Identical twins stillborn

Kristal - posted on 11/17/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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hi there,
Just wondering if anybody has experienced what i am trying to deal with.
I lost my twin boys on 13.08.2010 at 32 weeks when i was booked in to have them the next week, I just need to hear how to deal with this and how too? I have a 2 year old daughter who is my strength right now as my husband has no idea how to deal with this either. Its like our world has been ripped away from us.

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Shannon - posted on 05/12/2011

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Im deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my identical twin daughters Dec 20, 2010. I have started an online support group with chatroom and profiles and groups for twin to twin transfusion syndrome at www.twintwotwinsupport.ning.com I would be more than happy to show you all that I have done and how I have learned how to LIVE again through the greif. I am also in touch with over 100 other moms. Please contact me

A'Kiesha - posted on 02/23/2011

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I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious twins. I will be praying for you and your family. I know the remendous pain you are going through. I lossed my son on Dec. 26, 2010 at one month old after he developed a rare terminal condition.

My best advice for you is to grieve as much you need to in your own way, draw closer to your husband and try to support each other as much as possible, pray a lot, and spend as much time with your beautiful daughter as possible. Also, don't give up and don't lose hope. Cling to the wonderful memory of when you carried your angels. Nothing can ever take that away from you. Your boys will always be a part of your soul and your family.

Also, I find trying to do something in memory of my son helps. Maybe you and your immediate family can have a little ceremony at a park and release a balloon for each off your boys, or write a poem, or maybe your little girl can color a picture for them or help pick out a stuff animal to leave for them.

Try to cling to the unconditional love of your daughter and to your husband and family. When I pray for strength for myself and husband I will pray for strength for you and your family. Remember his will be a long journey but you will get through this some how.

Luann - posted on 02/23/2011

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I lost my indenticle twin boys last tuesday at 27.5 weeks,,,,and am still in the throws of my grief.... my email address is fifiandluludesigns@yahoo.com if you want to email me....its so hard!!!!!!!!!!!!!! -luann

Tara - posted on 11/18/2010

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I am so sorry for you loss. I have lost my son and know how painful that is so twins must be twice as bad. My son was born at 41 weeks one week over due and was alive 19 hours and 40 min. He would be 18 months old now and after I lost my boy I would cry when I needed to cry, tell your husband you love him and hug him and cry together, also give your daughter lots of hugs. There must be a big hole in your heart. When my son passed I would write poems when they came to me and sometimes poems still do and I write them down. Or get a book and write your feeling down. That can be very helpful if a group in town that deals with child loss, or ask friends if they know of someone that has loss a baby or child that live in town that can help you though this. If you want to add me as a friend you can I had 2 friends I found though friends in town that I talked too and 3 out of town friends we still talk sometimes. Feel free to add me as a friend if you need some to talk too. Also remember to eat even if just a little bit of food hugs take care

Lisa - posted on 11/18/2010

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First of all I am so sorry for your loss, its so awful that these terrible things happen .
I didn't lose twins, but my first child (a daughter I named Gracie) was stillborn at 34 weeks in February 2006. I had no warning or anything, one day I noticed I hadn't felt any kicking only to be told that her little heart had stopped beating. It was unimaginable, I thought my world had ended right then.
I've gone on to have 2 beautiful & healthy sons, but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her.
All I can say is just breathe! Take your time to deal with this-cry, scream, & anything else you need to do. Cherish your daughter & talk to your husband-you need to be each others strength. Have some counselling, together if possible or alone if not.
Just take it day by day. You'll never forget your boys but one day things will get easier & you'll be able to enjoy life again.
My thoughts are with you & your family. Good luck for the future.

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