Need Advice on a party for my son who has passed away.

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My son was stillborn December 28th, 2011. His birthday is coming quickly and I don't know if I should celebrate it or even how to celebrate it. Any advice?

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Lisa - posted on 11/12/2012

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I haven't reached a birthday for my son yet, but when I do, we will be doing something for him. I will probably make him a cake with a candle for being one year old, and possibly do something for charity in his name.



It's so hard to know what to do, but just do what is right for you. Not everybody will feel the same or think the same. Just be kind to yourself.



Lisa

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Ana - posted on 10/18/2012

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i just celebrated my daughters bday yest it was a yr ago also my fiance found it disrespectful to do it but i guess we hve different ways of thinking we had a get together at the cemetary and took her a cake and blew her candles there and sang happy birthday i didnt know either.. Its not really a party like i told its just a way to remember her. sorry for your

Anna - posted on 10/17/2012

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I too celebrate the birthday of our stillborn daughter. My husband and celebrate, just the two of us and talk and pray. But a friend of mine buys one set of clothes of the age she would be and give away to someone who has a daughter the same age. Also write a message on a balloon and send it to heaven. I encourage you to do something to mark that special yetsad day as it helps the healing process. Will be thinking of you then.

Kassandra - posted on 10/13/2012

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I always celebrate the birthday of my stillborn daughter. I think my way is a little bit more simple than how some people would. I make a small cake, put the candles in it, and because I was never able to have a funeral or proper burial for her, I just light the candles at home with my husband and we sing happy birthday, then blow out the candles. It still hurts every single day she is gone, and moreso on her birthday, but no child, angel or living, should go without some type of little celebration on the day of their birth. It is a great way to show your remembrance for your son. I am sincerely sorry for your loss. I hope you do celebrate.

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