Why are the coroners and media so cruel when you are grieving?

Wendy - posted on 06/05/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

I lost my beautiful baby boy nearly 2 and a half years ago, and the coroner and media feel that it's their right and duty to report my son's name on the news, in the newspaper and on the internet.

What happened to my son will not help others, it won't stop this from happening again unfortunately, all it has done has stuck a sharp knife back into the wound we are carrying around with us every single day.

I pleaded with the coroner not to release our names, or my son's name, as it has nothing to do with the case, and doesn't effect it in any way. I explained to him in a very lengthy letter that if he releases our name it will only hurt our family again, and all the teasing my children received at school will start up again. But in this pathetic man's infinite wisdom, he decided that me and my family are nothing and no bodies, and that the general public have the right to know our names. Where is the justice. I've lost my baby, and now when I google his name, bad things come up. If I was a pedophile I would have my name suppressed from the papers to protect the victims (if we were related), but what about my son......he is a victim I told them, so why isn't his name suppressed? The media in my opinion are the scum of the earth. They don't need to write people's names to write a story. A story can be written without names, or have the names changed to protect the grieving family - but no, I was told, they are just doing their job, and not to be upset with them.

Now if the shoe was on the other foot, and they were the one who lost a child, and then had the details dragged through the coroner's court, two years later, and then have their name and their child's name splashed all over the media, along with photos of their home - how would they feel? I'm sure they would do their up-most to keep their names out of the paper. Well this is what they are doing to us. I've been told to expect more as well.

Where are our basic human rights gone? Why can't we be left alone? We aren't criminals, and no charges were ever laid, nor will they be, it's just the coroner has a bee in his bonnet and wants to do an inquest over our son. We didn't want the inquest, and asked for them to stop, but we have no rights, they can do what the hell they want to. This is just wrong, wrong, wrong.

I'm trying desperately to protect my children from all of this, but it may just come out. I don't know what to do. To tell them what is going on, now, and what could be on the news AGAIN tonight, to prepare them, or just pray to God that more important news is mentioned tonight and they forget all about our story. How do I project my children from this?