Signs received after the loss of a child

Wendy - posted on 11/11/2010 ( 31 moms have responded )

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I was wondering if there are other mothers who have received signs after the loss of their child. Personally I have received many, however, I am a little hesitate to tell people in fear that they would think I am crazy or just grieving.

One of my signs, which is truly amazing occurred the day of my son's funeral. A man who was and is a complete stranger told me something completely unexpected and bizzare. He repeated the same message to my mother and my husband, all separately. What he spoke appeared to be a very personal message to our family, something which we felt would happen, but never spoke about to anyone. Exactly what he said to us no one would ever say to a grieving family, especially one who just lost a baby. After trying to track the man down afterwards, we found that he was sent overseas for work, and we have never been able to clarify his message.

I have also received numerous other little messages, and two other amazing ones from my young daughter, one of which has already come true! Has anyone else received signs or messages about their child who has passed? I would like to hear your thoughts.

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Jamie - posted on 01/02/2011

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I lost my daughter Sarah when I was 21 weeks pregnant in May 2010 and my oldest daughter Alyson is 5 about to be 6 and she calls Sarah her butterfly because she was here one minute and then she was gone. When my daughter goes with me to the cemetery to lay out flowers a butterfly will come up to her and land on my daughters headstone then Alyson will chase it like they are playing. She always tells me when we get into the car that it was Sarah.

MICHELLE - posted on 01/02/2011

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My son passed away 2 yr's ago. He was 5 1/2. I miss him more and more each day. The day he was cremated my phone went off doing all these different ring tones...like a melody of songs. Jake use to love to sneak anyone's phone he could get his lit'l hands on and play w/them. I knew that was his way of telling me he was free now...he could run and dance. Jake was born w/a rare form of muscular dystrophy so he never walked. He recently came to me when my mom's best friend of 40 yr's passed away. I saw him and Steve standing by a waterfall. The flowers and animals were like nothing I have ever seen...Jake said " see how Beautiful it is ?....smiling looking up @ Steve ...I knew then that Jake had found him and they were together. It brought me peace. I do have my bad days but I try to hold on to the signs he sends me. Lit'l butterflies...floweres that bloom out of no where...the celing fan thats turned off w/the dimmer light on. That was the last thing Jake had started playing with...he finially figured out how to use the remote. I pray he will come to me again...I just wish he could stay a lit'l longer.

Kim - posted on 03/30/2011

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In response to Tara carkner, after mt twin boys passes. I could feel one of them lying in my right arm where the other was hugging me from behind my neck from the left. For a few weeks I could feel them almost daily.

Christy - posted on 02/16/2011

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when our oldest son passed away i had bought him a necklace before and i wanted to burry it with him but i looked and looked for it and could not find it ,so after the funeral i went home and went to sleep and he was there telling me mom its under the tree i kept saying what is son and he lead me down a creek bank but i couldnt tell what it was he wanted me to have so later we were all talking and our next to the oldest son said mom i know what he wants you to find i said how do you know that he said come with me so we walked down the hill and beside a creek and my son said here it is he dug up a box and handed it to me so i opened it and there was the necklace and letters and pictures i said keith how did u know this was here he said me and dillan burried it for a time capsule we were going to dig it up in 20 years .....so yeah i believe their still here ....and they do send us signs

Britny - posted on 02/10/2011

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I had a stillbirth at 28wks...I'd like to think that the phantom kicks and flutters I have felt since is him. I lost him in 2007 and have a 2yr old daughter now....but I still feel the phantom flutters sometimes...rarely but they are there.

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Kim - posted on 03/30/2011

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I also in the days after my twins deaths, I was sitting outside so sad because my milk had come in... Two little birds swooped right down in front of me. I knew it was a sign and I was very comforted. Every now and then, I see two little birdies and I am sure it is a sign. I have felt my boys presence every now and then, not real clear but enough to know they have come to visit me.

Patti - posted on 03/26/2011

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Our son was stillborn. About 2 weeks after his death, I heard him call me from the driveway in the middle of the night. There are other times I can feel his presence. I cherish these signs.

Royel - posted on 03/26/2011

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I lost my daughter Serenity almost 2 yrs ago. She was 2 when she drowned. Her birthday was extremely difficult for me. I remember looking up at the stars crying and talking to her. I wished her a happy birthday at that moment I saw a shooting star. I know it was my Giggles letting me know she heard me

Megan - posted on 03/25/2011

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I recieved a message from my child. A few weeks after I lost him/her, I was in such a deep depression I felt I couldn't go on. I believe it was my fault that I miscarried and that I had been responsible for thier death. So, one night I had a dream: I was standing in this field/park type thing, and everything was super colourful. There were people all over, but they were all blurry and out of focus. This little boy is the only thing in focus, and he's got bright blonde hair, like my fiance had as a little boy, and he looks very familiar. He's also got my bright blue eyes, when I can see him up close. He sees me and runs up to me, throwing his arms around me in the biggest hug of my entire life and he says "Mommy, please don't cry. I love you, so please don't be sad." Then I woke up, and I cried, but that was the beginning of what would be the healing process for me. I was then able to accept that it wasn't my fault, and that my son still loved me no matter what. Because of the dream, I'm fairly convinced we were having a boy, but I will never know for sure.

Grace - posted on 03/18/2011

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In the same year, we lost our son Tristan and our dog Rosie. My grandmother-in-law fell and broke her hip and had a partial hip replacement that year too. She woke up the morning after the surgery when it was still dark out and saw a black lab and someone at the foot of her bed. The dog walked up to the side of her bed and put her head down on it for her to pet. (It was one of our tricks for Rosie "head down" and she would put her head in your lap gently for a pet). Now I know medications can do funny things but she said she actually felt the dogs fur. She said the person was a man. I also had a funny feeling after losing Tristan that this man with his hood up standing there waiting for a bus was Tristan grown up. I don't know if it's possible or not - but it's like I could feel him there. He turned and watched our car go by.. who knows.

Before we knew Tristan was sick (when he was still in my tummy), I went to leave my house to drop my daughter off a day care and a large owl swooped by right in front of me. I felt the air brush by face it was so close. He/She stayed there on my neighbor's outside light for hours. I was able to take Emma to school, come back, get my camera and go take a picture. I live in subdivision where the houses are practically on top of one another, not exactly a place for nature.... It was Tristan or God preparing me that something was going to happen. After that I kept seeing hawks everyday....

Lisa - posted on 03/16/2011

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Wendy, I just recently loss my son of 28 weeks on a monday. Tuesday morning the father of my child (we are no longer together) woke up and the radio came on and immediate he heard "I love you daddy". Then the next day a bird flew into my hands. I think it was a sign of our baby boy letting us know he is ok. I miss him alot and still am.

Stephanie - posted on 03/16/2011

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I am so glad to see that I am not the only one! I felt crazy or at least that others would think I was if I shared. My daughter passed just seven days after she was born from SIDS - she was perfect in every way as far as we are conserned. The thing that still sets in my mind (and I thought about when she was living) is that she was exactly 8 lbs and exactly 20 inches I have really heard of babies that were not so many lb. and oz. but she was exact on her measurments. Another thing that I noticed and did not plan was the morning I woke up on what would have been her 1 month birthday (very hard day) was that I was wearing the T-shirt that I had went to the hospitial in to have her and the sweatpants that I had came home from the hospital in - being very emotional before bed the night before I was not withit when I got dressed for bed - waking up and realizing what I was wearing comforted me in a way like she was giving me a sign and was trying to comfort me in a way.

Kerrin - posted on 02/20/2011

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After our daughter was cremated & her ashes spread out on the lake at the funeral park near us, my folks took us up & we put rose petals on the lake that a family friend had been kind enough to give us.

That first winter in 09, the rose bushes she took the petals from bloomed all winter. Last year on her anniversary, we picked some from ours and did the same thing. Then last winter, that one bush bloomed all winter when all the others did the usual thing and didn't.

We take it as a sign that even though we never even got to see our daughter (she was born @ 36 weeks but due to circumstances, never got to see or hold her) she's telling us that she's here with us.

Sherry - posted on 02/16/2011

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I feel that all of you that have dreamed of your child are so blessed. i have only dreamt of Dan once and as soon as I realized he was dead, I woke up and have never dreamed of him again. It will be 5 years in May, that Dan died.

Sherry - posted on 02/16/2011

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I posted a moment ago but had to add. sorry. I forgot about the voice mail my daughter got on her phone.The caller ID number that showed up was 000-000-0000. The voice mail was all stactic except for 1 word. It said my daughter-in-law's name. And I have also felt Dan pulling my blanket over my shoulder. He knew I don't like having my shoulders uncovered.

Sherry - posted on 02/16/2011

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Wendy, I haven't exactly received messages however i have had some very strange things happen. I was cleaning my van one day shortly after Dan died. A butterfly landed on the seat right by my hand and I shooed it away, It came back and landed at the same spot. I just laughed and realized that Dan was with me no matter what.

Zoe - posted on 02/15/2011

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I lost my Son Zack in 2004, aged 4 weeks and 5 days. I now have Zayna aged 5 and Zeke aged 2. In 2009 Zayna became ill in the night and by morning she had a classic rash any parent would associate with meningitus, I took her to hospital where she was diagnosed with something else and sent home apparently well except for the rash and leg pain, 2 days later she was still the same and you'd have hardly known anything was wrong with her except the rash and leg pain. I recieved a phone call from the hospital asking to take her back in immediately as her bloods were back and they were showing meningicocal. Even the doctors were supprised that she had remained so well and doubted the bloods!!!! they started her on I.V Antibiotics, to be on the safe side and 2 days later Meningitus was confirmed. My biggest sign that Zack is still here is that he had to have been her guardian angel in all this, every doctor we saw said how lucky she was!!! I like to think My precious little man is looking after his siblings.

Lisa - posted on 02/15/2011

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Thanks Hazel :-D
I'd also like to think that Gracie is still growing & learning, & watching me, her dad, & brothers!! I only wish she was here physically too.
I'm sorry for the loss of your son. I read your story on one of the other questions on this site. Hope everything is going well with your pregnancy!? All the best to you & your family :-)

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My daughter's name is sienna. i found that anytime i feel upset or have been thinking alot about her, i always see the Toyota sienna in multiples. when we named her, i had not even realized that was a model of toyota. if comforts me to see the van, i feel like she is says " hi mom, im ok"
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Hazel - posted on 02/10/2011

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Lisa, it's hard not to believe these people when they get it so spot on. A psychic who spoke to my mum said that babies do grow and get to do and learn, even though they are not there physically. It's hard to imagine, isn't it? I like to think it's true though.x

Lisa - posted on 02/08/2011

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My first child a daughter we named Gracie was stillborn at 34 weeks in February 2006, I've gone on to have 2 sons since.
When I was pregnant with my 2nd son my MIL was approached by a lady at a psychic fair. The lady told my MIL that she was about to have another grandchild, that it was a boy, & that he would be the most placid child ever. Now these were all true & he has been the most placid baby I could have asked for. She also said I had lost a daughter who was there with her telling her about my son to be. My daughter also said she felt she was choking & she died from a cord accident. Now I have always been sceptical about these things, but how else could she have known this? I also wonder, my daughter passed away as a baby, so how could she of talked? Do spirits age like living people?
My oldest son also has an imaginary female friend he calls Aggie. She isn't around very often but once a month or so he'll be playing with her. I like to think that is Gracie playing with her brother.
When I see an especially bright, shining star at night I always wave & blow my little girl a kiss from all of us too!!

Hazel - posted on 01/31/2011

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My husband and I recently felt something on our bed in the middle of the night, like a small child crawling around at the bottom of our legs and I was even pinched on the toe! I am sure this is our son Owen, who would be 15 months old now and climbing all over us. Although we got a bit of a fright at the time, I take it as a comfort.x

Carie - posted on 01/24/2011

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then i just recently had my 1st baby after losing my son and the room i stayed in was filled with ladybugs when i entered even tho the nurse said there was no way for them to have gotten into the room and they werent there when she prepped the room!

Carie - posted on 01/24/2011

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my then one and a half year old would carry toys to the hutch where his brothers ashes lay and set there and play with him. we know this cuz he came to my husband one day and said his brothers name perfectly when he had only hear it but a few time cuz we always called him by his nickname. that was prob the best out of the numerous ones we have had.

Pam - posted on 01/24/2011

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I lost my son when he was a week old in 2005. I feel fluttering by my ears. I always say it is my little angel coming to visit mommy.

Jessica - posted on 01/23/2011

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I believe that if your child wanted to reach you he would send you signs to know that he is still there... I know that many people dont believe in this type of thing but i am one of those few that do.... I personally havent had any signs from my angel in the sky but I know they will always be with us, always looking over us and i know that my family as well as my fiances family are taking good care of him up there:D

Jessica - posted on 01/22/2011

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My son passed in June at 10 days of age. Everyday after his funeral we seen dragonflies all over the place. And we seen them up till the 1st snow of the year which is VERY unusual. We live in the middle of a town with no body of water around us. I think it is our son. But I'm unsure.

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When my sister lost her son at 22 months she and her family went to the beach to spread his ashes. When they got there, there was a sand castle and his name writen in the sand below it. It was early May when they went and in the Northwestern US that is cold, like a high of 60. What was even more interesting was that the next day it was still there even though the tide had come in that night and all of the sand was wet.

I also knew that he had died before my mom had called me at school.

Laura - posted on 01/04/2011

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hi my son was born in march and past away in april and he was 12 days old he was born at 11:13 am and since he has past we have been getting these strange thing happening to us with the number 13 it never happened to us b4 he past away i think its his way of telling us hes still with us this might sound funny but its true

Wendy - posted on 01/02/2011

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Thank you ladies for responding to me. I am so glad that you too feel and see very special things which are only meant for you and the precious little person you have lost. Signs are really important to me, as it helps from making the loss so very final, plus the knowledge that our little ones are still with us even though we can no longer cuddle and care for them.

The only thing which saddens me is that more woman haven't felt and feel what we are experiencing with our very special signs.

I hope that we can all stay connected to our passed children for many, many years to come with little signs just meant for us. Thank you again for sharing your special signs with me!

Tara - posted on 11/11/2010

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Shorty after my son pass my left shoulder would feel someone sitting on it. My grandpa told me my son was with him and he was safe. My son has come and talked to me when I close my eyes but am still awake. Just a week or so ago I felt a small body lying on me well I was on side about the size is he. My son would be 18 months old.

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