My 19 year old daughter, Gabrielle, fell to her death from a window.

Renata - posted on 07/04/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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On March 17, of this year, almost 4 months ago, I lost my beautiful, bright, talented, daughter, 19 year old Gabrielle Renata king. She was also my best friend. There are days that I don't think I can live another day without her. Most days actually. Are there any other moms on this community board who are in the same or close to the same grief as I am right now? Any help is very much appreciated. I also have a 22 year old son, but he is'nt here much, dealing with his own grief in his own way. How do we cope? I have met many other people thru compassionate friends, who have lived, but right now, I am at a loss. Of course. Just wanted to invite anybody who can feel my pain to talk to. Thank you, Renata

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Donna - posted on 07/07/2009

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I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I lost my 18 yr old son Miguel on 1-13-09 and it is so fresh and still so unbeleivable, to me he is my only son. He took his own life, I dont use the S word. Any way he left no note and was a very happy young man we honestly beleive he was either to drunk to realize what he was doing or it was a complete accident, he always had the Gun on safety and a bullett in the chamber, he was a hunter . We live in Montana. . There is a community on "circle of moms" called "MOTHERS OF OLDER CHILDREN WHO HAVE Died. You may find a lot of comfort there. I met a wonderful lady who is in South Africa, world apart, her daughter also took her life, It is hearbreaking but it is also fact and we are not alone and can help each other. Prayers to you and your son & the rest of your family. Take care. MIGUELS MOM DONNA

Marinda - posted on 07/05/2009

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I`m so so sorry fof yoy loss Renata, loosing Gabrielle muat have been feeling like the end of the wordl, which in one case is aomost true, I`m so sorry for all your pain and heardache, no mother should be going through this. Of course you will be at a total loss honey, it`t as is ifyou`re on this rollecoaster of pain an denial that we just couldnt ged of, wishig with all of our heart and soul that we would wake upand it was all just a bab bad dream. I wish I could say something to comfort you, something to make you feel as if here `s going to ne a light at the end of the tunnel,but I couldm`t. She must be an extra ordinary child, and I would love to hear little thing from her, what she did, what she say etc. Try do be strong, the sadness is that people tend to go on with their lifes after a while, while were are still stuck in that awfull moment. you can feel free to contact me whenver you wish, may it just be to talk, cry, ask questions, whatever, I` will always be just here, thinking of you and Gabrielle, all of my love and blessing to you

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Vicky - posted on 07/13/2009

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i lost my 18 yr,old in a car crash,because her friend? was NOT paying attenion,it's been almost 10 years... and i have 2 more girls,at the time 12 yrs ,1 half years old now,22yrs, and11yrs old, for me, i did not want to live anymore but i had to..my husband divorce me after 22 years of marriage,ther's NOT a day that don't go by i don't think of vicky lynn,she was so sweet and caring,so are my other girls,but i miss her so much..all i can say is keep your daughter alive in you,i talk about vicky alot,and remember alot,and i hope it don't bother people,but no one will forget my baby,I WON"T LET THEM >>she is always with me...

Tammie - posted on 07/11/2009

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renata. my heart goes out to you and all the others who have lost a child, i lost my 22 yr old daughter, Cassie, it will be 2 yrs next month. she was my only child and we were best friends also, she left us with a handsome boy, beau, he was 17 months old when she died in a 4-wheeler accident.. he is what keeps me going at times, if it wasnt for him sometimes i feel like just giving up, but i always pray about it,,,i always thought that we as parents are suppose to go before our children, but i often think of what someone told me when i lost her, you know we r all Gods children and he just lets us borrow the ones that we have, and we r not promised our next breath. And there r people that often tell me that know how i feel and what im going through but you know, noone knows how we feel and what we go through till they have lost a child of there own, and i would not want anyone to go through the pain that we have went through...my heart goes out to you and i just want you to know that i am here for you...tammie

Elsa - posted on 07/10/2009

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Hi Renata!

I share your grief and I do understand what you are going through. I am grieving the death of my 18yrs old daughter, June 27th made it 2yrs since her passing .She was a passenger in a motor vehicle,which was involved in an accident which claimed her life.

She was the most beautiful, kind and caring person I know she was my best friend too, we shared alot of good memories together. I am trying to cope with her passing as best as possible, but everyone grieve differently, What I do to console myself is that I keep pictures of her around and I still do some of the things we use to just to keeep her memory alive. I have left her stuff in place and for her memorial I'll take her flowers also for her birthday and even on odd days.There are days when you will get up and it feels like you are re-living that day all over again, but there are also days when you only think of the good times, happy memories , her laughter and her beautiful smile that lights up your world.

Renata, think of the 19yrs you have shared and the wonderful times you have had with her. I might not be of much help but I just want you to know you are not alone because I understand your pain.Elsa

Loretta - posted on 07/09/2009

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Renata - My heart skipped a beat when I read you post. March 17, 2006 my daughter was killed in a tragic car accident. She was 24 years old. I also have a son. He turned 24 in April. My son and I have always had a good relationship, however, I realized just recently that after the death of his sister, I expected way to much from him. He has had his own personal issues to deal, the death of his sister, deploying to Iraq and having a baby shortly after. I would love to connnect with you. Please feel to free to contact me. With love from one grieving mother to another.

Barbara - posted on 07/07/2009

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Renata please be patient with yourself. This is so new and raw. Unfortunately it takes time for these raw feelings to go away. It was 2 1/2 years before I felt "okay" with this. I started to journal all my thoughts, good and bad. Start each page with "Dear Gabrielle" and write like you are talking to her. Tell her about your day, the rest of the family and what your feeling really does help.

I wish you peace in your heart as you continue your journey.

It may not be easy, but it is possible!

www.beautifulmourning.com

Amy - posted on 07/06/2009

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I just lost my 15 year old son to leukemia May 21, 2009 so I know the pain you are going through...somewhat. We had a four year battle with this disease. I always wonder the "what if's" or how in the world do I go on with my everyday life?? We have a 4 year old that says she talks to "bubby". We are living day by day but even sometimes that is hard.

I am trully sorry for your loss and if you ever need to talk I am here.



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Stephanie - posted on 07/06/2009

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wow and i thought it was hard to loose my 4yr old i cant imagine wht pain ur feeling, i think its the hardest the longer we have them.... there are days i don't wanna get out of bed but i have to take care of our 2yr old son... i have found tht a site called gonetoosoon.org has been helpful in dealing with my grief. as well as scrapbooking her life.. other thn that i just get up every morning and take care of my son and go to work.. and go to school.. i think thts al anyone can expect from us..

Roseanne - posted on 07/06/2009

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Quoting renata:

My 19 year old daughter, Gabrielle, fell to her death from a window.

On March 17, of this year, almost 4 months ago, I lost my beautiful, bright, talented, daughter, 19 year old Gabrielle Renata king. She was also my best friend. There are days that I don't think I can live another day without her. Most days actually. Are there any other moms on this community board who are in the same or close to the same grief as I am right now? Any help is very much appreciated. I also have a 22 year old son, but he is'nt here much, dealing with his own grief in his own way. How do we cope? I have met many other people thru compassionate friends, who have lived, but right now, I am at a loss. Of course. Just wanted to invite anybody who can feel my pain to talk to. Thank you, Renata


I can sure feel your pain, and you can talk with me if you'd like.  I lost my 18 yr old son in a car accident in june 2007. I remember being 4 months into the grief so well because i still go back to that most days.  I hate living without my son.  you and i have lost so much. i miss him so much and it feels like he has been gone so so long, but at the same time it feels like it just happened yesturday. every day when i wake up and realize it wasnt a nightmare he dies all over again.

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