Jen - posted on 10/19/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have an almost-12 year old boy (6th grade) who's just lately having behavior issues at school. He's in a small private school and the 5th & 6th grades are combined, so he's got the same teacher for the 2nd year in a row. He really likes her as a teacher, but she just let us know that he's having behavior issues in school - mostly being disrespectful, turning in assignments late, and talking out of turn. We've tried grounding from the computer, video games, tv, etc.. but that doesn't seem to work. I asked him what he thought WOULD work and give him more incentive and he said instead of taking things away, he'd rather be rewarded.
Do you think this is okay for a kid his age? I feel like he's at an age where I shouldn't need to do this, and also seem like I'm bribing him to get the good behavior to come, but I'm not sure what else to try. I read on another website that the difference between bribery and rewarding is that bribery is done spur of the moment, to get a kid to stop doing a bad behavior, where rewarding is more pre-planned and rewarding for good behavior. Still wondering if this is the right thing. Any thoughts?