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Amanda - posted on 04/16/2009

Hey Jennifer,

Firstly let me say I am so sorry you and your family are having to go through this tragedy... There is no right or wrong way in coping with the loss of your child.  All I can do is tell you to take each day at a time and deal with things as they arise.  Do you have a family member or good friend who is there for you when you have those moments when it all seems too hard?  I found that it helped me to be able to talk to my mum when it all got too much, even if it was just to sit and cry.  I don't think you ever really 'deal' with it, in time you learn to accept it.  I did find writing letters to my son helpful, I was able to tell him how much I was missing him and all the things I wanted to say, especially how much I loved him.  Don't be afraid to reach out when you need to talk about Breana, it's the best thing you can do.  You can message me any time if you need.  Most importantly, be kind to yourself, nothing you are feeling is wrong.  I hope some of this has helped.

Amanda - posted on 04/16/2009

Hey Jennifer,

Firstly let me say I am so sorry you and your family are having to go through this tragedy... There is no right or wrong way in coping with the loss of your child.  All I can do is tell you to take each day at a time and deal with things as they arise.  Do you have a family member or good friend who is there for you when you have those moments when it all seems too hard?  I found that it helped me to be able to talk to my mum when it all got too much, even if it was just to sit and cry.  I don't think you ever really 'deal' with it, in time you learn to accept it.  I did find writing letters to my son helpful, I was able to tell him how much I was missing him and all the things I wanted to say, especially how much I loved him.  Don't be afraid to reach out when you need to talk about Breana, it's the best thing you can do.  You can message me any time if you need.  Most importantly, be kind to yourself, nothing you are feeling is wrong.  I hope some of this has helped.

Jennifer - posted on 04/15/2009

Thank yall for your responses! It's just good to hear from people who can relate to what has happened. Yes, I do have other children; i have a daughter from a previous relationship and i have a step-daughter.

Rosemarie - posted on 04/14/2009

My Dear Jennifer, 

My name is Rosemarie, and I am a 54 year old woman who has lost 2 babies.  They were twins that I had early ( due to an abusive ex). One baby died shortly after he was born and the other one died 7 months later. I just want to let you know that I know how you feel. This is something that you will NEVER get over, you will (by the Grace of God) be able to learn to live with it.  There will always be times through out your lifetime that something will remind you or your daughter.  It has been 32 years for me, and there are still times when I feel the loss of those boys.  You will be okay.  And yes, give yourself plenty of time to greave.  Don't deny the pain you feel. You will know when you can go forward with your  life again.  And you are right, this is the WORST thing you will ever go through in your life.  You will find that after this, you will be able to deal with adversity a lot better, because you have already been through the worst thing that can happen to you.  God Bless you and ask him for the strength to get through this and he will help you.  I know, because He helped me.

Dawn - posted on 04/13/2009

hello we lost are daughter jade in 2001  aged 11 i find talking helps i still talk a lot about jade do you have other children i do i feel this helped me as i still had to look after them jade passed away just before christmas and i  still had to do christmas for them this helped me lots was on taplet for along time.  i hope this helps and feel free to talk any time