SO angry and scared all at the same time!!!

Felicia Neikolle - posted on 07/25/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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So I just found out that my ex's wife just gave birth yesterday to a beautiful baby boy ... and I'm SO angry. My husband and I have been trying for several months now for only disappointment and heartbreak endlessly with three miscarriages. My ex doesn't even have anything to with the two I have by him and until he found out this child was a boy they were in the middle of a divorce and he had nothing to do with their two girls. It's just so unfair ... why does he get to have another one and I am here suffering and wishing I could be ... and to make it worse ... I'm late again. I've gotten to the point that I don't even get excited anymore ... I get scared. I don't know what I'm supposed to do ... I don't want to be happy for them b/c I don't feel like they deserve another child (they both abused mine) and yet here I am possibly going to have one ... and I'm too scare to even try and find out. I literally wanna bury my head in the sand until a baby bump happens and I'm over five months (I've lost children up to being four and a half months) ... I can't cope with this ... the last miscarriage was 8 wks ago ... and I haven't had a period since ...

Thanks for letting me vent ... sorry!

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Imani-Rashaunn - posted on 07/26/2009

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Jenny,
If you want to have another child, have you looked in to tubal reversal? Have them reverse your tied tubes (untie them) and maybe then you will have a successful pregnancy. It has happened to many woman with good outcomes. Good luck

Jenny - posted on 07/26/2009

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everyone needs to vent and I understand when I had my son my ex complained about having kids he was our 3rd child and every pregnancy but my first he would always say he didnt want the baby anyways and he would throw my girls across the room if they was in his way so I let him talk me into getting my tubes tide and now we are divorced I couldnt handle what he was doing to my girls but now when the 2 girls we had together is at his house all he does is sleep he is now engaged and she has 3 boys he takes care of but never would take care of his own kids and she can still have kids so now they can have another and I want another baby but I have been pregnant 3 times with my tubes tide and they have all ended in a miscarriage so I can understand the pain and anger because I feel like that also I just hope that the lord will give you the child you want and you can get some peace in your life

Imani-Rashaunn - posted on 07/25/2009

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There is absolutely no problem venting. Everyone comes to some point in their life where they need to vent. It's okay to be upset and its okay to have bad days. IF you think that you may be pregnant, be happy for everyday that you have that child and pray that child is strong enough to make it into this world. Always remember that there are women out there who can't even get pregnant and don't know the joys of pregnancy. There is absolutely hope for you since you have the ability to get pregnant. Stop concentrating on what is going on around you. What is going on in other people's lives doesn't matter. What matters and is most important is you and carrying a healthy pregnancy. I hope that I do not sound rude because I truly am not trying to be. I know exactly how you feel I have had a couple of miscarriages and I have had them rubbed in my face by my sister in law who also threw the fact in my face that she was pregnant and I was not.



Try taking a prenatal vitamin now. Change your diet, try to eat as healthy as you can and increase your dairy intake. If you are not pregnant this month do not get upset that will only cause you to become upset.. Start planning for next month. Continue taking the prenatal vitamin, continue to eat healthy and start charting either your basal temperature or cervical mucus. Also start calculating your peak ovulation period (if you have a hard time doing that you can buy an ovulation system from Duane Reade, CVS or Riteaid) so you know when the perfect time is.

I wish you all the best of luck and don't give up

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