Estelle - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )
Our youngest girl is adopted, we hade her since she was 4 days old, we went through the whole pregnancy with the bilogical mother and we paid for everything. She really does feel like my own child. If i sit and think hard enough i can imagine myself pregnant with her. Will it be wrong if i never tell her that she was adopted. As the adoption was in the family, so she knows her bilogical mom but doesnt know her as a mom and the bilogical mom referes to me as the babies mother. I need advice as i am scared as hell if i tell her the truth one day she would want to know who her BM is and if she knows that she might wanne go to her BM as they have a really good relationship and see each other alot. Or would it be best to tell her that she is adopted and not tell her who her BM is. What advice can anyone give me. She is almost 1 year old, so i still have a few years to go, but this is something thats bugging me day in and day out.