Amber - posted on 01/06/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )
Please ladies, I need to hear that everything's going to be okay! My husband is so sick of hearing me worry, and I only found out I'm pregnant last week! We lost a baby, our son, almost a year ago at 16 weeks. I have a condition called Incompetent Cervix, and I had had the stitch [a cerclage] put in my cervix in an emergency surgey with my first son, who is now 4 and perfectly healthy, at 20 weeks because my cervix was opening and I almost lost him. The autopsy for this baby revealed placental abruption due to infection. Now, I feel like this was probably a one-time event, and my HighRisk OBGYN said so too, but I can't shake my fears that it's going to happen again, and I don't know if I could cope with another loss, it was so hard on me, on us. We have tried so hard for this baby, I was on medication for a while because my uterus hemmoraged after the pregnancy loss and I lost 50% of the blood in my body and was told that I may have to have a hysterectomy. I didn't have to, it healed itself thank goodness, but I almost died, and I'm terrified to do it again. My first son I was on bed rest, but this time around I can't be because I have to take my son to school, among many other things. I know I need the stitch but I'm afraid it's going to cause another infection. How am I supposed to cope with being scared stiff all the time?!?!