pregnant again after the loss of my son just almost 4 months ago

V - posted on 08/02/2009

YAY - Congatulations on the pregnancy!!! I know it's so hard to not worry after loss, but try to enjoy that little bean in there the best you can. I'm really sorry for the loss of your precious baby boy. It's so hard to understand how a perfectly seeming healthy baby could just pass away. I lost my daughter (Haylie) to SIDS and was devestated... still am, but I have since had a new baby girl (Alyssa) that has made me feel like living life again. While I will never be over Haylie, Alyssa has brought me a lot of joy that would not be here if I didn't have another child. Hang in there and take good care of that little sweetie inside of you. Your bond will grow... just wait and see.

Kay - posted on 08/02/2009

Abbie was stillborn at 41 weeks she died during labour, I found our I was pregnant with Morgan about 4 1/2 months later. I was very scared during pregnancy but more about labour, I chose to have an elective c-section I have that at 39 weeks as I was too scared to reach due date. Morgan was born healthy. I wasnt going to have another baby due to feeling so lucky having a healthy baby, I found out I was pregnant again & had Owen in feb again by elective c-section, he is healthy. I tried with both pregnancies not not worry & kept busy. Hope this helps & congratulations xxxx

Karen - posted on 08/01/2009

Hang in there and try not to worry, although I know it is very natural to not be attached right away!!! I am four months pregnant right now and I lost my daughter last year when I was 35 weeks pregnant. Although it was very difficult, my husband and I decided to try again right away and within three months I was pregnant again. It IS very scary and those of us that have gone through loss, realize how precious each pregnancy is and how it takes everything going just perfect to produce a little angel!!! But, in my opinion the end result is going to be so worth it so I just try and place my faith in God and let him handle the rest!!! Good luck, so many are here if you need support!!!

Patricia - posted on 08/01/2009

i am right there on the boat with you! My daughter died in April 09, and now i am 6 weeks pregnant. Although i am excited about this...i am terrified. i don't know her cause of death...and i am afraid of how i will treat this one...i am scared that i will be soo over protective that she/he will not have a life.

Melissa - posted on 08/01/2009

Jessica i can totally relate to you on your situation and i am deeply sorry for your loss. we lost our daughter after three hours in October of last year and i found out that i was pregnant three months after i had her i was horrified, scared you name it.. I am now 6 months pregnant even though the ultra sounds are saying that everything should be fine i still fear the worse. I do feel guilty at times that is was too early but as i get closer to mydue date i find myself getting more attached. I wil hope for the best for you and your husband. if you need anything ask

Becky - posted on 07/31/2009

I have had a few miscarriages at different stages and am truely sorry you had to go through this. I found out i was pregnant with my daughter about 4 months after my last miscarriage and for a while was resigned to the fact i would loose her. Then something strange happened each midwife visit i got a little less worried when i heard the heartbeat, however i would say i worried right up until i was handed my daughter and even now still worry as any parent would. When i fell pregnant with my son the old fear came back but at a much reduced level. Try to think of all the positives - you are pregnant you have created life, congratulations.
Have you spoken to your husband about how he feels?

Tisha - posted on 07/31/2009

I am so sorry to hear that. I can understand your fear. I am not sure if you pray or not but I will be praying for you. I do not say this to offend so please forgive me if this has. I lost a child when he was 6 weeks old. I had a daughter a year later. She is now 12, I was so scared that she might die too but I treasured her for as long as I had her. I hope you can do the same.

Carla - posted on 07/30/2009

Jessyca, while I have not experienced a pregnancy since we lost Jody... I wanted to say congratulations. You are blessed, I will pray that you have many peace filled moments. While I am not an overly spirtiual person, I believe that everything will be okay.

Kristen - posted on 07/30/2009

Jessyca, I can understand your worries. I was also 22 wks when I lost my son. I found out that I was pregnant with my daughter 4 months later as well. I know how scared you must be. My only advice to you would be try not to worry unless you have a reason too, try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. I know that it is easier said than done, but you know that it is better for you and your baby if you do not stress. I hope that all goes well.