Its been 2 years since my son died (on November 10,2006), and i have a newborn baby girl and just wondering how do you celebrate when you still finding it hard to celebrate after the death?

Greta - posted on 03/09/2009

It just takes time. But things do get eaisier. After 7 years, I can now think of my girls and smile, and I am greatful for the time that I had them with me. I know that I was bleesed to have them that long. They were just on loan from heaven.

Jen - posted on 03/07/2009

I also lost a son(July 2005) and have a 21 month old daughter. It is hard to cope with the loss,however, I find that losing Aidan has helped me appreciate Kylee more. I cherish every milestone she reaches,as well as, give her the extra hugs,kisses and love I would of given her brother. Nothing can bring him back,but, realize and focus on the precious gift you were given to raise-your beautiful daughter!!

Mandy - posted on 03/04/2009

Hi Stacy

My Name is Mandy my son passed away at the age of 9 months in 2002. I have two beautifull kids a son 6 and daughter 4. They say in time it get's better and in a way it does. Just remember that your new baby will never replace but will help to fill the emptyness. A second and third child is givven to let you know life goes on even if you feel there is no need. Be strong love your new baby and enjoy every moment with her

Liza - posted on 03/03/2009

Life goes on and now you have a new baby to focus all of your attention to.  Having my now 4 year old son helped me fill that void, that longing to hold a child.  You never forget and we go out to eat a special dinner on his birthday and light a candle

Liza - posted on 03/03/2009

Hi, I am new here too.  It has been 6.5 years since my son Wyatt has died. He was born at 24 weeks and lived 6 weeks fighting like a true hero.  We made the decision to pull him off of life support because his organs were failing.  He died in my arms the first time I ever held him.  We now have a 4 year old son who is our life.  He also came early but only 6 weeks. 

Jill - posted on 01/27/2009

I found it easier to do something to remember my baby by doing something for myself. I dedicated a star in her name through the internet, and now I have a certificate and a picture of that star. I have a bear with her name on it,and a garden stone with her name and a poem. Yes,I know I am collecting things around my house with her name on it,but when I moved out of state where her grave is in another,the things around me help me honor her. I love the idea of letting a balloon go into heaven,I think doing that on your child's anniversary date or even at your other child(s) birthday party would be helpful for you as well. Another thing I do is buy a gift or donate clothes and other baby stuff to the local mother's shelter or family planning. That way I feel like I helping another woman's child and that makes me smile.

Samantha - posted on 01/24/2009

My daughter was a week old before what would have been my other daughters first birthday. I always celebrate my new daughter, they deserve it. We send a balloon every year to heaven on my first daughters birthday....we always need to celebrate our kids, we know how precious they are no room for guilt...

Amanda - posted on 11/18/2008

omg she is so beatiful!!!!! i had my baby at 20wks and he died a couple of minutes after he was born. i had my daughter a yr later and i found i had alsorts of emotions about my new baby but i realised how lucky i was to have her and to be able to hold her and i realised that my son is in a better place and is at peace and even thou iv had more childrn its ok because he is still with me every day in my heart and my soul and he always will be . you have a beautiful baby girl celebrate her dont feel bad your son is with u every day in your heart your soul and your mind it will get better gd luck and all the best

Melanie - posted on 11/13/2008

Two years ago today my daughter Kate had a liver transplant. Her first of two, and her first of 6 surgeries in 10 days. She died at six weeks on Nov. 25th, 2006. I too am really sad today, it is one of those days. I often go to the cemetary when I feel like this, and I went this morning. I always make a point, when I get back in the car, to look at my four cherubs in the back seats. God has given me so much, at the first anniversary of her death, I had newborn twins. I will always have her in my heart, and I know she is with Jesus. These guys need us now, and truth be told, we need them. God has given them to us. You just hit your second anniversary, this is a sad time for you so in that, allow yourself time to grieve. But then look at your beautiful precious daughter, praise God and in her life, celebrate. I think you can do both...sometimes even at the same time. I think it will get easier, although our beloved children will never be far from us.

Sara - posted on 11/13/2008

I lost a little boy when I was about 22 weeks pregnant. I went in for my regular monthly checkup and there was no heartbeat. The placenta had tore and I didn't even know it. I had to be induced and go through 9 hours of labor to have a stillborn little boy. Since then I have had another miscarriage and have given birth to a baby girl. I have 4 living children and 2 that have gone to be with the Lord. It is hard,but God will give you the strength!!

Charlotte - posted on 11/12/2008

Totally understandable, but don't miss the miracle and the moments you have with your new daughter. i've lost 3 children and i have 3 living children. i lost twins who were born to early and then i lost a son (one of triplets) who were also born early. seth, chad, and shaun will always be in my heart. they aren't missing out on anything. i'm missing out on them, but i know i'll be with them one day. right now i have 3 kids whom i adore, just as much as the ones i lost. if i think of what i lost and focus on that, these 3 will miss out on what they need. i miss my 3 boys, but they aren't missing me... they're complete in God's arms. hard to think of it like that, but that's the reality. i can't wait to see them again (but not too soon, i want to be hear for the 3 that are with me)

Kathryn - posted on 11/12/2008

I lost my son, Jacob to Trisomy 18 February 6, 1996. Our doctor told us to wait at least 6 months before trying again. 3 months later we discovered I was pregnant. Rachelle was born on February 13, 1997, one year and week after Jacob. It was so hard as we were not ready for another baby. My husband worked a lot and I was left to take care of a new baby when my heart was still aching from losing Jacob's loss. I took comfort in knowing that he no longer suffered and was being raised by God. He was here for the amount of time he was supposed to be. Each of my 4 living children have their very own angel. You need to take one day at a time and stop to enjoy all you still have in your life.

Rain - posted on 11/12/2008

It's been 2 years and 4 months (July 12, 2006) since Oscar died. He was 5 years old. My daughter is now 6 months old. The holidays are coming and every day is happy and sad. I thank all that is good on this earth that I have this amazing little girl in my arms and just holding her and telling her stories about her brother brings me to tears and laughter. I just hold her twice as long and love her enough for two children. How do I celebrate? My husband and I talk about him and wonder what he would be doing, what he would have liked for Christmas...we don't leave him out of our hears or lives or voices. We celebrate the time we did have him and love our memories of him. Yes we cry. Yes we get overwhelmingly sad. We are also joyful and continue to live. Every day I get a little stronger and I know I'll survive this too.

Sarah-Jayne - posted on 11/12/2008

I have to say, she is beautiful as well! I lost my first son in June 2003 when he was 2 months old. Since then I have had 2 more son's who I adore. I still think of my first son every day and still get tearful when I think of him or talk about him, but at the same time, I am so grateful for my 2 sons that are here now. My eldest is now 4 and he often talks about his brother and asks me about heaven. It is so hard, but they will always be a part of your like. Celebrating the birth of your new daughter isn't wrong, it just makes you more grateful than most. You will never forget your son, but your daughter needs you too. Treasure every moment with her. Take care xxx

Loretta - posted on 11/12/2008

Your baby girl is so beautiful! I found that the hardest time was the first few years after the death of my child. I felt that my new baby 'got the short end of the stick' because she was born when I was still in mourning. I did not feel like celebrating, and yet I was very fearful that I may lose her too. It seemed to take forever for the physical pain to go away. But it does alleviate, you will never forget that one of your babies are missing in your life. Sometimes, you just need to force yourself to go through the motions of celebrating, until it is no longer a chore to do it.

It has been quite awhile since I lost my daughter in a car accident. My loss no longer overwhelmes me nor does the pain hurt so bad. Although I am now blessed with two daughters and two sons, who give me so much joy, I still have a small empty spot in my heart for my little girl. There will always be a sadness for my precious little baby.

My only advice is, to remember that your little girl deserves the same mother that her brother had.

I hope that I don't sound too harsh to you, it comes from a talk I had with myself when my new baby was born and I was feeling the way you are feeling now. My heart goes out to all of you, that are going through what I went through.

Cindy - posted on 11/11/2008

I lost one of my twins the day after he was born. Born at 24 weeks. It's hard to go on ....and there is not a day that i don't think about him.... but you have a beautiful baby girl that needs her mommy...Knowing that your son is watching over his sister...is your hope and your light....You have a right be be happy....and you have a lot of life left to gave enjoy her .... Time.....

Sherry - posted on 11/11/2008

I lost my son Eric in Feb 2006. My new son Jesse will turn 1 on thurs. You celebrate because life HAS to go on. I think of Eric all the time. It never fades and and I constantly wonder what he would have been like at Jesse's age. But Jesse is such a joy and I feel a special gift that I cant do anything BUT celebrate his life. Just think of your son as your special angel. He looks upon you and his sister. Remember that one day, you will be reunited.

Stephanie - posted on 11/11/2008

I lost my son in 1997 and had my 3rd son in 98. It was hard o be joyous and i was so scared. I lost my baby boy to sids. I sat up every night with my new baby, and enjoyed every minute of watching him sleep. I looked at it as God giving me my angel on Earth.

Tracy - posted on 11/11/2008

She s beautiful!! I lost my son March 13,2001. He was 6 hrs. old. He had a congentital heart defect that they knew about before he was born... I had my daughter a yr later It is hard to try to be joyous, but remember they are in a much better place then us. They are always looking down on us. I still have my times that I wish I could hug him on more time. You can hug your daughter instead and just know how blessed you are to have such a beautiful angel. Good luck it does get alittle better to cope with. Best of luck and she is a beautiful little girl.