Bed wetting!

Bambi-Jo - posted on 05/02/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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my son will be 9 years old next month and pee's the bed just about everynight! It is very fustrating because we have tried soo many things to break him of this but still he pee's the bed!! i need help and advise!!! Please!

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Kathy - posted on 03/14/2010

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i too have 2 boys with this problem , i did find that using a shower curtain rather than a plastic mattress helps alot . it doesn't make a sound and feels more comfortable for them to sleep on , the plastic matress covers never seemed to stay on right . i wish i had a cure but for now this is what we do along with all the usual holding fluids at night ,getting up to pee in the middle of the night etc.

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My son is 9 and he had this problem up until he was 7, now he gets up and pees at least 1x per night

After charting his daily routine for about a week and just observing him I realized that
A. He was not getting enough sleep at night
B. I was giving him a warm cup of milk each night at 9pm before bed
C. Almost every morning he said he had a bad dream :(
D. He was very very embarrassed about wetting the bed

I constructed a routine

When he awoke with a wet bed I told him that it was ok, sheets can be washed, it's not a big deal and it's just part of growing up that he's becoming a big boy..
After he came home from school, it would be shower, supper, homework then playtime
I cut out the milk and his last drink would be a cup of water about 7pm
After that he'd tell me about his day which alot of times included a bully, I'd comfort him and then read him a story before bed.. and his bedtime was changed to 8pm
by about 8:30pm he's asleep sometimes even within 5 minutes of laying down he was passed out.

I'm not saying this will work for you but each child is different and it worked for me..

In my case, my son was playing so very hard all day and not getting enough sleep combined with bullies at school that when he hit the bed he was just so exhausted and tired that he just slept, he was too tired to wake up. He is still in that routine and now even gets up and drinks water in the night when his throat is dry.. but no more bed wetting..

hope it helps
good luck

Michelle - posted on 03/09/2010

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My son is on meds. and they are not helping. We go back to the urologist this week. He's a heavy sleeper and has a small bladder. I've just accepted this is the way it is and when his bladder catches up to the rest of his body he will stop. He wear's pull ups and when he has sleepovers I tell the mom and she helps him in the morning so none of his friends know.

Vera - posted on 03/07/2010

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My ten year old has finally outgrown her bed wetting at about 9 years old. I did so much research on the situation, and the most logical answer for "why" it happened was in a study I found on sleep patterns and bed-wetting. The kids literally sleep through it. It didn't matter if they didn't drink a drop of liquid before bed, it was still going to happen. By altering the sleep patterns, you promote the child to wake up easier and their bodies learn to respond to itself when they have to go potty. I started waking up at 3 am and would just gently wake my daughter, enough to get her out of the REM sleep she is in for so long, and although she remained asleep, just not as deeply, I found (after a few weeks) that she eventually got herself to the bathroom in those early morning hours when she would have had her "accidents". I did not make her get up and "try" to go, just altered her sleep patterns for a while. The accidents became less frequent until they just stopped. I don't know if this will help anyone else, but I swear by it. She work pull-ups and when she had her first big sleep-over at 6 years old, out of the seven girls there, half wore pull-ups. Please make sure your child knows they are not alone in this. It is not something to be ashamed of, but something you will help them through as long as it continues.

Florencia - posted on 01/18/2010

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My brother had this problem i think back then they gave him like a nasil spray or something that was supposed to help, so i think they may have medicines for it. I know that what ended up being my brothers problem was instability, stress, diet and exercise. My dad got him on a schedule with a healthy diet. He had a routine. Wake up use the bathroom eat breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks same times daily swam daily for exercise. He didn't drink anything 2hrs before bed and also used the bathroom right before bed. Bedtimes, nap times everything was scheduled. He also had ADD. I don't know but i found a lot of ppl with ADD also have or had the bed wetting issue. My daughter a few times had accidents due to stress and/or fear this may be an issue too. This is not their fault so please don't nag, ridicule, humiliate, or punish them. If you need to maybe have them start to see a psychiatrist or maybe have good thorough conversations with them that will make them feel accepted and loved you may find out what's bothering them that could be the problem and find your solution. I hope this helps, good luck to all of you

Brynna - posted on 12/27/2009

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Here's a money saving tip while trying to get past this: go to the remodeling area of your local walmart (or where ever) and look for the rolls of painter's carpet tape. I used this to cover my child's mattress while potty training. It really protects the bed better than even those water-proof sheets.

Janice - posted on 12/23/2009

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Also, if anybody has a "cleaning house' around them, they have this great stuff to spray the mattress with, to get rid of any urine smells and it kills the all the bacteria from the urine, and more importantly it is safe for your child. It works awesome, it's about 10 bucks but worth it. Just go to the counter and ask them about it, they'll know.

Janice - posted on 12/23/2009

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My daughter has recently just stopped wetting the bed and she is 9 1/2....She is sucha heavy sleeper so she would never wake up when she would have to pee. She was doing at least 3 times a week but has finally now just stopped on her own. Her bed has been dry for months! It makes it a lot easier cause I know how fustrating it can be! What I would try to do is wake her up everynight beofre I went to bed and make her go to the bathroom...it worked most of the time. Cutting off drinks after a certain time never seemed to work. But those are things you can try anyway. but honestly my advice is just wait it out, they will eventually grow out of it on their own! and LOTS of kids at this age still do this...I was amazed on how many other mothers I know with the same problem!

Janis - posted on 11/03/2009

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Hey my daughter is the same! Give it time. I know they will out grow it and if the issue is pushed the problem can get worse.

Jenica - posted on 10/30/2009

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my son has the same problem.

try no drinks after 6pm.

we use mattress covers

goes bathroom before bed

and use goodnights. ( there are briefs or boxers)

another idea is to talk to your child.. bedwetting could be anxiety induced.

it may be an emotional issue and not a medical

Nicole - posted on 10/29/2009

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First make a rewards system if kids get something out of it they are more likely to try harder. My boy ha been dry for two days now whoohoo. I limit fluid that is key and make sure they go pee the second befor they go to bed. If your child has a habit of coming into your room in hte middle of the night then get up and take them to the bathroom then it will teach thier bodies to get up and pee in the middle of the night. If you have ikea buy a waterproof mattress cover they are easy to wash and save your matresss and be patient my mother said i wet till i was ten and my brother and sister too. good luck.

Cheryl - posted on 10/26/2009

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get a bedwetting alarm. We got ours off the internet. They work!! My daughter never had a dry night until we got an alarm when she was 7.

Elmary - posted on 10/09/2009

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My 9 year old was wetting the bed every night until we took him to the docs he suggested meds but i decided that I did not want him taken any meds so another thing he suggested was for us to not give him fluids an hour before bed this seems to work. He doest drink any fluids an hour prior to bed and then goes to the bathroom before he climbs into bed. occasional he wakes up to a wet bed.

Carly - posted on 10/01/2009

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my daughter had this problem untill about a year ago. we cut off drinks an hour before bedtime and told her if she woke up even a little in the night to come and wake me up, and we would go to the restroom together. we started leaving lights on in the house so she wouldnt be scared getting up in the night.she only woke me up a couple of times. we started checking on her periodicaly and noticed that it was happening right before she woke up in the morning, so we started getting up a little earlier and heading straight for the bathroom. i'm not sure wich helped, but somthing did!

Beth - posted on 09/23/2009

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My son turned 9 in April and we have the SAME problem... He probably wets 5 nights a week. He shares a room with his brother and he's on the top bunk. I am only 5'1 so stripping the bed every single night and re-making it the next day is NOT fun for me. We have tried everything... waking him in the middle of the night, limiting fluids to the point of no drinks after dinner... nothing works. We have an appt with our pediatrician next week to discuss medication. I don't want to do it, but he's starting to avoid sleepovers and going to friends houses. Anyone have kids on meds? Are there side effects? Do to recommend it??

Susan - posted on 09/22/2009

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My daughter was 9 in March. She wets the bed every night. Wearing night pants has helped the washing. We have tried Endep medication which worked for a while. Our local child health clinic runs eneurisis programs involving recording of wetting and drinking, and using bed alarms. We are just starting this. They recommend drinking water right up to bedtime, and no juice or milk after noon - and this seems to be working and greatly decreasing her wetting even though I don't understand why!

Kathy - posted on 09/14/2009

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i am also having this prolem with my 9 and 7 year old boys . i have too had to stop buying pull ups due the expense . i am now trying to limit fluids at night and i get up around 2 am and make them go to the bathroom. since i am getting up in the middle of the night with my 5 1/2 mo old anyway. seems to be helping most nights.

Amy - posted on 05/25/2009

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I also have an almost 9 year old daughter who wets nightly. I have tried everything from bribery to threats and even bought an $80 potty pager on the advise of my pediatrician (don't waste your money). I am completely frustrated but am loathe to put her on more medication then she is already on for anxiety and stomache problems. Help please!

Jill - posted on 05/20/2009

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Popular problem. My son also is still wetting at night, he wears pullups to bed, but it's getting really expensive with 3 other kids now, too. And I don't want him to be embarassed when he goes over to friends' houses for sleepovers, or when he has friends over. The doctor just says he'll grow out of it. I don't know what to do. We've been limiting his drinks, not letting him have anything to drink after dinner except maybe a small drink of water right before bed, and have him go potty right before bed...it hasn't seemed to work very well, BUT I'm not home at night, my husband is, and I'm not sure how well he sticks to this routine.

Melodye - posted on 05/12/2009

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Probably a small bladder and sleeping heavy. Try to limit drinks a few hours before bed and use pullups. Makes it easier for you and less embaressing for the child. I went throught his with my two oldest. Also, try to get them up at least once for a bathroom trip before you go to bed.

Lisa - posted on 05/08/2009

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My daughter will be 9 and still wets the bed but we ended up going to the doctor and getting her some medication she still occasionally wets but it is probably 75% better....pull-ups for big kids are also a god send for the washing sanity...they are expensive but save a ton of time and energy on laundry!

Kathleen - posted on 05/05/2009

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Any advice on dealing with this issue would be greatly appreciated by myself also...my son turned 9 in February and if i have 2 dry nights in a row we are happy. I've tried every "home" method I can find and everything short of doctors intervention...which i am hoping to avoid.......as much for his self confidence as my own washing sanity lol i would love some new ides too

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