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Alexandra - posted on 09/26/2012

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My son Aiden was stillborn on 9/12/12. I too hope to have another baby. The doctor told my husband and I to wait 3 months so that my body has time to heal and get back to normal. I am terrified that this would happen again. I know a lot of people to on to have normal pregnancies and give birth to healthy live babies after having a loss but then You also hear of other women who go through more losses. It's scary. I plan on my next pregnancy being high risk and I also plan on purchasing my own fetal Doppler to be able to see my baby's heart rate if I have doubts. I hope that more medical research can be done to find out why this happens so that it can be prevented. No parents should have to go through this pain. Wishing you all the best in your next pregnancy.

Sarah - posted on 04/26/2011

I am also sorry to hear of your losses. Just that alone shows the strength and perseverance you have. I myself have not had such a tragic experience happen. I do see the support already in this website and i just joined tonight. God Bless

Teresa - posted on 04/26/2011

I'm sorry for ur loss. I'm new too. My baby girl was stillborn. My pregnancy was normal. My due date was dec. 24th and i went into labor on christmas. She was moving the night before, but when i went to the hospital they couldn't find her heartbeat. They did tests but could never give me an answer. I wanna baby but I think I'm gonna wait a while. Only you will know when ur ready. It's a terrible thing women like us have to go thru. It does help knowing ur not alone.

Emer - posted on 04/12/2011

i am so sorry for your loss i lost my daughter 4 years ago she was stillborn @39weeks the cause of her death was unknown, i got preg 6 months after my daughters death& i have to say it was the most anxious time of my life i kept having panic attacks & was so bad that they induced labor at 37 weeks & the feeling when they handed me my warm screaming son was the most amazing feeling in the world il never forget it, it made all the worry worth it, i have since had another son the pregnancy was not as scary but you will always have the worry there,

Daina - posted on 04/11/2011

Hi Misty...I too had a still born baby. He would have been 11 this June. I too was really scared about getting pregnant again. I had a healthy baby girl in 1993 and then 2 miscarriages before I gave birth to Dylan at 38 weeks and he was stillborn. When he was born there was an autopsy preformed on him and he was perfect nothing at all out of the ordinary. However, when the placenta had developed it had to many small blood vessels and one of those happened to rupture causing a blood clot that cut off his air supply. It also is probably what had happened to the previous miscarriges. That was one of the hardest things I had to deal with also. My doctor encouraged me to not be scared and that we would do doses of a mild blood thinner to insure this didn't happen again. As it turns out, I went on to get pregnant (way sooner than I wanted) again in January of 2001. In August I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, during the pregnancy I took baby asprin to keep my blood thin and was totally terrified thru the entire pregnancy. I hope that you find the encouragement that you need thru this website. It has been nice to know others that have been through such a trying loss.

Jamie - posted on 04/09/2011

I am very sorry for your loss. I have lost two babies, one at 18 weeks and my daughter at 21 weeks. After I lost my daughter last May I didn't think I wanted more because I was terrified I would loose another. I lost Sarah from a cord accident. I have two children at home with me 6 and 3 and now am 19 weeks pregnant. I worry all the time but it is to be expected. If you want to have another but not completely sure then wait a while and you will know when the time is right. Welcome to the group and if you need someone to talk to you can message me. Everyone in this group is amazing and understand and won't judge you for any reason. God bless you and your family.

Shanna - posted on 04/08/2011

Before you do start try to undergo some type of therapy and make peace with the loss, grieve and pass the grief storm period. When you do decide to have another precious soul, it is going to take you on a roller coaster of emotions. The first 29 wks you'll be like Dear God let me get pass the 30 wk point, but the subsequent weeks won't be that much easier. All the stresses with a regular pregnancy is coupled with that phobia of losing another baby. I know because I lost my 2nd baby and for my third 4th and 5th there was still that irrational fear. Also make sure you communicate and voice your fears with your partner because he may be feeling the same way but feels like he has to be strong for you too. Remember during the next one he too will have those fears also. So include him. As for you, there is light at the end of the tunnel. It is not going to come as soon as we need but remember it will come. It has been nine years for me and thinking about my little girl doesn't get easier, but the sting of the fresh pain hurt and feelings of being betrayed by my own body has subsided. You will get there. STay Strong and since my heart goes out to you at this time.....and here is a virtual hug!!!

Alex - posted on 04/08/2011

Hi Misty
So sorry for your loss - big hugs
I gave birth to a stillborn boy 2 years ago 31st March 2009. To cut a VERY long story short there were complications in my labour.
I am currently 27 weeks pregnant and petrified of the same happening again. I have had many an open conversation with my midwife and am also under consultant care and they have been very understanding of the emotional roller-coaster which changes with me each day.
What I can say is that the experience we have shared is DEFINITELY one of the hardest things for any woman to go through and until you feel ready to go down the road of trying again and finding that you are pregnant you will always feel scared. I feel afraid every day - I wonder if it is all part of being pregnant and the hormones that race around our bodies.
Being scared is 'TOTALLY NORMAL' said by my consultant, under the circumstances. An experience such as still birth is crushing but you can come through and find yourself expecting again. Be positive and don't be afraid to share your feelings with people as these are SO important.

Take care and time to heal, mourn and grieve.

Brittany - posted on 04/08/2011

First off, Welcome to circle of moms! This is a great site to connect with other mothers and ask questions and get new ideas. In saying that I want to say I am sorry to hear about you loss. Please do not think it will happen again. I know someone who also had a still birth and after was able to have another baby full term and healthy!

Tanya - posted on 04/08/2011

So sorry for your loss Misty. You have found a wonderful site. Everyone here is so helpful. My son was stillborn 7 1/2 years ago, due to a placenta abruption. I often go through here and read what others have written and I feel less alone.
You will know when you are ready to try again. You will have the fear, but when you strong enough to try again you will know it. Let your body, mind and heart have a chance mend.
Hugs to you and take care!

Juliana - posted on 04/06/2011

Im sorry to hear about your loss Misty. I lost my daughter in Dec09 to SIDS. Her death will never be able to be explained either. This is a good group to be in, the ladies here are here for you and I find them easy to talk to. Its nice to talk to people who have been in similar situations.