Kara-Lee - posted on 04/15/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )
Hi all. I am so glad I found this. I have been looking for some kind of support site since we lost our daughter June 2 2008. She was born at 23 weeks 4 days. She only lived for 1 hour 29 min. We were given the choice to fight to try and save her or let nature happen. Being how early she was we knew that she wouldn't make it no matter what so we decided to let nature happen. It was the hardest thing we've ever done. So now we are 10 months since her death and I feel lost and not knowing what to think. I loved my baby girl so much the pain of not being able to ever bring her home and hold her or comfort her is just terrible. I have 3 other kids who were left wondering why with us all when this happened. My oldest, who had turned 7 ,3 days before my daughters death, took the news worse than anyone. But my middle one who is now 5 still ask's about her and ask's to see pictures. My youngest was only just 2 when we lost her so he didn't understand it. I just don't know how to keep things going some days.
Also shortly after we lost our little one we found out that we were pregnant again. I am now 29 weeks and still dread loosing this baby. Has anyone delt with something like this? How do you get thru the new pregnancy without having so much fear each day? And how do you explain to kids that the new baby isn't going to die like the last one? Especially since your not sure either? I don't know i'm just at a loss. I want to be excited for the new baby coming but at the same time I am grieving the loss of our daughter. Anyways thanks :-)