Trying again.

Megan - posted on 03/29/2011

It's not that I'm scared. I'm ready to try again, I'm just anxious about having another miscarriage. And they've already told me that I miscarried due to a chromosomal problem during fertilization. I had a blighted ovum. So it isn't anything I can actually prevent from happening.

YOLANDA - posted on 03/29/2011

It's not good to try again right now give yourself some time and you can't be afraid to try it again you even may succeed at the next one and also you can go to the doctor and find out what's wrong why this happen the first time but you can't be scared to try it again.

Teresa - posted on 03/28/2011

Megan, sorry for your loss. We lost our first baby at 12 weeks, just when we thought we'd passed the big hurdle by getting to the end of the first trimester. It was one of the hardest things I ever went through. The next pregnancy was tough because I was so worried every day that something would go wrong. I was very anxious but I kept telling myself to love this baby no matter what. If he/she made it then I would want to be able to say how excited and joyous I was. If it didn't make it then I felt that the little one should have joy for as long as it was with me. Well, it was a tough pregnancy and I was hospitalized at 29 weeks (about 2 weeks after I let myself relax and enjoy the pregnancy). Our son was born at 30 weeks but he did great and was released to come home about 5 1/2 weeks later. He has been nothing but healthy and thriving since. He was worth every bit of anxiety I had that second time around.

I wish you luck. Don't try again until you are truly ready and know that it will be a rough road because you know first hand that loss is possible. I must say, when your pregnancy goes well and you have your little baby in your hands, you may never forget the child you lost but the sting will get less and less as time goes by.

Jamie - posted on 03/28/2011

I am very sorry for your loss. Loosing a baby is very hard. The first child I lost was actually my second . I had my first with a healthy normal pregnancy and then my second I lost at 18 weeks. I was devastated. I didn't know why it happened and didn't get to hold or see my baby and it was so hard, I was only 19 years old. My husband and I decided about a year later to try again but it took almost a year and a half to get pregnant again. Once again I had a wonderful healthy baby. I was to the moon and then in Jan 2010 I found out I was pregnant once again. I went to the dr at 21 weeks to find out what the sex of our baby was and there was no heartbeat.....once again....devastated. I went in on May 28 to deliver my baby and had Sarah on the 29th. I had a beautiful baby girl who was so precious. I was told I was 21 weeks according to my lmp but the dr on call at hospital said she was about 24 weeks. When I delivered the dr knew what had caused her to pass. Her cord had gotten wrapped around her neck 3 times, around her torso once and was in a "true" knot. She had a very long cord and was so active that is what had caused it. I layed in the hospital bed looking at the ceiling thinking to myself.....I never want to go through this again, I will never get pregnant again because I will be so paranoid the whole time. About 7 months after loosing Sarah I found out I was pregnant and all I could think was....how am I going to handle this, what will I do if I loose this baby too. I am now 18 weeks pregnant and so scared but also very happy and excited. I have to telll myself that Sarah and my other baby were brought back to Heaven because God wasn't ready for them to be here on earth. It is a very difficult thing to deal with and it takes time. I still think about my daughter everyday and found out last week that I am having another girl which makes me miss her even more. I am due only a month away from my due date with Sarah. I have always believed that everything happens for a reason and even though I don't understand why I lost my babies I do know that it's because God has a bigger plan for them and my family. I wish you the best of luck on getting pregnant and just rememebr that even if it doesn't happen right away it will happen when it's supposed to. God Bless you and your family.

Nancy - posted on 03/28/2011

I had alot of anxiety durning my pregnancy. I think everyone else was more excited than i was . I had a very hard time being happy about being pregnant because I was so scared that something was going to happen. I Did have my fears about this pregnancy but i also seen a specialist through out my pregnancy and we ended up having him 6 weeks early with a 2 week stay in the NICU.

Megan - posted on 03/27/2011

Awh, congratulations!. It's encouraging to hear success stories :). Did you have anxiety issues during your pregnancy? I think that's my biggest fear. Not being able to enjoy my pregnancy because I'm so worried. Also, My grandmother on my mother's side had two babies (28 days old, and 16 weeks old) die of SIDS, so that's also always in the back of my head too. I want to be able to enjoy the early months of my childrens' life, and my pregnancies without constantly fearing something may happen. Any suggestions on how to handle that feeling of impending doom? haha.

Nancy - posted on 03/27/2011

I lost my first at 37 weeks and for me trying again was the hardest decsion that my husband and i have every made. With all the what ifs and fears that we had we made the choice and went through with it. We now have a 9 month old little boy. it was the hardest but best choice we ever made.