I lost my baby, I need help :,(

Adrienne - posted on 06/27/2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my 1st child, a son - Avery Jace, at 34 weeks 2 days (8 1/2 months). In September he would have been 6. My heart and arms ache for him every day. I did go on to have 3 more children. Our rainbow baby (this is what baby who follows a loss is called) was due on her big brother's 1st birthday, but I was induced 1 1/2 weeks prior. A loss regardless of the age is difficult. Something you never get over, but you do somehow end up finding the way to get through each day. My heart and thoughts go out to you and your family. Averyshope.blogspot.com

Love, Adrienne

D'Ann - posted on 06/27/2012

Thank you Daisy

Daisy - posted on 06/27/2012

ever need to talk to someone, let me know. Friday will be really hard for you. Be strong!

Daisy - posted on 06/27/2012

Mine is just a sac too but I still love it. Good luck!

D'Ann - posted on 06/27/2012

I have to have it done on friday... and yes I got the pics, can't seen anything but the sack, but they are the most amazing pictures I have ever had! :'(

Daisy - posted on 06/26/2012

Well you don't actually see your baby. See, at the point that we lost our babies, they were not completely formed to the point where you could see him/her. When you have a DNC they clean you out completely to help with the physical pain of a miscarriage and of course to help with possibly getting pregnant later. I started passing the baby in out toilet at home and finished passing him/her at the hospital. From what my husband says (and believe me when I say this: till this day he refuses to tell me absolutely everything that happened because he knows how hurtful it still is). What passes is basically the tissue that begins the formation of the baby, that is the tissue baby per say. The DNC is to make sure everything has come out of your system. You will be ok. I hope you have an ultrasound to remember your baby by....

D'Ann - posted on 06/26/2012

Thank you Cherish, I will ask.

Daisy, I'm so scared to ever try again, I can't stand the thought of it happening again. It looks like I may have to have a DNC also....that also scares me, what happens to the baby once it is removed? I have googled and googled so much, but I can't find the answers I need,

Daisy - posted on 06/26/2012

Mine was an ectopic pregnancy. I lost my baby at 4wks but did not know up until I thought i was 10 wks and went for an ultrasound. I did not hear a heart beat. I was told I might have lost the baby or sometimes you cant hear the heart early on. I just so happened that the day immediately after my birthday i began with the bad pains and knew it was the inevitable. The even completed a DNC on me. I also thought no one could understand me, not even my husband. He did not seem emotional and said we could try again. Later though, after much time, he explained that he did not know how to show me and did not want to show me because one of us had to be strong. All I will say is everything happens for a reason. The day I was supposed to have that baby, I found out I was pregnant again. He is now 5 yrs old. After him I got pregnant again and miscarred early on. About a year or so after I got pregnant again with a girl. TO date, I have: misscariage, 5 yr old boy, miscarriage, 2 yr old girl, and now a 2 month old boy. It DOES get better. Just takes time. It is something you will never forget but also something from which you will move on. Remember that you still have a daughter and husband to live for and be happy with.

Cherish - posted on 06/26/2012

Here is info on a blighted ovum.
Call your OB and just ask them if that is what it was...I had to ask mine,she did not tell me before I asked her
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnan...

D'Ann - posted on 06/25/2012

Is there any way the dr can tell if it was a blighted ovum?

Cherish - posted on 06/25/2012

Hey,
I had a blighted ovum(which is what it sounds like you had),I was 15 weeks preg with nothing...
A blighted ovum is a "failed miscarriage",the pregnancy usually get reabsorbed before people even know they are preg,but w/the blighted ovum your body "missed" the signal.
It happens with preg that would probably be non viable anyhow.

I lost my first baby at 24 weeks,(he was about a pound)so when I have had failed preg,early on,yes it sucks but I do not trip about it.I know your sad but something was probably "wrong" with the preg to begin with.There is no reason to think that it will happen again.

You said you have a healthy 2 yr old right?My youngest is 10 has classic autism,he does not talk,is not potty trained,he has type 1 diabetes,seizures,aprixia,hyptonia,SIB,SPD,NR..etc

It know it sucks for you right now but you should really try to focus on what you DO have