Pregnant and Scared...

Britny - posted on 05/01/2009

Wow, your story sounds so much like mine.

I got pregnant in May 2007. I was due February 23rd. I woke up from a nightmare that I killed my baby by sleeping on my back. My mom reassured me that it was just a nightmare...I thought I felt my son move....well...I had a docters appointment that day. I had a blood clot in the placenta...the doctors said I lost him within the last 12 hours...

I had to have him naturally and it was the hardest thing to do.



I was too scared to get pregnant, so I was being safe...when I decided to actually have sex again. Well low-and-behold I got pregnant in May 2008...and my due date was February 8th. Only a few weeks before my son was due! I was so terrified that this pregnancy was going to mirror the last and that I was going to lose my daughter too. I was so careful my whole pregnancy.



If you don't want to name your daughter the same name...do not feel pressured. Try to find a name that you both want.

People asked me if I was to have a boy if we would name him Josiah too....Wow, I could never! I would feel like I was trying to replace him.



I am sorry for what you had to go through.



Do you have Factor 5 Leiden mutation?? Just asking.....I have it,thats why I lost my son. I had to take shots everyday through out my pregnancy after my loss....



anyway, if you ever need anything or want to talk about things...you can talk to me. Either through facebook or my email.



britny97470@yahoo.com



Good luck. Things will be ok!

Heather - posted on 04/30/2009

I agree with the idea of maybe using part of your 1st daughters name as a middle name. Maybe your husband would be willing to compromise on that. I know that people used to be encouraged to use the same name for a later child but I think each child should have their own special name. Have you maybe asked you doctor about being induced early - it might make it easier on you to have this baby just a little earlier. You have enough stress going on without worrying about giving birth on the same day.

Candice - posted on 04/29/2009

I was thinking....maybe your this is a gift from your daughter. I dont want you to think I am a quack or something but I believe in things like that. I just think, like with me, that I am pregnant again so soon because Olivia would have never wanted us to be sad or to not move forward. I know that she is watching over me and I know that she would have loved to have a sister or brother coming. Maybe this is just a bad coincidence (sp). I am thinking so. Is your doctors monitoring you closely? How do you feel about them?

Meghann - posted on 04/29/2009

I lost one of my twins, Connor, last July at 6 weeks old. I got pregnant again in september and just gave birth to another boy, Logan. We knew we wanted to use Connor's name somehow so Connor is Logan's middle name. We felt that it was a great way to honor Connor since all our boys middle names are for strong men in mine and my husbands lives, and Connor certainly was a fighter and a strong little guy.

Candice - posted on 04/29/2009

Have you done much research on what happend to your baby? What are the chances of this happening again? I am really hoping that it is a slim to none chance. I know that you are going through a painfull time with the loss of 2 friends and your daughter. We definitely dont understand why but from what I hear it happened for a reason. I am so sorry for the loss of your friends. I don't think that history is going to repeat itself. Please stay focused on the good, easier said than done because of the fear, but you have to try. I am not a religious person at all but I have been praying so much that I don't go through this again. I don't know if praying helps you and I sure hope that I am not out of line by asking.

Amber - posted on 04/29/2009

Thank you both for sharing what you went through with me and for the advice as well it helps to know that people understand and it helps to have the support..
I feel like I'm going crazy and on top of it all I just found out one of my friends died yesterday.. I'm trying to hard to not be stressed but it's so difficult and to top it off all I can think about is when my daughter died because 2 months before she died one of my friends died then as well I'm just so scared history is repeating it's self...

Candice - posted on 04/28/2009

I just recently went through a similar thing. I carried my daughter to my 38th week and she was still born. I had to deliver her as well. This just happened on 2/10/09. Once I delivered her they told me that she had become entangled in the cord and it was wrapped around her neck 2x, so tight that it left an indentation in her skin. Anyhow, I had a healthy pregnancy up until then. I am now pregnant again, we wanted to get pregnant right away and I am truly scared. I am afraid this may happen again. I had 3d ultrasounds done about a week before I went into labor and the technician that did them never even said a word about the cord and you can clearly see it now. This is a horrible situation and I am so sorry for your loss. I know what you are going through. I dont suggest you name your new baby the same name. My personal feeling is that you picked that name especially for your daughter that passed and when your new daughter grows up that may cause ill feelings. She is her own person or will be. Just a suggestion. You need to be strong and just explain that that name was picked for her and like I said she is her own person and cannot have the same name. Its just not right. If you need to ever talk please email me candyapple@embarqmail.com I know we dont know each other but we sure have gone through the same thing.



With love,

Candice

Libby - posted on 04/28/2009

WOW! That is a lot going on to sort out in your head. I can totally understand you not wanting to name your 4th child the same as your 1st. I can't imagine why he doesn't understand that. Hopefully he will come around about that b/c I too think her name was special and reserved for her, not your 4th child too.



I too was pregnant on my due date. I just lost my daughter in December. And got pregnant in January. I don't understand how or why it happened again so fast, especially after it took us 2 years to get pregnant with her. But my due date for her was April 21st. And I was 13 weeks pregnant then. Which was when I started having complications with her. She was stillborn at 20 weeks. I think, atleast for me, all of these numbers and dates are all just a mind game. Just get to those milestones and remember how far you've come. I highly doubt you will actually have this child on your due date. So, I still think that day will be reserved especially for your first daughter. Take care and try to have a stressfree pregnancy. I know it's hard not to worry. I do a lot of that myself. It's normal.