Pregnant and scared.

Anne - posted on 08/22/2009

I found out I was pregnant while my son was in the hospital dying, I conceived before he got sick. Don't try to tell yourself what to feel or make judgments on those feelings. I used my pregnancy as a time to attend grief counseling for my son and allow myself to process my emotions as much as I could. I just made sure that I took care of my physical body (it's hard work growing a person:)) and reached out to develop a support system of people who could help me through the nightmare of losing my son. I don't think that the feeling of potential loss ever goes away, I think once you lose a child you have a sense of how fragile life is and how circumstances happen beyond your control.

Jessyca - posted on 08/18/2009

omg! I feel the same way! I had my son on april 3rd of this year and i am now 6wks and 4days pregnant again and i keep fearing that i have already lost the baby and not know it im so scared! is there any way you could add me as a friend on here

Brooke - posted on 08/17/2009

Nicole, my name is Brooke and i've been pregnant 5 times and i have 1 child.
My first pregnancy was a misscarriage, a year later i had a stillbirth, then another misscarriage after that. My 4th pregnancy i finally carried, until the 7month and had a placenta ebruption. My daughter was a stillbirth and they revived her after 8min, meaning she had brain damage. My daughter passed away June 14,2009. being 19mths old. 4 months before she passed i delivered Chaysen. My 5th pregnancy. He is a very healthy child. Was i scared when i was pregnanct...of course. Anyone who finds out they're pregnant are scared and freaking out at first...but you just realize that God intended for that to happen.
I guess my point is...dont be scared. I've lost and kept going...You'll always remember what you had, but it's always wonderful to enjoy what you're going to have.
It's not a replacement...it's a miracle...
God Bless you and have a WONDERFUL pregnancy :o)
Congradulations!!!!

Bronnwyn - posted on 08/15/2009

Hi Nicole, I lost a little girl at 11 weeks. We waited a year until we tried again but it was still scary knowing our next child could have the same disease that took our daughter (cystic fibrosis). I held my girl in my arms as we took her off the ventilator (there was nothing else the doctors could do). I know in my heart that she wanted us to be happy and have more children. There is nothing really that can be said that will relieve the fear that you have. That is natural. Take it from a mother that lost a child and had another-you will always have that sadness but the joy you will have with your new baby will overwhelm you.
Good Luck!

Kathie - posted on 08/12/2009

I am having a hard time because I am 5 months pregnant and I lost my lil girl at 24 weeks so me and my husband have been so scared this time that we are gooing to lose this lil girl as well but we are taking it day by day.

Claire - posted on 08/12/2009

i lost a child last year and found out in feb i was pregnant again am now 30weeks but i feel guilty but people keep saying i was sent this baby by my daughter because she wants me not to suffer or be alone she wants me to be happy but cant help being scared

Kerri - posted on 08/06/2009

hi nicole,i lost my daughter ella-rose when i was full term,her heart had just stopped beating,it was the worst and most heart breaking time in my life and i will never get over loosing her,3 months after loosing ella i found out i was expecting again and i felt so so scared,i didnt want to get used to the pregnancy or enjoy it as i was to scared,but i also felt very guilty to my unborn child and as my pregnancy progressed i tried to be positive and focas on the life i was carrying and in june 2008 i had a little girl by c section and she was very healthy but right up to the point of holding her and hearing her cry i was totally scared out of my mind,i am now expecting again and am just the same really scared and worried,no one can understand how we feel as they have not been through what we have,but again i am just trying to stay positive 4 the life inside me,i totally understand how u are feeling,u have no reason to feel guilty about not having your daughter in your thoughts all the time,u need to focas on the baby u are carrying,and im sure in months to come u will have a lovely healthy baby, xxx

JanaLee - posted on 08/05/2009

I know how you feel I had a simular experience. It was hard to explain. I felt happy and guilty at the same time. For me the feeling that something was wrong with my baby never went away I worried for the 4 pregnancies after the one I lost. But everything worked out.