I was 31 weeks and I lost my little Angel Adam

Joaris - posted on 01/30/2012

Thank you very much!! I just wish my husband realizes we should try to have another baby again.... It will make things easier... but he's not open at all to give another try soon. Only God knows when is goinh to be my time. Thank you for the prayers.... Well appreciated, I need them! Love, Joaris

Dawn - posted on 01/30/2012

Oh Joaris, I can feel every bit of it. I was the first one my daughter called when she got the call that her baby's heart beat couldn't be found. I don't think I will EVER forget the sound in her voice. Your stories are almost identical. It's not fair, and I understand the feeling of other's using drugs and doing bad things. Why you? I don't know, and I wish I had an answer. I do know that your baby is an angel, as my daughter's two sons are as well. She lost two. Kaden, and Levi. Both at the same time as you did. First one at 30 weeks, and the second at 29 weeks. Her second lived for a week and passed. My prayers and my thoughts are with you and reading your story helped me. Knowing there are other's who go through the same thing. I will pray for your son. I can't send enough sorry's. I am not over the pain, and loss, and not sure it will ever go away, but they say there is a reason for everything. I hope we all find that reason. Sending love, Dawn

Stasha - posted on 01/25/2012

It won't hurt forever, but the sadness will be there. It eases though. I also lost my daughter in the same manner. I was 23 weeks pregnant when I went in for my routine checkup. It was August 13 2010 ( yes it was Friday..but I'm far from superstitious), and they couldn't find a heartbeat. My doctor at the time didn't think anything of it and said the baby could be hiding. They did an ultrasound and there she was..so peaceful and no heartbeat. To be honest, the Lord had prepared me for it because the day before, I know something was wrong. I felt it. Though life went on, my husband and I still ached. It did make it worse that all of our friends were pregnant. 5 months later we got pregnant with our sweet little boy. Even then you go through emotions. I was nervous my whole pregnancy, and when he was born, I grieved for two weeks over his sister. It's easier now. I have her ultrasound pic in his nursery, and I talk to her when I'm rocking him while he is sleeping. If you do have another one, here will be the tough part. People will ask if this is your first. I always say firstborn, second baby. You might also get upset during your pregnancy with your parents and in laws. My parents were sensitive during this time. They were excited, but always acknowledged our daughter. My in laws on the other hand, did nothing but talked about our son, like I had never been pregnant. This actually hurt my husband more. Other than that, I promise, it does get better. Having faith and knowing that God knows exactly what he is doing makes it easier. Be strong, and let yourself grieve anyway that helps you move on.

Joaris - posted on 01/03/2012

Thank you!!! I know im just going through so much!! Is really hard to understand life sometimes.... There are days that I feel very positive but some other days I feel like everything happened yesterday. I know is part of the process but is very hard to see how all the suddenly I find pregnant womens everywhere I go. It makes me feel hopeless.... I decided to wait to have babies for now because that was what my husband decided but I still hope to have a miracle of life in my life again like Adam was in my life.... and is true that is good to talk about what happens. Sometimes i think it will hurt me to talk about it but it doesnt! I guess im scared to show people im in pain, i think i did hide my feelings a lot because of that. I didnt want to make people feel sorry or upset for me. Even with my husband. Im still working on it, maybe i dont realize it will always hurt. But i do pray a lot, i think im closer now to him. Is good to know about this page where we all understand each other. Thank u very much!

Tammy - posted on 01/03/2012

I am so sorry for your loss! I wish I could change things for you and give you your baby back. 2 years ago I lost a baby girl just 9 days before her due date. The doctors said there was a twist in her chord right at her naval where it is soft and pliable. They told me it was a fluke and there was nothing they or I could have done to prevent it. I was in shock at what was happening I knew God could have prevented it but didn't because of his plans for our lives. Evalyn Rose is what we named her she was my fourth child. I tried to look at her death as a sacrifice to greater things in our life and I pray that through her death my family is closer to God and we never forget how precious and short our life is here on earth. The hospital was very helpful and they gave me good resources on planning a precious good bye and books on grieving. We had a full funeral for her and I am very happy about that. We also were blessed to have a very supportive family and Church family. I hope you have a good support team surrounding you at this time. I know nothing anyone says or does can take your pain away and that the tears seem to come like a water fall at times. I understand how you feel about seeing people at this time. Its sad but life goes on no matter what your going through and people who saw you while you were pregnant are going to ask you about your newborn for maybe up to a year depending how often you see everyone. You wont be able to avoid it. It was helpful for me to talk about her and her death. I had guilt for a long time, I thought it was my fault she was dead. It took saying my thoughts to people 3 times before the pain seemed to subside. I encourage you to talk to people about Adam and his death and your feelings. There is great therapy through talking. I had a picture that helped me it said "Hope" Rejoice in our suffering, suffering produces perseverance, perseverance-character, and character hope. Romans 5:3 I was surprised at how many people I talked to who have lost either a baby or a child and had stories of their own. I think God designed us to be here for each other to help and grieve with each other. Please dont keep it all in at least keep a journal of your thoughts good and bad its all a process of healing I wish I could help you more! Just know time really does ease pain but please allow yourself time to heal and grieve and dont ever feel guilty about how you feel and please dont blame any one for too long because that will not help you heal. We will forever have a piece of our hearts with our babies and that is a very precious gift. God Bless you !

Yomaira - posted on 12/21/2011

these happen on augs 9, 2011 4 mouths ago

Yomaira - posted on 12/21/2011

hey name is yomaira awwww i read what happen to you I known how you feeling and the pein insaid of you i felt the same way ... but god knows why and he have his reson for everthing in this wlord ..my baby die of a left sided congenital diaphragmatic hernia .. i gave birth to him at home but that day i was in the hosptal with painand they sand me home and 6 hours later i have labor at home i was 7 mouth only i just can belive it my baby was moveing in said me all this time in my belly ..and went we got to the hostpal my baby boy die i did not know what was worng with him noooo dcotrs did not say nothing to me about my baby .....i was going to be born on oct but it come on aug 9 he pass way just 1 mit of life .... but like say god only kns way i love him with allll my heart ... and alwasyyy thanks god i have 3 more with me he wloud be my 4 baby ... in have 2 girls and 1 boy i was so happy to have him in life that somethims i say wayy to me .i just miss him allto . he is my angle for ever love you jencarlos god bless you muh