Rachel - posted on 05/01/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hey guys. I had a late termination at 24 weeks in august 2007 as our baby was too poorly to survive-he had many problems.in august 2008 we had a little girl who is now 9 months old, and in end of may start of june this year we are expecting another boy. It was hard getting through my pregnancy with Sophie after what happened with Sean in 2007, but this time, as we are expecting a boy again I am having some issues with feeling like we're replacing the baby we couldn't keep. I didn't feel so messed up when i was pregnant with sophie.
I still have all of Sean's clothes but it doesn't feel right letting the new baby wear them and as we got to see sean and spend time with him after he was born, Im a little freaked out that the new baby's gunna arrive n look the same as him. Im even having nightmares about it. I want to be a good mum to the new baby but I feel guilty about having another boy :-/ and struggling to come to terms with having a boy in less than a month!
Has anyone else gone through anything similar and had similar feelings? How did you cope?