Wendy - posted on 06/19/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )
Four months ago I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl. It was only 13 months to virtually the day that I lost my one year old son, and gave birth to my daughter. The pain and despair of losing a baby is the most horrific and overwhelming experience any parent could possibly go through, and when I found out I was pregnant there of course were mixed emotions. There were days of happiness that a new baby will be coming into the home again for my husband, and our children and I, and there were moments of pain and heartache at the loss of our son, a little man we would never see grow up, go to school, make friends and get married and start his own family. But throughout it all, and upon the wonderful birth of our special little girl, we as a family are starting to heal, and our new daughter is definitely helping us through the pain.
Of course we will never forget our son, he is our son and always will be, but as a family we needed to love and cuddle and care for another little person, and to help get us through our darkest hours, and our daughter has done that for us, she has given our family hope, and that is exactly what we called her... Hope.
So for anyone who is contemplating having another baby after losing their child, if you and your husband are emotionally and physically ready to do so, then please try for another baby. Children are blessings and a gift from God, only good things and happiness will follow. If you aren't quite ready, then wait until you are, and if you couldn't go through it again, then that's alright too. I'm here to tell all those mums out there that it is perfectly fine to have another baby after losing a child, and who cares what anyone else thinks about your decision. It is yours and your partners decision, and what you want is what is right. I'm here to say that my decision for having another baby is the best thing I ever did, and I am the happiest woman alive every time I look at my beautiful daughters face and see her gorgeous smile. She reminds me a little of my son, and that is only a good thing, because as long as she is here with me, so is my son :)