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Libby - posted on 02/24/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I never expected this to happen. It took us 2 years to get pregnant with our 3rd child that we lost 12 weeks ago. And now we just found out we are expecting again...due in October. I'm excited and nervous. I've been questioning God's plan since December and now I'm wondering if this is His answer to my questions. I'm so surprised it happened so quickly. I had some tests done on me to see if I was OK, and the doctors said I am. So, we wanted to try again and here we are in that reality already.



We weren't going to tell anybody for awhile but once my husband told his mom she has gone and blabbed already. So, I decided if people were going to know then we should ask them to pray for us and this new miracle. I felt bad for my husband though because when he told his mom she made a reference about us waiting longer. Then went on and on about when his sister lost her baby, and something about a friend losing a baby. I just felt bad that she couldn't be positive for him. Like we don't already understand the reality of a dead baby. That was part of the reason I was hesitant to tell people because I didn't want to deal with the stress of their reactions, I already have enough stress.



But I'm going to try to ignore that and move on. I shouldn't be surprised by her reaction so I'm not going to dwell on it. Now I just need to figure out my future since it seems to be changing again. Has anybody else experienced a pregnancy so soon after a loss? I can't believe I'm 6 1/2 weeks pregnant when technically I should be 32 weeks pregnant with the daughter we lost. How crazy!

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Libby - posted on 02/25/2009

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Quoting Heather:



I'm so glad, and releaved, to see ladies going on to have more children after such devestation.  I lost my son a month ago today.  He as stillborn at 23 weeks.  He had Down Syndrome.  My heart wants to have more children.  I've always wanted more than one child.  My head, I can't get past the logic that my brain wants to shove down my throat that I have a perfect daughter...do I want to risk having ANOTHER baby with DS?  Do I want to risk a possible child with a major hanidcap, or worse yet...another still born child?  I can't get past those issues.  But I know in my heart that i want another child very bad.  I commend you Libby for being fearless (or less fearful than me).  You already know I pray for you and that new baby of yours.  Find your support in woman who've been there...and ignore the phone when your MIL or SIL calls! :)






~Heather http://mystolenlight.blogspot.com/






Thanks Heather.  We so appreciate the prayers!  I am definetly going to remain around the people who will give me the most support.  Oh, and don't worry, my MIL & SIL never call me directly.  They only call my husband's cell phone.  But I still feel like they need to be more supportive to him.  He deserves that!

Libby - posted on 02/25/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



I got pregnant for my son, (our 3rd baby) only two months after we lost our daughter. I was 30 wks with her and she was stillborn. I got pregnant the weekend I was due to have her. It was really hard to be pregnant, but I had an amazing counselor and she helped me through everything. I felt so much better having her to talk too about my fears and excitement. I wish you the very best! Having a baby is stressful enough without having to deal with a loss and then the remarks from ignorant people. Keep a positive attitude and just keep thinking about the beautiful new baby you're going to have.






My daughter was stillborn at 20 weeks.  Technically I should be 32 weeks pregnant with her, but surprisingly I am 6 weeks 5 days pregnant with a new child.  It is stressful to deal with this, let alone to have to deal with other people too.  But I'm going to try my best to forget about those people and focus on me.  I already started being careful (as much as a person can be), so I had my hubby carry down the heavy laundry basket for me.  I've also decided no sex.  All of my spotting/bleeding issues have started after sex.  So, I have to make some decisions.  I am worried about not being able to babysit anymore, so I want to take it easy so that I am able to continue to babysit for as long as I can until this baby is born.  This was my compromise to be able to stay home and be with my boys, but still make a little bit of money.  As for talking to people, I am going to a support group for the first time tonight.  It meets once a month, and I am excited to go be with other mother's like me.  I love coming to this forum, so I know that a face to face, hands on, type of group will be good for me too.

Heather - posted on 02/24/2009

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I'm so glad, and releaved, to see ladies going on to have more children after such devestation.  I lost my son a month ago today.  He as stillborn at 23 weeks.  He had Down Syndrome.  My heart wants to have more children.  I've always wanted more than one child.  My head, I can't get past the logic that my brain wants to shove down my throat that I have a perfect daughter...do I want to risk having ANOTHER baby with DS?  Do I want to risk a possible child with a major hanidcap, or worse yet...another still born child?  I can't get past those issues.  But I know in my heart that i want another child very bad.  I commend you Libby for being fearless (or less fearful than me).  You already know I pray for you and that new baby of yours.  Find your support in woman who've been there...and ignore the phone when your MIL or SIL calls! :)



~Heather http://mystolenlight.blogspot.com/

Sarah - posted on 02/24/2009

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I got pregnant for my son, (our 3rd baby) only two months after we lost our daughter. I was 30 wks with her and she was stillborn. I got pregnant the weekend I was due to have her. It was really hard to be pregnant, but I had an amazing counselor and she helped me through everything. I felt so much better having her to talk too about my fears and excitement. I wish you the very best! Having a baby is stressful enough without having to deal with a loss and then the remarks from ignorant people. Keep a positive attitude and just keep thinking about the beautiful new baby you're going to have.

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