Mommies of SIDS babies

Olga - posted on 11/08/2009 ( 48 moms have responded )

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My son Sergio Alexander Bunda Shevlyakov passed away on October 7th, 2009 from SIDS. He was 6 weeks and 5 days old. I just want to meet people who been through thois and willing to talk about it... maybe we can help each other..it sooo terrible... its only been one month since he left me...

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Sonja - posted on 11/10/2009

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I feel your pain. I lost my son Jason 31 years ago to SIDS. He was 5 months old and he passed away on my birthday. It is terrible but I am living proof that you can go on. Some days you won't even feel like getting out of bed......Just keep your faith and if you believe and trust in the good lord he will not and has not failed you. I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to. Just to let you know.......you will NEVER forget your son he may be gone from your sight but he's in your heart forever. Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

Gloria - posted on 11/27/2009

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Quoting Olga:

oh ladies you are so kind..thank you for sharing your stories and giving me the support...so sorry for your losses as well..God Bless you..and if you ever want to email me and talk olga.shevlyakova0@gmail.com also if you would like to sign my son's memorial or even make your own for your angels LINK: sergio-bundashevlyakov.gonetoosoon.org/


Hello ladies,



My daughter Gloria Grace Salazar passed away Sept. 26th, 1994. She was born on Aug. 4th 1994. She was my smallest baby only 5 lbs 9oz. and she was my 5th child. The first year after losing her was the most difficult for me, I only wish I would have reached out to others like what is done here. This may sound awful but there was a blessing in losing my baby girl to SIDS because my grandmother had also lost a child in the early 50's and she had so much guilt over the loss of her oldest son because she was a young mother. In my research of SIDS, I found some info. to show her that she did not have to feel guilty anymore....she cried with me and thanked me soo much for showing her, she said it was like others forgot about her baby Mario and didn't ever talk about it with her.



Always remember your baby and for us, as a family we would have cupcakes on her birthday and release balloons in remembrance of her going to Heaven. Thank you all so very much for sharing because there are still times even years after her passing that my heart breaks and I always miss her so very much. There were times that my arms ached just to hold her, like I mentioned the first year was very difficult, I would wake up to make bottles for her thinking that she was crying at night, that lasted for a little while but then I realized that it was part of grieving and I got some help later on that year for my depression. Thank you for letting me share, I always say I have 6 children one whom is in Heaven, MY BABY GLORIA.

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Mary - posted on 02/07/2014

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My baby boy was 18months old and only passed away not even two weeks ago due to this awful condition SIDS. At the beginning I just floated through the whole event I have two more daughters 5 and 3, So I had my hands full, but can someone tell me why each day is getting harder not easier, I dont believe time is a healer as such as the pain is too great to heal but I did think Id get stronger however that is not happening, everyday i feel more drained exhausted and lost. Can anyone also advise me on what to do or say to my partner as our communication has totally broken down.
Can anyone answer me why god gives us our little babies just to take them back again, I know god only lends them to us but he could have taken the older generations from all our families and leave our babies here with us.

Jessica - posted on 02/03/2014

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I always worry about my baby. I poke her, feel her chest and jump when she even coughs. I constantly check her to see if she's cold. Sometimes I wake up and freak out if I poke her and he does not move. I can never imagine and hope I never have to endure what everyone here is sharing. I l commend the strength you women have and I also feel your pain from your words. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you find peace somehow. I know I couldn't imagine but I am afraid of just the thought. I don't know how I would go on. You women that can even talk about it are so strong. I wish I could say I hope your pain subsides but I think as with any loss, you just learn to live with the pain. It's hard to give back an angel... Hugs everyone. Big squeezy hugs

Nysweetie2115 - posted on 01/31/2014

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I lost my 18 month old little girl to "SIDS" but I think different I think she had a seizure. She did get frequent fever seizures but this time I don't hear her n she ended up suffercating on her throw up

Robin - posted on 07/02/2013

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I lost my son April 12, 2013. We have not yet been told a cause of death. He was a healthy baby. He was 4 months old. They say probably SIDS but we haven't found out for sure. God has given me so much strength during this time. I turn to him every day server all times a day and He is who helps me. I have other children as well and they deserve for me to be here for them and be a great mom and that's what I have to do!! It's not easy, we aren't suppose to live without any of our babies. But I know I can do ALL things through Christ, who strengthens me!

Kaylee - posted on 07/02/2013

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My name is Kaylee parks I just lost the center of my world my precious angel her name is always to side December 28th 2012 I have no clue what to do without her it just gets worse and worse everyday. Seeing all the other mothers happy with their babies just kills me. I just want my baby back.

Tanisha - posted on 12/30/2012

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Hi my name is Tanisha and I lost my daughter to SIDS on March 21st 2012. I just started looking for a site that I could talk to someone about it because it's coming up on her or what would have been her first birthday. It gets real hard for me on holidays. Out of fear of his pain I don't talk to her father about it because he never got to meet or hold her because he was in across seas at war. Even though he seen her through skype it still hurts. well I think thats all i'm gonna say for now.

User - posted on 07/01/2012

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i have just lost my son to sids is the most awful pain in the world i have no idea wat ill do without im xx

Skylar's - posted on 01/10/2010

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Hi it's Holly from Skylar's Love,

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Love,

Holly

Ali - posted on 01/09/2010

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For those of you whose babies have died from SIDS, my heart aches for you. I've been there and have not forgotten one second of the pain that goes with it. My daughter Josianne Dawn Lauer died in May, 1984. She was almost two months old. I don't say that I "lost" her; I know exactly where she is :)

The best advise I can offer to those of you who have experienced this horrid life-changing thing is to not dwell on what could have been or what would have been. Acknowledge your child, love them, grieve, plant a tree, cry, be angry, talk about them, pull your friends and family close, decorate the grave, talk to them, and cry some more. Let yourself remember, but don't walk through every moment of your life living plans that you might have had. Remember them at Christmas by putting a special ornament on the tree in their honor or light a candle for them. Try not to picture what would have been if they were still with you. Take the time to think about them and celebrate their life, but don't dwell. I dwelled on what could have and should have been and put myself through a year of living hell because I couldn't see my life without my daughter in it. It wasn't until I quit trying to live what wasn't and started living what was that I began to heal. The first steps were so hard. I forced myself to look at pictures, talk about her in the past tense, visit and decorate her grave, and talk to her. A really important thing is that, if you have friends with babies, please please please continue to talk to and see them. It hurts and it's hard for the other parents because they don't know what to say and whether you want to even be around them. They feel guilty because, although they hurt and care so much for you, they are thankful it wasn't their child. Don't let them withdraw from your life. My best friend withdrew from me because she had a baby and it was such a huge mistake that I let it happen. Now, 25 years later, I'm struggling to regain a friendship that meant so much to me and could have helped me through the worst event of my life. Hold your friends and family close to you. You need them.

You're going to feel this forever *smile* BUT the raw consuming heartache will go away. I still cry even after 25 years (I've got tears now) and I don't try to stop them. I never hide them either. I cry, someone asks what's wrong, I tell them I'm thinking about my daughter, and life goes on. There is rarely a day that I don't think about her, but it's now a memory that I cherish instead of a painful one. The funny thing is that I don't think about thinking about her any more. She's just always there in my mind with my other kids. BTW, don't give up on more children. I have two sons who are 14 & 19. Both wore heart monitors until they were 11 months old because I couldn't let them sleep without touching them and I couldn't sleep at all until the monitors were in place. As an FYI, insurance companies will pay for them if an OB deems them necessary.

After years of pain, I've found my peace. I wish that for all of you.

Kathleen - posted on 01/09/2010

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i started to read some of the comments below and memories came flooding back. I lost my son a very long time ago to SIDS. After that my husband and I divorced and i tried to go on. Ater a few years I went back to college and vowed never to go through that kind of pain again.....i wasn't going to have any more children. I didn't want to replace Kristopher and didn't want the pain. That was a long time ago. I graduated from college, had a career, and married a good man. We have three children together and the oldest is going to graduate from high school this year. My youngest is 10. All of my children were on monitors until they were at least 6 months old (mostly for my peace of mind). I look at Kristophers picture often. I don't think you ever get "over" the pain. It's made me a bit crazy at times with my children for fear something terrible will happen to them. I know I couldn't get over another loss like that. I love my children deeply and thank God for the opportunity he has given to me with these three beautiful children.

Shannan - posted on 01/08/2010

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I lost my daughter June of 1977 at the age of 18 months to sids. Please feel free to contact me at my personal email adress if you you want to talk about anything. I kow how difficult this is for you and if I can help in any way pleasse let me know.

Shannan (iamanirishlass@yahoo.com)

KRISTA - posted on 01/06/2010

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MY DAUGHTER JESSICA LAUREANN SENECAL PASSED AWAY DEC 27,01 FROM SIDS SHE WAS BORN APR 25,01 SHE WAS 8 MONTHS AND 2 DAYS OLD I ALSO THINK ABOUT HER EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE SHE IS MY WORLD AND I MISS HER EVERYDAY DURING HER BIRTHDAY AND CHRISTMAS I HAVE THE HAREST TIME OF MY LIFE TRYING TO COPE WITH IT I UNLIKE MOST OF YOU HAVE NOT HARLY EVER HAD ANYONE TO TALK TO OR CHAT WITH SO PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME ANYTIME I NEED MORE FRIENDS TOGEATHER4EVER_2006@YAHOO.COM

Betty Jo - posted on 01/06/2010

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This is just a terrible loss for myself!! It's been 18 years and it still feels like yesterday. My daughter Ashley Born on Sept 5, 1991 and was 2 1/2 months old and the day before she passed away I went to go and vist everyone in the family and the next morning I had found her. I was young and alot of family and friends were there to support me through everything. The police officers were NO HELP to me because of the remarks that they said to me but I got a letter telling me that they were sorry. Over the years everyone told me to have another child and I told everyone even if I did it would never replace my Precious Angel up in heaven. Just keep them close to your heart because I did and it seems easy until those special days and then I break. R I P ASHLEY!!

Lacie - posted on 01/06/2010

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I lost my beautiful little girl to SIDS as well. Her name was KyLeigh and she was 1 day shy of being 4 months old. She was born May 19th 2007 and passed away September 18th 2007. I have a son who was 10 months and 12 days older than her, and now a daughter who was born October 25th 2008. My daughter has filled my empty arms but there is still a piece of my heart that is shattered and missing. It seems to be getting harder for me as the years go by. It was two years in September. Her third Thanksgiving/Christmas in Heaven and none with me. Addison Leigh, her little sister is 14 months old and I still have her on an oximeter at night so I am alarmed if she stops breathing. The fear of losing my children has consumed most of my daily life....I so dearly want her back and thinking of living another 50+ years without her possibly is so frightening.....2yrs has already seemed like an eternity.

Sarah - posted on 01/05/2010

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My daughter, Elayn, died July 8, 2008 she was 3 months 2 days old. I have 2 older sons, and since another daughter, born 1 day after Elayn's first birthday. I was working when she stopped breathing under the care of my step-brother. He was only 15 and I hate to think of the damage I did to him. He was trained for CPR and also called my step-mother who is an RN and they got her to the hospital right away, but she never came back. When I found out I was pregnant again, I never went back to work, and have only recently been able to leave my daughter in her crib alone at night, and use the baby monitor. I can also count the number of times on one hand that I have been away from her since her birth. I understand what these other mothers are saying, you never forget. I randomly find myself crying, and the oddest things will set me off. I live in fear that I am forgetting her. That my 3 short months with Elayn were not enough to commit everything about her to memory.My extended family has been very supportive, but I feel angry that they seem to be able to go back to the way their lives were, when I can't.

Tami - posted on 01/05/2010

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My son Bobby passed away on June 3. 1996 from SIDS. He was 2 1/2 months old and from all outer appearances very healthy. It is hard to handle but it does get easier!! You will have moments where you wonder what you could have done differently but know tha t there is nothing that you could have done! It has been a challenge but I think of him always and wonder aloud most days what he would be like today. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can email me at mselmo2@hotmail.com. I'm more than willing to be a sounding board whenever you need one!

Maria - posted on 01/04/2010

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Daylene was born May 10, 2007 passed away Nov 30, 2007 from SIDS. I have no words for this or how to talk about i am just lost but me and my husband have another baby that was born Feb 2009 and she has helped me so much to move on i am a stay home mom and i couldn't be happier for this blessing that i got but i still can't talk about it and i feel so bad because i don't let my husband talk it with me i just don't know what to do.

Jeanette - posted on 01/04/2010

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my son daniel died on christmas eve 1992 .for a long time i hated christmas ,until my daughter danielle asked if we put lights on our house could my brother see it in heaven.so every year i light up my house ,as my husband says you could land planes in our front yard.and i by something new every year for the next year ,and its my way of once a year because i cnt buy gifts or have party for them to so them i love them ,most of my family think im crazy because i never told them why ,but me and danielle know its to show danny how much we love him.

Shantell - posted on 01/04/2010

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All of these stories make me sad. After our stillborn baby girl, Alexis died in 2006, we adopted a baby boy, Bryson. He was born Nov 4, 2008 and Passed January 23, 2009. It has been extremely difficult to deal with. We feel guilty...we feel like he should have been with us and not in his bassinet...I am currently pregnant and fear we will never sleep because of SIDS

Terisa - posted on 01/03/2010

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My little Matty passed away from SIDS at 8 weeks old back in 1990. It does get easier as time goes on but you never forget them.

Diane - posted on 12/29/2009

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Sweet girl, it's a terrible heartache and will be with you always but the pain will get better, it won't be constant, just know that your not alone in your pain. My son was 9 weeks old when SIDS took him, he'd be 39 this year and though it's easier it's still with me. Try to know that GOD is always with you and understands your pain.

Alicia - posted on 12/29/2009

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My daughter Gabrielle Sinai Smith died on January 3, 2006 from SIDS. She would have been three months old the next day. I understand what you are going through. Even though mine has been q while ago it still seems fresh in my mind. There is a emptiness that comes along with losing a child. You try and move on but sometimes you just cant. I am willing to talk but most of all i am willing to listen. If you have a yahoo messanger please contact me my screen name is acsmith9903@yahoo.com.

Crystal - posted on 12/28/2009

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hi i'm new to this but i too have lost my son to sids he was two day shy of seven months old he was a twin we got blessed to keep his sister but made it hard on me at the time he passed on christmas eve in 2004 if anyone wants to talk my email is leopard-22@hotmail.com

Dawn - posted on 12/23/2009

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My son, Knox died from SIDS in August 2009- he was 4 months, 8 days. It is the worst thing that has ever happened to our families.

It has been 4 months since he died, and everyday I think about him still. He would be 8 months old, and sitting up on his own, doing a lot of things I don't get to see him do now.

Emma - posted on 12/23/2009

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i am so sorry for your loss.like you i lost my daughter to sids 18feb 2007,she was 4months,2weeks and 5 days old.we named her angel.im not going to lie i find as the years go by for me it gets harder,you imagine the milestones they would of acheived and you get bitter and angry.but you do survive.godbless x

Gloria - posted on 12/22/2009

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Quoting Olga:

ladies you are all too kind... its the holidays now.. and it would of been our first Christmas together...... but instead of a happy time I am wishing i didnt have to celebrate... even though i know Sergio is with Jesus on Christmas and thats what Christmas is all about.... I still miss him and wish we could have had this time together to remember... how wonderful Christmas could of been this year.. I remember thinking about it when I was only 2 months pregnant. I thought my son is going to be a big boy, 4 months already around Christmas time.... and I couldnt wait to take him to my cousin's house that Christmas morning...as everyone celebrated and enjoyed each other. I remember thinking how many people are going to ask to hold my baby and how proud I would be of him. I would pick out the most beauitful little outfit for a handsome little man. Christmas was going to be perfect this year. The best ever. And i couldnt wait!! I guess life doesnt always turn out that way.... Its so hard around the holidays... Ladies I am praying for you all at this very dificult time ♥ God Bless


May God bless you with peace & serenity this Christmas. Stay in the Word and love Him for He Loves You. I will keep you in prayer for I know it is very difficult for you especially at this time of the year. All the time is difficult in this situation. Do something to remember Sergio and Smile for he is in Heaven with All the other baby Angels just having a ball of their own!!! For me to think how happy, healthy and loved My Baby Gloria is in The Arms Of The Lord eases a little of the pain in my heart. One day soon we all will be reunited for All Eternity!!! AMEN.

Olga - posted on 12/18/2009

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ladies you are all too kind... its the holidays now.. and it would of been our first Christmas together...... but instead of a happy time I am wishing i didnt have to celebrate... even though i know Sergio is with Jesus on Christmas and thats what Christmas is all about.... I still miss him and wish we could have had this time together to remember... how wonderful Christmas could of been this year.. I remember thinking about it when I was only 2 months pregnant. I thought my son is going to be a big boy, 4 months already around Christmas time.... and I couldnt wait to take him to my cousin's house that Christmas morning...as everyone celebrated and enjoyed each other. I remember thinking how many people are going to ask to hold my baby and how proud I would be of him. I would pick out the most beauitful little outfit for a handsome little man. Christmas was going to be perfect this year. The best ever. And i couldnt wait!! I guess life doesnt always turn out that way.... Its so hard around the holidays... Ladies I am praying for you all at this very dificult time ♥ God Bless

Lee-Ann - posted on 12/10/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss, I remember the pain as if it was yesterday and not 15 and a half years ago. My daughter Kaitlyn Amber Chelsey was born March 29, 1994 and passed away May 28, 1994. Not a day goes by that she is not in my thoughts. It does get easier as time goes by but your angel will forever be with you. If you need to talk feel free to email me at. dlhugill@rogers.com.

Lee-Ann

Tina - posted on 12/10/2009

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Hi Olga,
I am so sorry for your lost. I lost my son to sids October 30, 1996. He was 3 months old. I can tell you that the pain you are feeling will never go away but it will get better with time. It took years for me to stop blaming myself . My son would be 14 this year had God not taken him I know in my heart he is in a better place but everyday it still feels like it was just yesterday that I lost him. My God Bless You and keep you wrapped in his arms. Your family will be in my prayers.

Nicole - posted on 12/09/2009

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well hun i went threw the same thing, my daughter jordian was born on may 26 2006 and passed away jan. 22 2007 she was eight months old and she passed away from sids, if you would like to talk, i would love to talk to someone goin threw the same thing god bless and hope to hear from you soon

Tanya - posted on 12/04/2009

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I had the same fear with all my kids...I have had 3 more and they are all fine...16, 11 and almost 2. The first child after the death of my son was the worst...I hardly slept, was constantly checking on him for the first 6 months, until my husband finally got frustrated and told me that he was doing fine and I needed to start sleeping or I was not going to be any good for anything. It was scary...I wasn't as bad with the last 2.

Gabriella - posted on 12/03/2009

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muh bby girl passed away 3 and 1/2 years ago due to sids ... its hurts everyday but we recently had another bby girl nd im worried everyday something will happen to her.

wanna tlk ever let me know

Claire - posted on 11/30/2009

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when we were in scbu we were lent a monitor with a pad which went under the mattress of the moses basket and if at any time the baby stopped breathing the monitor would beep to let you know something was wrong and you had a form to fill out to let the health visitor know what had been happening during the week with the baby and the monitor. we are now also on the coni scheme (which means care of next infant) but we had to take one of our sons to the hospital for something and i mentioned about the coni scheme and they looked at me as if i was talking a different language they didn't know what it meant so i had to explain what that meant. I didn't really want to give the monitor back because i relied on it to much but i had to as they were getting older and they cost £500 each and we couldn't afford that. I don't know whether they have that type of scheme where you are but it doesn't hurt to ask

Claire - posted on 11/30/2009

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my first son nathan was born 7/7/1990 weighing 8lb 3oz he was a healthy little boy, he died when he was 3weeks old at foster parents house she had fed him and put him down for a sleep and checked on him at about 7pm and he wasn't breathing? They had fostered 118 babies in 181/2 years and this was the first cot death due to sids they thought i would blame them for it but i told them it wasn't their fault as my mum and nan had both lost boys as my family can't have boys?i was only 17years old and i was going to give him up for adoption but changed my mind but before i got to tell anyone what i was going to do he died he wasn't with me but at foster parents i know its not the same as having him at home with me but it still hurts he would be 19years old now and wondering what he would be up to going out with his mates etc. I am now married and have two boys samuel and joseph born three years apart both with birthdays in december but when i found out i was pregnant with samuel i went to the hospital for a course which only lasted one morning to practice resusitation on an infant and had a refresher course when we were on scbu with our first son who was a week late and had to be born by c-section as an emergency and they had to do full resus on him as he had the cord round his neck 3 times so they kept him in for a week. I know that im rattling on about this but i have been through what you are going through now time does heal the empty feeling but you never forget your first child i still have photos of nathan and i will love him forever because i know he is safe as he is up in heaven with his nanny, great gran great grandad. hope this helps with your loss

Wanda - posted on 11/29/2009

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I am terrible sorry for your loss. My son Taelyn Grant was born on September 30, 2008 and passed away on Easter Sunday, April 12, 2009, he was 6 months and 12 days old, when he died from SIDS. Not a single moment does not go by that I don't think about him or the things that he should be doing as a 14 month old lil boy. I was in the room with him when he passed away, honestly that morning something woke me up at 515am to see my lifeless little boy. He is forever my angel. The best advice I can give you is to talk to someone. I have been in therapy since the loss and I am on an emotional rollercoaster.

Lisa - posted on 11/27/2009

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Hi hun I am so sorry you too have to bear this terrible pain I lost my youngest daughter Scarlet Ebony on New Years Day this year she was 9 weeks old i know you are hurting like hell and if u need to chat add me as a friend ok take care my thoughts and prayers are with you xxxxxx

Tanya - posted on 11/24/2009

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I completely feel for you...my son Michael Scott passed away at the age of 3 months in 1989...the pain has subsided, but has never left completely. I have 3 wonderful children ages 16, 11 and 22 months...I miss Michael and wonder what his life would have been if he was still here, but life does go on and I know that I will be with him again someday. I know this is still very fresh for you and it seems like you will never get past the overwhelming sense of loss...but I can tell you that time does heal all wounds. Make sure you have a strong support group and know that you are not alone. If you ever need to talk or vent you can send me a message...tanya.larson@gmail.com. God Bless!!

Mandy - posted on 11/23/2009

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my daughter Siddalee Rain ppassed oct. 19 2008..she was 4 1/2 mths old...we already have a 3 yr old daughter so having her pass was like a kick in the face...it made me feel like 'my first kid is fine so why did my second have to die'...we went thru 3 mths of classes for help then i went crazy for 2 weeks...i left my family, cut 10inches of my hair off, dyed it, got a tattoo, and just went stupid... one night i realized my family loves me and knows that her passing was not my fault and me and God had a nice long 'yelling match'..but it made me feel better. i came home and my hubby just held me and said he loved me and was glad i was home. since then times have been better and we're now 28 wks preg with yet another little girl. i think my time alone for self realization helped me greatly... i really just needed to go, however, i could have gone about it much better rather then just leaving in the middle of the night... the pain does get better with time, but it also depends on the person that you are. i love talking about my baby girl and looking at pictures. i know she's gone but i still feel her here with me. and my other daughter loves remembering things and talking about her too... if you need to talk or having any questions email me layla_breeze@yahoo.com.... Mandy

Beriah - posted on 11/22/2009

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I am so sorry. I understand what you are going thru as my daughter passed away on October 8...a day after your son.She was 4 weeks exactly. I had only had her home for a week because she was a preemie and she left a twin sister behind. Everyone tells me what a blessing she is, but it is a double edged sword because they were identical and i see her sister in her every day. I am just starting back to work and it helps more than i thought because it keeps my mind busy. I hope you have plenty of support...but if u need to talk just message me and i will listen.

Olga - posted on 11/22/2009

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oh ladies you are so kind..thank you for sharing your stories and giving me the support...so sorry for your losses as well..God Bless you..and if you ever want to email me and talk olga.shevlyakova0@gmail.com also if you would like to sign my son's memorial or even make your own for your angels LINK: sergio-bundashevlyakov.gonetoosoon.org/

Angela - posted on 11/12/2009

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My daughter Angel was exactly 8 months old when she passed of SIDS. She was a preemie and had been through so much in her short life. She spent 99 days in the hospital and finally came home healthy and happy. For us to lose her such a struggle was heartbreaking. I thought that I wouldn't be able to make it but God has brought me through. I still have bad days but I have to continue living. It's been almost 9 months now and things are slowly getting better. I miss my baby girl every single day. If you need to talk, don't hesitate to contact me. angela_session@yahoo.com

Felicia - posted on 11/12/2009

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Quoting Olga:

Mommies of SIDS babies

My son Sergio Alexander Bunda Shevlyakov passed away on October 7th, 2009 from SIDS. He was 6 weeks and 5 days old. I just want to meet people who been through thois and willing to talk about it... maybe we can help each other..it sooo terrible... its only been one month since he left me...



well i am in the same as u my son was 2months 8days he passed away sept 27 2009 from sids i took it hard he was my only son i thought everything was ok i had one daughter n one son he didnt even get t enjoy life as us i still cry at night everynite tryin not to think of it i have pics everywhere n i see him it hurts so im feelin ur pain its been a whole month almost two ont the 27th

Jill - posted on 11/12/2009

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my daughter gabriella nicole sparks was born august 10, 2009 and passed away on august 17, 2009 due to sids. its been really hard on me and my husband. i think about it every day. i blame myself most of the time because i see so many things i should have done different. its been 3 months and i miss her more than ever.

Rose - posted on 11/11/2009

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I just lost my son ten days after you lost you sprecious baby. being a member of this group has helped with talking about him and having a shoulder to cry on. I am soo terribly sorry. Nothing can change what happened, but it brings solace when you can talk to others that have been through what you're going through.

Jeanette - posted on 11/11/2009

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my sons danny and steven passed away from sids they were 2 months and 4 months daniel died dec.24 1993 ,steven died jan 14 1997.i think of them evry day i miss them and i wish i could tell you it will be o k ,but i wont lie to you .your life forever has changed .but it can be a good life you just have to decided for yourself how its going to be what helped me was knowing that if they woud have told me they were going to die would i still have had them ,the answer is yes i was truly blessed to have known these two children they were a gift from god and for that i am greatful.i spent alot of time feeling sorry for myself when i should have been doing something to help other children get a fire in your belly and do it for your baby you lost make them matter .its to easy to hide away but what steven taught me was we cant hide from death no matter what .so make it matter he was a gift he mattered he will always be your son .life goes on and youll look at people laughing and think how mean the world is ,but i promise in time youll remember the good things and youll breath again andyou will laugh again.you should be angry you should be mad ,just dont let it consume you let it out and let it go .babies only need love they want for nothing else so if he had that then you did a good job .dont live in the what ifs,its not your fault there is nothing you could have done to make the out come any different.i am crying while i write to you because the pain you feel for your son is a pain i know for my own.god bless you take care of yourself ,be easy on yourself and remember to breath ,the whole in your heart will never truly be filled again but it can feel better i now have my bella who is six , she is the light of my life and i was scared to have her ,life will get better just give yourself time to heal and breath.

Sarah - posted on 11/09/2009

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I am terribly sorry for your loss! My son, Kolby James Daniel, was born July 15, 1996 and passed away September 10, 1996 from SIDS, he was 55 days old. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him. I have found that talking about him helps though!!! I have met so many people who want to "forget" so the pain will ease but it doesn't matter, you can't forget, ony time will make the pain bearable. PLEASE feel free to contact me any time to chat, don't go through this alone! strikethree@mchsi.com

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