Today is the one year anniversary of delivering my miscarried baby boy. I'm 26 wks. pregnant now...

Tiffany - posted on 08/17/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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One year ago today I had to give birth to my dead baby boy. When I think about that night in the hospital, it's like it just happened. I remember every detail of that devistating night. I held his tiny body in my hands and now his ashes are in an ern for me to keep. I miscarried at 19 wks and now I'm pregnant again and sooooo hopeful. But I'm sad too. I don't want to forget him but I feel like no one wants to hear me remind them that it's been a year. My husband is supportive but he's not still grieving the way I am. Should I do something on this day to honor him? I'm excited that I'm having a baby girl now and I'm nervous all the time too. I would just die if I had to go through a loss all over again. I'm still not over losing my son. I guess I just wanted to vent in a place where other people understand and can relate. Thanks everyone who is on this sight who shares and provides support. God bless all of you who are suffering.

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Jessyca - posted on 08/18/2009

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I think it would be great if you could maybe send up some balloons to him ! I had my son april 3rd 2009 i was 23 weeks but he passed at 22 weeks and i delieverd by c-section. I am now pregnant again and so very nerous! I am 6wks and 4 days so still very early and i dont want to go through that again so i know how you are feeling

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Amanda - posted on 10/12/2010

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I have three boys at home 5 3 and one and I have a daughter in heaven who was born aug42010 and she will have christmas gifts and a birthday party and an easter basket I dont care if anyone else likes it or not

Sophie - posted on 10/05/2010

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i lost my son ( he would have been my third). back in 1993. my two older ones were 3 and 2. it is still difficult for me now. he was stillborn and i was 6 months. they induced me to go into labor and it was a rough night in thehospital too.. but i couldnt hole him.. i was sooo scared. now i do regret i didnt hold him and now i work right across the street fom the cemetery where he is buried. ( i didnt work there at the time we buried him , i was relocated to the main office a few years later.) i had another child in 1996 and we all went to visit him as a family. it took me YEARS to go see him because i felt i failed him as a mom. ( i went back to school at the time and i thought all the running around getting to school and taking care of my two babies at the time, hurt him) i am blessed that he is with god and my other kids are wonderful and they are my life. im sorry to all the mothers who has lost a child. remember you are truly blessed. and thank you for opening this page, i still have trouble dealing with the loss , even now when my kids are 21, 19 and 14. but telling you all about it , helped.alittle ..

Michele - posted on 10/01/2010

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Tiffany, what you are experiencing emotionally is very very normal.. I have lost 5 babies, and gave birth to two of them, a little boy and a little girl. One at 19 weeks and one at 20 weeks. I just had my son fianlly 3 months ago. he was premature 6 weeks early but no health problems hes extremely healthy and now 10 pounds. I also experienced many different reactions to my losses from family and friends. I had a hard time getting support. this issues is very very hard for people in general to deal with and for most its easier for them to not think or talk about it. in doing so they leave the mother behind in dealing with it alone. your son is very much your child whom will live within your heart until its your time to go home and be with god. and he will meet you. its not wrong of you to honor your son. YOU do whatever it is you need to do to make you feel better as well as heal. I had decided during this last pregnancy to seek a councilor to help with my fears and stresses over the possibility of losing again. I found that to be extremely helpful. HUGS to you and stay strong my friend. Your welcome to add me to your facebook if you have it. and or this website. I understand how you feel on many levels. and I am willing to give you understanding support

Niki - posted on 09/26/2010

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i understand ur pain , our son jacob israel was born asleep on june 10,2010 i was 7 months preg i know in my heart he is forever alive yes he is not here & our heart aces for loving him here on earth but in due time we will meet again . i pray to god & jacob to give us strength at our weakest moments we always speak of our son he is a blessing & now in heaven with other guardian angels. its only been 3 month for us but feel forever he will forever be our 2 son & our 3 child noone is gonna ever say different ! love never dies because im proof i love you son (jacob israel) & i know you will get through this with support from ur family & friends ur not alone god bless & im hear for you

Joey - posted on 09/24/2010

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Some body told me something a little while ago which helped me alot i hope u understand and that it helps u too,
A person dies 3 times
once when they take their last breath
second when they are cremated or burried
and third when there not spoken of any more so carry him with u forever and speak of him as often as u can put the word out there because he now lives on through u
xo

Summer - posted on 08/18/2009

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You will never forget! You don't need to worry about forgetting.



I lost my first baby when she was only 12 days old, and that was almost 13 years ago. 10 1/2 years ago I had a miscarriage in February 16 weeks gestation(it was the second one between my first baby and my son, the first I had only found out I was pregnant) and I was scared to death when I was pregnant with my son because I thought that I would loose him too. I couldn't believe that I would be able to have a baby, and now he is 9 1/2.



What always helped me was talking to my grandmother (when she was still alive), she lost a two year old and would cry about it after more than 50 years. It made it feel okay that I still grieve, it is normal and it is okay! You have a lot of people here who will be that support for you. My heart goes out to you!

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