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Need Some Reassurance :(

Amber - posted on 01/06/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Please ladies, I need to hear that everything's going to be okay! My husband is so sick of hearing me worry, and I only found out I'm pregnant last week! We lost a baby, our son, almost a year ago at 16 weeks. I have a condition called Incompetent Cervix, and I had had the stitch [a cerclage] put in my cervix in an emergency surgey with my first son, who is now 4 and perfectly healthy, at 20 weeks because my cervix was opening and I almost lost him. The autopsy for this baby revealed placental abruption due to infection. Now, I feel like this was probably a one-time event, and my HighRisk OBGYN said so too, but I can't shake my fears that it's going to happen again, and I don't know if I could cope with another loss, it was so hard on me, on us. We have tried so hard for this baby, I was on medication for a while because my uterus hemmoraged after the pregnancy loss and I lost 50% of the blood in my body and was told that I may have to have a hysterectomy. I didn't have to, it healed itself thank goodness, but I almost died, and I'm terrified to do it again. My first son I was on bed rest, but this time around I can't be because I have to take my son to school, among many other things. I know I need the stitch but I'm afraid it's going to cause another infection. How am I supposed to cope with being scared stiff all the time?!?!

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Alex - posted on 01/06/2011

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I do know what it is like to feel afraid all the time for many different reasons to the one you mention. It is perfectly normal to feel scared, not to mention the hormonal effect upon your emotions without complications. I can not put myself in your shoes exactly as we have completely different histories but I am a strong believer in listening to your body and the advice of the Dr's and go with what you feel is right.
With regard to carrying on with life as normal for your 4 year old. Perhaps it may be possible for you to arrange a friend to do either the drop at school Or pick up and that way you needn't put so much pressure on your body. Make the school aware of the issues and they may well help with a solution - you never know.

I really hope that all works out for you. Try not to be afraid. You know the stitch worked once because your little boy is with you every day. Try and Trust the Dr's but make sure they listen to all your concerns.

Sending positive happy thoughts
Alex x

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