Stillborn At 38 weeks gestation

Margaret - posted on 05/11/2012

We lost our first son at 22 weeks. You're absolutely right, you never forget--you just learn to live around the memory. We have eight other children between us, but we always remember our first son--his birthstone is on my mother's ring.

Here's something you probably haven't given yourself credit for--you are amazing that you can deal with so many losses. Be proud of yourself for that and love the ones you have--and know that you will see them again someday.

Lindsey - posted on 02/09/2009

ialso lost my little baby girl at 38 weeks pregnent we named her sophie .then got pregnent asgain and lost my son at 30 weeks pregnent its been over 13 years now it doesnt get any eaiser for me but have to live each day as it comes as ive got 4 beautiful daughters i have to think about but i miss my sophie and jamie more than ever and there always in my thoughts

Sherry - posted on 02/06/2009

Wow,  so glad to be here.  My 8 th child was stillborn at 39 weeks.  I have also had 4 miscarraiges.  It really does not matter when our children pass away it is devistating.  Blessings to all of you and i will be back soon to chat more.....Sherry mother of Sarah, Tanner, Emma , Hannah ,  Nathanael, Samuel , Abigail,  Mary born still June 27/07, Isabella, and 4 little ones that passed in and around their siblings.

Libby - posted on 02/06/2009

When my nephew died it took me a long time to go to his grave.  I wanted to go, but I guess I was afraid.  Maybe afraid that it was all real (and it was.)  We haven't buried my daughter yet, we still have her ashes (she only passed 9 weeks ago).  When I was in the hospital they gave us the option of having them creammate her and take her to a memorial at a local cemetary where they bury all the babies together in a mosoleum type place.  It was all free, but I decided against it because I knew I would want to go to my baby's grave and know exactly where she was and not have her buried with all the other babies and feel lost there because I didn't know exactly where her ashes would be.  But I do think, like Melanie said, that sometimes you don't celebrate certain things, but you go to your child and are with him or her instead of that celebration.  I'm sorry both of your babies died on your birthdays.  What a sad irony. 

Melanie - posted on 02/06/2009

i also lost a baby at 33 weeks, we called her paris nicole. i had councelling which i found helped me so much. i also lost a baby on my birthday but was only 12 weeks pregnant 14 years ago and even now dont celebrate my birthday. we visit little paris' grave quite often and i find it the most peaceful place on earth. i wish you all the best.mel x