooo much. I am sorry I offer no comfort, I just want my Megan back.
Michelle

Kimberly - posted on 01/11/2013

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Hi Linda,
How are you holding up? I lost my precious daughter HeatherAnn august 30, 2012. She turned 26 that day. Yes she died on her birthday. I understand how you feel. My daughter and i were very close, so her death hit me badly. i too look for those signs. When she first passed, I think it was 2 days later, I heard a banging, boom, boom, boom. It happened like that a couple times, then stopped. the next night I was looking for some pictures of her in my china cabinet, and somethinng, or should i say someone was poking at my right side. I KNOW THEY WERE SIGNS FROM MY HEATHERANN. Here and there I feel her, but not as much as i want to or figured she would let me know she was around. NOT a day goes by that i shed tears for her. I miss my baby so much. you will get signs, dont worry. Just have faith, your daughter will come around. Its just about timing i guess. you have to be ready for it. I got freaked out at first, but realized it was my daughter. and im waiting for another sign. Sometimes when I am crying, I take a deep breath, I let it out slowly, and feel comfort. i truly believe she is holding me during those times. i hope this helps you.

Kimberly - posted on 01/11/2013

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i know a handsome little boy that passed from that when he was 4 yrs old...he would have turned 13 this year....very sad, sorry for your loss

Linda - posted on 01/11/2013

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Hi my name is Linda..Its been 3 yrs since anyone has responded to this sight so I am hoping that is ther still someone out there.....I lost my daughter less than a month ago..infact it was 9 days before Christmas of 2012......I know how she died but I am so very confused on why it had to happene to her..she was only 20yrs old...My heart feels so empty without her..I look all around the house for a sign from her telling me she is ok and at piece...But I feel nothing..I believe in life after death and always did..but to be honest now that I am the one looking for the signs my beliefs are changing...Is this normal ????? If there is anyone that can help please do....

Linda - posted on 01/11/2013

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Hi my name is Linda..Its been 3 yrs since anyone has responded to this sight so I am hoping that is ther still someone out there.....I lost my daughter less than a month ago..infact it was 9 days before Christmas of 2012......I know how she died but I am so very confused on why it had to happene to her..she was only 20yrs old...My heart feels so empty without her..I look all around the house for a sign from her telling me she is ok and at piece...But I feel nothing..I believe in life after death and always did..but to be honest now that I am the one looking for the signs my beliefs are changing...Is this normal ????? If there is anyone that can help please do....

Linda - posted on 01/11/2013

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Hi my name is Linda..Its been 3 yrs since anyone has responded to this sight so I am hoping that is ther still someone out there.....I lost my daughter less than a month ago..infact it was 9 days before Christmas of 2012......I know how she died but I am so very confused on why it had to happene to her..she was only 20yrs old...My heart feels so empty without her..I look all around the house for a sign from her telling me she is ok and at piece...But I feel nothing..I believe in life after death and always did..but to be honest now that I am the one looking for the signs my beliefs are changing...Is this normal ????? If there is anyone that can help please do....

Rebecca - posted on 01/04/2013

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here is a poam in loving memory pancho rodriguez jr 12-14-99 to 1-10-2002 rhabdomayosarcoma , ill lend to you for a little time a child of mine ,he saidfor you to love while he lives,mourn for him while he is dead.it may be six or seven years,or twenty two or three but willl you tell i call him back ,take care of him for me? ill bring his charms to gladden you and should his stay be brief youll have his lovely memorie as solance for your grief,i cant promise he will stay sence all from earth returns,but there is lessons taught down there i want this child to learn,i looked the world over in search for teachers true and from the throngs that crowd lifes lanes i selected you now will you give him all your love and not think the labor vain,nor hate me when i call and take him back again? i fincied that i heard them say, dear lord,thy will be done for all the joy thy child shall bring,the risk of grief will run well shelter him with tenderness well love him while we may,and for the happiness weve known forever grateful stay but should the angels call for him much sooner than we planed well brave the bitter grieg and try to understand. i hope this helps

Kimberly - posted on 12/29/2012

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rita how would i start that...i got on this site accidently, but i respond to certain circles...especially this one...kimberly

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A page, not a site. It's a page someone would put up for their living child. To tell cute stories, post photos, etc. I never agreed for that page to be set up. If you do a search of your daughter's name on the Circle of Moms site, it might also come up. When it happened to me, I was confused, and then appalled.

Vanessa Bright - posted on 12/20/2012

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You never get over it Shauna,my daughter Ayesha,died in 2007 aged 10 she was my only child,and only family i had,she died to medical failures,it never ever goes away,what people say that time is a healer,is very untrue,you learn in time to have to make the best life for yourself,adapting again,and believe me,it is not easy, If i can help you in any way,then you are more than welcome to email me back . Vanessa x sorry for your loss too

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I have to take life one hour at a time now. Maybe it's more like one minute at a time. I agree, peace is an impossibility, now. People just don't get it. They whine and complain about the most trivial things. I listen, and just wonder how they can be so petty around me? They know what I've lost. Do they think the pain will just fade away? That my daughter will become a dim memory, and that it will just stop hurting so much? Sometimes, I just want to shake people!



Today, I discovered that Circle of Moms automatically created a cute little page about my daughter, as if she's alive. It's an unbelievable oversight on their part, to have that feature programmed into their site. I'm blown away.

Tlconner - posted on 12/10/2012

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I lost my beautiful daughter 7 years ago this month, she was only 18 and always healthy.

I received a phone call from her friends mom on a Friday morning a,little before 9:00 a. m.

Said she was sick so I took her to the hospital, thought she might have a severe case of the flu

She was talking to me on the way. I went back to work called and checked on her and received the most devastating news of my life, when I called the nurse your daughter is very, very, ill.

I rushed to the hospital, and was pulled in the doom room by the Dr and told she had PPH.

A lung disorder that affects I in three million people a year from what I have been told and read.

My daughter was life flighted to a larger hospital that specializes in heart and lung transplants,

Her only hope - she was still talking to me and being herself the way, i watched her body symptoms and beautiful, always healthy body showing symptoms of shutting down.

The Drs were even perplexed , she was still talking to me and completely clear headed the whole time, then while we were talking Sunday morning it happened , I still can't share all the details with any one even my husband as I was alone with her there . She was gone that Sunday almost 48 hours later. I still can't get past losing her, I lost my footing and can't find a way to deal with this, my mom was my only sense of comfort and I lost her a year later to breast cancer. There were no drugs found in my daughters system either , the team of Drs were even in shock as this was so, so, so, rare as they put it. I will never have any peace again, it just makes no sense.

Kimberly - posted on 10/01/2012

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sorry about your loss...my daughter Heather just died august 30, 2012..She died on her birthday at the age of 26 yrs. i am soooo lost without her..my heart is aching and feels so empty...i have two sons, but they are not my daughter...we did so much together, even argued..i would take the argueing over and over to have her back..people that have had children died, yold me it evenyually gets easier to deal with the pain..i dont know how that is true, but they experienced what you are going through...i hope you get the peace you deserve...congratulayion on the birth of your son...all i can say is go day to day Shauna, and appreciate the time you have with your son....you know how precious time is...if you need an ear just to listen, my email is kimbie.kat2@verizon.net

Ann - posted on 09/14/2012

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I love this Poem

I miss my Rochelle God took her in her sleep No cause She was 30

God saw u getting tired So he put his arms around u & whispered come with me. With tearful eyes, we watched & saw you pass away. Although we love you dearly, we could not make you stay. A golden heart stopped beating, hard working hands at rest, God broke our hearts to prove to us he only takes the best. Put this on your status if there is someone in heaven u will miss this Christmas

Leann - posted on 06/22/2011

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i so feel your pain. i kept having kids to try to fill the void but nothing ever helped. i love my subsequent kids but 23 years later it still kills me. heather was so dear, precious and i was so in love with her. i will never recover from the loss of her.

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i know how you feel i lost my daughter feb 06 and everyday i feel so empty like there is a big hole that needs to be filled ,i sit and think what she would look like in her uniform cos she would be starting school ,i go to her garden and that brings a little relief cos i like to talk to her butfor me it has got easier to not cry everyday abouut my beautiful angel but its still as hard as it was when we lost her,but there is one thing i know is that she would not want her maamy to be sad ,and i think your daughter would want the same xxxx

Krystal - posted on 10/16/2009

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You can't get over your daugther death its only been 1 year for me and hoildays birthday i certain son she sung. School.I had two before she passed and just looking at them knows that my daugther lives their smile laugh attutide everything i know its there sister. Your daugther may want you to move on but never forget because when i want to cry i know she is looking down at me saying mommy why are you crying don't cry

Brandie - posted on 10/14/2009

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Quoting Donna:

Thank you for your insight I just started to go to church I need to find away to deal with this it's been 7 yrs now I do have good days well more than bad. I want to be open and full of joy cause that's what Sara would want me to be she was soo full of life and didn't let anything get in her way of doing things she wanted to do. And that's what i have to do not worry about anything else but that.



Good for you... Making a closer relationship with god will help you have more understanding. Sara will be so happy for you and your family. God doesn' t want you to be sad. He never tried to make you sad. He has a plan for all of us. Death is something alot of people do not understand. I lost a nephew seven months ago and was the hardest thing Id ever seen my brother and his finace go through. I cried as if the baby was one of my own. I was a newly christian at church and as I grew with christ I began to understand god has a purpose. I brought my brother and his fiance to church with me and the rest of my family and hers too. There is no one else that god would rather see you run to for help and understanding but him. That is awsome. They are still coping of course but it made it much easier for them to have some closure. We may never no why it happened but god does and for us we know he had a plan for Kyle and we accept that and know he is with Jesus and  in our hearts and was loved very much. The pain will never go away but will get easier if you let god come into your heart and do his work. To help you understand and pray he give you the strength to move forward without worrying.

Brandie - posted on 10/14/2009

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You just need to know that you have only lost your daughter physically but she is still with you and will always be. In your heart daily. God has a purpose and know that she is in heaven. Is one of gods little angels. God didn't do it to punish you but because he has a plan. You may not understand that easily but know just know and pray that god help you get some understanding. To be with her one day what you could do to help you and your family cope with and understand more is join a church and get closer to god. He will give you opsticles in your life to see how strong you are and what you can handle. Its easier to know when you have a close relationship with god. To know your baby girl is still with you doing wonderful things up in heaven for god and had the opportunity to step into the glory of heavens. Know that she doesn't have to struggle through sin and life here on earth. But one thing she does know is how much her mommy loves her. And how missed she is but I will tell you that going to church and getting saved and growing a relationship with god she wouldn't be more proud....smile she is still with you...

Debbie - posted on 10/12/2009

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Hi Jennifer. I lost my little girl also, at the age of 16. Just last year Jan 12 08.

I read your post, and i too feel the same way. Each and every day i sit here and think any day now she is gonna walk into this house. I CAN NOT get my brain to kick into reality. I just cant beleive she is gone. Then i sit and wonder maybe the reason i cant beleive she is gone is because she aint !!!! She is right here with me, watching over me, whipping the tears from my eyes each and every night when i go to bed. I beleive my baby girl Kayla will stay with me till we meet again in Heaven. You are alot like me in wany ways..I too was married at the time of my Daughters death. (stepfather) He could not deal with my depression of loseing my daughter. To him i should have gottin over it 6 months after her death. I dont beleive i will ever get over it..she was my baby, my best friend. We are now seperated as well.

I made a website for my daughter Kayla if you wish to veiw it. www.kayla-ludwig.last-memories.com

And Jennifer if you ever need someone to talk to who knows exactly how your feeling, plz add me to msn or feel free to email me. Because i know i would love to have a friend who knows exactly how i feel to talk with. horse_lovers_mom@msn.com

I also have a page on facebook for Kayla . in loving memory of kayla sharron ludwig

Nice to meet you Jennifer my name is Debbie

Jennifer - posted on 10/12/2009

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Donna, she was 18 and she had a loving and forgiving heart. I sit and sometimes wait for her to come in the front door with a big smile and waiting for her to hug me. I lost my husband Aug. 29th but we were split up,I think alot of it was because I cann't get over mymandy's death.

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