Kirsten - posted on 11/02/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
Okay I need your input. I have started a non-profit for people who have lost infant children--whether it be miscarriage, stillborn, postnatal, SID or other related problems.
I will tell you a little about what happened with us and how I got to the point of starting this. Have two boys and two girls, a 10 yr old boy, 8 yr old boy, a 5 yr old (angel) girl and a 3 yr old girl. Now when I was pregnant with my 3 child, everything seemed to be going ok, there was one scare but they were 99% sure that their wasn't anything (down's syndrome--ultrasound showed nothing), well at 37 weeks I was in pain, thinking eh, well my first born was born at 38 weeks. Ending was I went back to my weekly check up and we found no heartbeat. The hospital and staff didn't know really how to deal with it, not that it doesn't happen but you know as well as I do, you don't understand fully until it happens to you.
Our community and several communities around me have nothing to help deal with this issue. I know how I felt and things I wished would have been in place during the time it happened to us but I want to hear from you, what did you find that would have been helpful during your hospital stay and afterwards? What was the hard decisions that you wished you had been aware of? How did you deal with the loss? What are you or did you do during the grieving process? How long has it been?
Also, have you had a child since the loss? What were your feelings during the pregnancy after loss (PAL)? Did you keep the same doctors, same hospital? What do you wish that would happen with the amount of care during the PAL--was it more, less, same? What do you feel the doctors did to ease concerns or not do?
Anything else you need me to know?