Emotional 9yr.old -- hormones already?

Dianne - posted on 06/15/2009 ( 40 moms have responded )

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My daughter seems to be so much more emotional lately. She definitely holds a short fuse with my husband and me. No matter how innocent the situation, she somehow ends up with hurt feelings. Please don't tell me this is a glimpse into her teen years. Is this unusual? Is this just end of the year stress? I can't take the whining! This is so unlike her!

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Laurie - posted on 03/14/2010

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My 9 year daughter is unbelievable lately!!! (she'll be 10 in June) She's not physically developing yet but whinny, tantrums & emotional!!!! She's putting all of us over the edge! This is just not fun!!! I just want my sweet little girl back!!! Some days I just don't know what to do with her. :-(

Sarah - posted on 01/07/2010

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It is so great to see that my daughter isn't the only super emotional drama queen in the world. I have no idea how to even deal with all of this. I was not like this when I was her age and I am not sure how to talk to her. Every time I try to talk to her she either runs off crying, screaming at me, or just shuts down. I would really like to have a close relationship with her but she keeps shutting me out. There is always some off the wall excuse for every little thing that makes her mad. Her dad and I split up years ago and I thought that was the problem, she did tell me that isn't it. I don't know much about having "the talk" with her and have no idea where to begin, I am terrified about what the future holds and wish there was an easier way to have to go through with all of this...seriously...she can't be starting to go through puberty already!?!

Casey - posted on 03/16/2010

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My son will be 10 in October and we are going through this too. It's not so much him crying as it is the attitude.... he seems to think 9 is the new 18. Everything is unfair and he hates us.... welcome to puberty.................

Allison - posted on 02/25/2010

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I think it's their generation where they are going through puberty earlier now. My 9 year old daughter is exactly like all of your kids. My mother has been doing some research for me and she said that taking Omega 3 will help with her mood swings and hormonal imbalance. We are not taking a few extra vitamins. I'll let you know if it works.

Diana - posted on 07/09/2009

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We also are going through the same thing. I recently bought a book on the changes for my daughter. Every night her and I go read it alone without siblings or dad around. We are to the period chapter nad she is enjoying it. We just finished the pubic hair area, and she even asked me some questions. I was really scared thinking OMG how am I going to talk abotu this with her. My mom didn't I learned from my sister. I didn't want that for mine. So we have an open line of communication so far and it seems to be helping with her understanding what is going on also. :)

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Cheryl - posted on 10/02/2012

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I so know what u mean! my nine year old too, she is going to be 10 soon and i tell ya she is is sensitive to! but you have to try not to feed in to her emotions or her short temper just walk a way for a few min until the situation mellows out and then asked her what is up! some times talking helps them or writing in a journal, Or drawing a pic even if they turn that down just walk away.. let her feel the emotion its hard .. for me at times i end up not wanting to leave my daughter alone i wanna know what is making her feel this way asap!! And trust me it don't work i'm feeding in to her emotions! It takes time im learning all this to

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hange in their hormones big time we must breath and stay

Emma - posted on 07/06/2011

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O.M.G thank goodness for that i know i'm a little late with the post seeing as how u all posted in 2009 but my daughter is an November 01 baby so she's 9 now but i was Google ing after our 10.000 row and i found this i'm just so glad that my daughter is not the only one that strops and whines, shouts and screams and thinks the whole world is against her i was beginning to think i was just doing something wrong it's nice 2 know i'm not the only one dealing with all this emotion

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010

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i totaly know what your talking about!i have a soon to be 10 year old on the 4th of April and she is so emotional i cant do anything to please her!everyone is always aginst her!her grades have went down this year too i dont know if it is related or not!hopefuly nextr year will be better!thier already having the talk at school about thier periods!i hope i make it threw the teens:)

Shonna - posted on 03/24/2010

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My daughter just made 10 in January and she has a very wishy washy attitude! One moment she's helpful and and sweet to her younger sisters and around the house but at other times she feels as though everyone is gaining up on her or that she ALWAYS gets in trouble but I think she is just getting me prepared for her pre-teen years I just to pray to GOD that I'm ready.

Dianne - posted on 03/21/2010

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I could have written this very same plea as my 9yr. old is going through the same thing. Or should I say, my husband and I certainly understand where you are coming from. I'm thinking the very same thing...heaven help us if this is a glimpse into the teen phase. My daughter is usually so sweet and gentle-natured. I will be anxious to hear the responses given by other moms. All I can say is that you are not alone :(

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I"m so glad I'm not the only one.. this thread made me so happy.. my son is 9 and he is going through body changes,as well as emotional which seems to be so hard because he's already a sensitive child but lately it seems every little thing brings him to tears.. I try not to get angry but rather just "listen" to him and let him vent his anger and frustration

Jennifer - posted on 03/05/2010

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Mine has always been a bit of a drama queen but lately she can cry if you look at her wrong or she has an additude I pray this isnt the start of raging hormones but i fear that is just what it is....

Terri - posted on 02/23/2010

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Dianne, my daughter is exactly the same!! I'm worried what she'll be like when she's a teenager too!

Michelle - posted on 02/23/2010

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Good luck!! my daughter Mackenzie who just turned 10 in August has been having the melt downs for about 6-8 months now. If you say anything to her she can laugh, cry and act like the world is falling apart all in the same 2 mins. Hormones start at 8yrs of age some a little later, so I've been informed by our doc.

Beth - posted on 02/19/2010

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we sat down and had a talk about emotional turmoil and hormones befor christmas ,
she did admit to having sometimes unforseen or unexplained anger, and we agreed to keep it open and honest line on this, because i ddo think its early hormones, this was coinciding wiht her first straining bras , not that she "needs" them , but it made a decent forum , and i got my menses when i was 10 , so i dont want her to be unexpected. you know

Jenn - posted on 01/16/2010

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The body book for girls is excellent, btw. We have that one too. And Sarah who said you were not like that at that age, I wasn't either but I think we were the unnormal ones.

Jenn - posted on 01/16/2010

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Sounds like my nine year old too. I know how you feel! She gets over to my house after a weekend break and the whining and complaining makes me want to call her dad in 5 minutes and say nevermind--take her back. Yes, it is hormones and normal for the age too. My daughter can feel her breast growth starting because it hurts (still flat) and earlier last year she had a huge growth spurt which is a sign of puberty starting and went from slim sizes to regular too. My sister who works at a school says all kids this age are more difficult (the ones that slam the office door no matter how many times told are tweens). I think technically this is the most difficult stage. As I see it, their teens are totally dependent on their personalities and choices. Mine is a bit headstrong so I am expecting her to make a few rough choices and probably continue the arguing.

Erika - posted on 01/14/2010

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Sounds like my daughter. She has a horrible temper. She will go into a rage over the smallest thing. She is very whinny, too. She just has a bad attitude, she is 9 going on 16. I am so in for it when she is a teen.

Erica - posted on 12/06/2009

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Am havin exactly the same issues with my 9 year old girl, I'm sure it's hormones already as she is developing and needs a bra already. has been emotional nearly 12 months now and so hard to handle. personally i blame so much GM foods because back when I was growing and kids didn't eat so much crap we were teens b4 we underwent puberty in most cases

Jodi - posted on 11/30/2009

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Yay it is normal :) My 9 yr old is driving me insane!! everything we tell her ends up in a big fight & she runs off crying and i'm surprised i still have doors. I too have had the talk but i wish i had of waited just a little longer as i think she is now a tad worried of whats to come.

Tammy - posted on 11/28/2009

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yes I'm very familiar with the emotional rollecoaster ride. My daughter is 9 as well. Even though she drives me crazy because I feel like I walk on eggshells around her, I feel worse for her to have to deal with these hormonal changes that she her self does not understand. So I bought a book called The Care & Keeping of YOU, by American Girl. The Body Book For Girls. We read it together and she now understands whats going on with her body instead of wondering whats wrong, why am I so angry or why am I sad. she has answers now and know things will get better. she also feels that she knows when she just need a cool off period by herself or just a simple hug. GUD LUK

User - posted on 10/27/2009

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I have only just joined this group and so glad i did!!!! My daughter is driving me nuts with her mood swings, i have tried to approach "the talk" and even spoke to her teacher who lent me a short film to watch (they show it so the year 5's this year), i watched it to make sure there wasnt anything in it which may frighten her and it was fine but when i asked her if she wanted to watch it with me she refused, even when i try to talk to her she just doesnt want to know, i dont want to push her but i also dont want her to be frightened if her period does start, she is the tallest girl in her class and is just under 5ft tall and her body is changing so i am hoping the school show them the video sooner rather that later!!! I think i may try the book method and see if she will read it with me.

STACEY - posted on 10/24/2009

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I'M GOING THRU THE SAME THING WITH MY 9 YEAR OLD AS WE SPEAK. I THINK IT'S THE HORMONES.THE BODY IS GOING THRU CHANGES AND US AS FEMALES WE SHOULD ALREADY KNOW WHAT IT IS BC WE WENT THRU IT ALSO AND SOME OF US IS STILL GOING THRU SOME CHANGES.

Jody - posted on 10/22/2009

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I know what you are going through, my daughter started with the never ending drama about her 4 yr. old brother. She had a melt down and finally told me her brother was ruining her life! I was scared I didn't really know how to approach this situation, so I just held her and told her how much we all love her! It hasn't been that bad since but, she is only 9yrs. old. I am sure we will see some fireworks in the future!

Debbie - posted on 10/13/2009

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my son is going through the same thing,and i say the same thing-if it's like this now how is it going to be in 4 years?thanks now i feel better knowing that am not the only one

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Wow, I thought we were alone in dealing with this. There are days when I think my son (9 in June) is clinically depressed. He wails and cries over everything. He loved Where the Wild Things are as a younger child, he has the book, some of the dolls, is excited about the movie. I suggested we make him Max for Halloween and he burried his face in his hands and started sobbing hysterically about everything that could be wrong with him being Max. I had no idea everything was so weighted. I have struggled with taking him to a therapist or not over the past few months. He has all of these problems, but if you try to give him any feedback he swears whatever you suggest is not right. But like night and day he is happy as a clam when he's not panicked about something. All black and white, no room for grey in his world.

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Hey sounds just like my daughter. We started this earlier this year and over the summer she experienced her 1st period. Good Luck!

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My 8, soon to be 9 in 2 days, is going through this same thing. I told my mother in law that if she's this bad now, she's going to live with grandma by the time she's 12...LOL. But on a more serious note, I really don't know how to handle it. If I ground her from her friends (which is the only thing that seems to work with her), she's in the house under my feet driving me crazy. It's like punishment for me instead of her sometimes. I love her to death, but I don't know how to deal with all of the drama. My husband has requested that I take her to the Dr., because he says that there is no way this is normal...LOL. Of course, I know that it is, but it's just been hard on the whole family. I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one going through this.

Allison - posted on 09/18/2009

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Normal for anyone who has children. My daughter has melt dowm moments over small things, but I just let her cry it out, or have her tanturm. When she's done I ask her if she feels better and get to the bottom of what's bugging her.



She's been asking me about puberty just these past few weeks, when will she get pubic hair, her period all the above. If she has questions she knows she can come and talk to me about it, we have always had an open line of communication. I don't embarrasse her and I'm completely open with her how it's normal and I'm not embarrassed to talk about it with her.

Claudia - posted on 08/25/2009

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Quoting Diana:

We also are going through the same thing. I recently bought a book on the changes for my daughter. Every night her and I go read it alone without siblings or dad around. We are to the period chapter nad she is enjoying it. We just finished the pubic hair area, and she even asked me some questions. I was really scared thinking OMG how am I going to talk abotu this with her. My mom didn't I learned from my sister. I didn't want that for mine. So we have an open line of communication so far and it seems to be helping with her understanding what is going on also. :)


Diana can you tell me which book it is? I am going through this with my 9 yr old. Glad to see that I am not alone here. I have stressing about talking to my daughter about her period...she is very different & gets her feelings hurt so easily now a days.



 



Thanks for your help.



 



Claudia

Lindsay - posted on 08/16/2009

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my daughter is going through the same thing. I'm seeing a lot of "hormonal" fits and changes in her already...scary

Nrleyla - posted on 08/13/2009

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I'm facing the same problem with my 9yr old son. He's vry sensitive & emotional. It drives me nuts at times that i just have to leave him alone. It's painful but i think that's the best way to deal with it.

Maranda - posted on 07/28/2009

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I hear ya my 9yr old son is the same way for some reason I don't remember being this way at 9 LOL. It seem like he has a major attitude about everything and its driving me nuts he asks tons of question why this and why that he doesn't want to be told no. But most of the time he is as sweet as a teddy he's just miss understood at times. But to tell you the truth I'm not looking forward to those tween years cause I know there coming with a vengeance. Lol

Michelle - posted on 07/27/2009

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This must be a very common thing.My daughter is all so very moody and likes to cry over the littlest thing.It makes it hard on the rest of the family.I do hope she stays a little girl for a while longer.

Rabecca - posted on 07/27/2009

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I would say yes hormones I know for one I got my monthly friend at age 9 young I know but not uncommon it can be just early stages of hormones that start to change . my son will be 9 in december but I can see changes in him lately more hair on his legs so I know he is having some of those hormonal changes going on too hopefully not for years but they have started oh boy I just want him to stay my baby

Heather - posted on 07/24/2009

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Diana, I am so glad im not the ONLY one to have had "the talk" with my 9 yr old. Everyone i have talked to says he's to young but he really has some of the puberty changes going on so I figured it was time. Thanks for your story. Glad im not alone!

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My son is doing this. He'll be 9 in December. It completely stresses me out! I keep saying, "If it's this bad NOW, what is 14 going to be like??"

Hayley - posted on 06/30/2009

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Hey sounds just like my 9 yr old daughter!! I think it is the start of hormones kicking in, changes going on in the body, it all takes time and makes them feel a little different. Here's to a few years of frustration, but hey it is the next chapter in their life!

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