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Some people are ignorant"

Brandy - posted on 02/23/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I had 2 miscarriages 1 at about 23 weeks and one around 24 weeks. I spent 6 mths lying in a hospital bed 2 circlages, lots of progesterone and 6 mths and I had my little 3 lb miracle Hailey. My MIL opened a boutique and I am working with her. I take my little girl to work with me every day so most ppl who come in know her. I had a lady come in and ask "how old is she now?" I said 2 1/2 then she asked " are you married?" I say yes. Then she asked " are you going to have another one?" I simply say " no". Not thinking I had to explain my self to a stranger! Then she said something that pissed me off and almost made me cry at the same time. " you are going to make her grow up an only child?" like it's my freakin choice! Some ppl are so ignorant to anything outside their own lives!

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Michelle - posted on 03/07/2012

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I agree with the other two comments, Since the way I lost my son, is what everyone calls a freak accident, and I know the responces I will recieve from other mothers, if they are rude like that one lady was, I will come straight out and tell my story, and then rub their rude words right back in their faces. I hate people like that, and can't stand to have them say a word if it's not their business. it's one thing to go up to a stranger with a newborn and ask all those questions. Since I lost my son, I watch a little more closely to other mothers and how they parent their children, and I admit, about half of what I see here where I am, they don't deserve to have their babies....then I see the ones that are currently fighting to have custody of their kids and have part time with them, are too loving and I don't understand how they got theirs taken away. This system is so messed up it isn't even funny, Anyway I am sorry to hear that you had that problem.

Robin - posted on 03/06/2012

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I have heard that statement more then once and it drives me insane. Ignorance is bliss or it must be. I usually tell them about my children that died so that they feel like crap for saying it. Sorry it happen to you.

Brenda - posted on 02/24/2012

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i must confess that before the loss of my little boy i was always having an opinion on other peoples matters. I never thought i would be sitting here today going through what am. Sometimes i think its a nightmare am having and i will wake up and discover its all a lie.



In the case of that woman she is a classic case of the bliss of ignorance. Forgive her am more sensitive to others needs.

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