THESE SHOES POEM for mothers who have lost a baby.

Stacia - posted on 04/10/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )

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I absolutely love this poem b/c it is EXACTLY how I feel. I hope someone else enjoys the poem also. I lost my lil girl @ 18 weeks and still have no answers as to why. I have three beautiful boys and carried them just fine. Natalee Amber you are my angel and I think about you EVERY day!

THESE SHOES

I wear a pair of shoes
They are ugly shoes
Uncomfortable shoes
I hate my shoes
Each day I wear them and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step
Yet, I continue to wear them
I get funny looks wearing these shoes
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs
They never talk about my shoes
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don't hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt
No woman deserves to wear these shoes
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.

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Celine - posted on 06/26/2010

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this poem is perfect my leona passed away in may at just over nine weeks and every where i go i feel everyone is looking at me exactly how it says in the poem, but it helps to know i'm not alone and other women have been though the same and been able to keep walking! thank you x

Christy - posted on 05/08/2010

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i can relate to this peom in so many ways ,i lost my 16 yr old in june of 2007 and my baby boy in oct. of 2008 and the pain of walking in my my shoes is at times unbearable thanks

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Pamela Lowe - posted on 06/09/2014

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My son passed 12/28/13. I'm on the bus headed to work trying not to have a melt down. He was 30 years of age. He left behind three boys, 11, 10 and 2. People say it's a blessing, at times I'm not sure. It hurts to see them at times. I'm tired of these shoes. I'm not sure how these shoes feel day to day. Sometimes they are so tight, I can't breathe. Other days they feel to big. They don't fit right yet because I still have problems believing I'm even wearing these shoes. With every fiber of my being, thank all of you for the replies. O thank the Lord, for our strength. Only God, knows our fight each day and I believe we our the perfect soldiers because of the battle we endure daily in these shoes. Thanks for the poem!!!! I rarely have words to express how I feel. Have a blessed day.

Hiwot Wolday - posted on 04/21/2012

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This poem is the best... I just lost a baby boy...



Hi my name is Hiwot. I have a doughter she will be 3 on June. I am very happy she is in my life with out her I will nothing... I was expecting 6 months ago for my baby boy to come around, before my due date a week a half let for him to come to the family, but he didn't make it.. I am heart broken. I can't bealive what happen, I feel like I did something wrong I hurt my daughter & my hasband. That kill me when I think about it. I miss my boy Nathaniel he could be 6month tomorrow. I miss him so much... I cry everyday, I know he is in a better place, but to doom for him to go. We were attached on cord but I did get a chance to tell him how much mommy love him...

Brittany - posted on 04/14/2012

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I was 18 weeks pregnant when I lost my beautiful daughter because of a subchorionic hematoma. We named her Angel because now she is in heaven watching over us.

Destiny - posted on 02/18/2012

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i love the poem !!!! :) here's my story



On October 5 of last year, My boyfriend and I found out i was pregnant. For a few weeks me and my boyfriend had arguments on what should we do. My boyfriend swear his first child is going to be a boy. And i swear my first child is going to be a girl. The last week of october we made the decision of, if he didn't have an job by the time i was 3-months pregnant (nov- Dec) i was going to get an abortion.

November 13, my boyfriend was admitted to the hospital on life support. November 16, the doctors pronounced my boyfriend was brain damaged and wasn't responding. He was pronounced died later on that day. November 18 was the last day, i saw my boyfriend laying on bed 11 on lifesupport, some what alive. That night i felt my baby move.

December 1, i had an miscarriage. December 2 was my boyfriend's Muller funeral. I broke down in tease i wanted to go with my baby and my boyfriend. i think of them everyday of how my life would be like if they were still alive. Feb i would of been about 5 0r 6 months. i believe i was having a boy.

May my baby and my boyfriend muller rest in peace

Nicola - posted on 07/20/2010

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These shoes are my shoes too - and I so wish I wasn't wearing them - and I wish none of you were wearing them either. I lost my beautiful 7 year old daughter last October as a result of a brain tumour we didn't even know she had. She was so brave and strong despite being very frightened and we miss her so very very much.

Nicole - posted on 07/18/2010

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I totally relate to every word, not just for the loss of my daughter but the several other horrible life experiences I have had to endure. This is absolutly amazing...

Grace - posted on 07/17/2010

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I justn lost my son Jordan Tyler to trisomy 18 he was almost 36weeks utero noone knows how i feel im glad theres other people to talk to who knows the emptyness and hurt im going thru i go visit him everyday and still hoping i will wake up from a bad dream

Elizabeth - posted on 07/12/2010

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The Poem is Beautiful and makes me thank God that she is in heaven or there was a problem with her that the Lord needed to take her.

Jennifer - posted on 07/12/2010

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Says it all and anyone who doesn't know what the poem is saying by the 3rd or 4th line has a different pair of shoes :)

Andrea - posted on 06/27/2010

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i like the poem. my son was born at 24 weeks june 6,2009 and we lost him at 7 months old january 27, 2010.

Angela - posted on 06/22/2010

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Crying, but thank you very much for sharing this poem. Here I go just like everyone else so far this is so very very true.
Angela Williams

Anastasia - posted on 06/17/2010

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I keep coming back to this poem. It's exactly how i feel. I first read it when you posted it in april, i cried hard because it hit home so much...now, i'm still crying but i can breath. such an improvement. anyway, thanks for posting, i'm so glad i have this in my life now.

Kim - posted on 05/12/2010

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Thank you for sharing that poem. It really does say it all! It works for any women who has lost a child no matter how long it has been. I lost my daughter at 6 weeks of age in 2004. I have since had 2 beautiful healthy boys and I adore them but I still feel the pain of the loss of Zaria from time to time.

Sonja - posted on 05/11/2010

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WOW! This brought tears to my eyes. I lost my son Isaac 8 years 6 months ago on Nov 13, 2001..... He was 3 hours old. It's amazing how so many of us endure the same pain or similar crosses to carry yet we feel so alone. I know God held me than and holds me each time - I can't bare the pain that I carry from the lost of my baby, but it is lonely not to be able to talk to someone that understands my pain.

Amy - posted on 05/06/2010

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This is beautiful, this is something that would be nice for those people around us that dont know how we feel to read, it puts so much of how we feel in a simple way. Thank you for sharing!

Tamara - posted on 04/16/2010

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That is truly beautiful.. I had a miscarriage last sept and would have delivered almost a month ago.. I am pregnant now with my second child and still scared.. I just hit 20 weeks but the thoughts are still there.. Thank you for sharing this.

Micah - posted on 04/16/2010

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Thank you so much for this poem.People truly do not undersand the hurt unless they have experienced it themselves.I lost my son 16 years ago this May and some days it feels like it was yesterday.

Stacia - posted on 04/16/2010

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I am glad others like this poem. It definitely fits b/c many ppl do not understand what you are going through when you experience a loss.

Sarah - posted on 04/15/2010

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Thank you for posting, it is so true....today marks 3 months since I lost my 1 day old girl.

Rosita - posted on 04/12/2010

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love it and thank you Stacia for it. It always helps to know im never alone.

MONICA - posted on 04/11/2010

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This poem says it all..I lost a 9 1/2 yr old on jan 08, 2008 and this is so true.....

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