Melissa - posted on 06/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
As all you parents/Moms of babies born in the Year 2000 know you either now have a 12 year old child or will very soon! I've read so many post's regarding 12 year olds, some of which are saying 12 is the New 16! Really?? NO, not realy however it is true that in today's world kids are growing up much faster than say generation x did. I for instance wasn't even interested in the opposite sex at 12, yet it seems to me that today's children are very interested. I have watched all sorts of parents with different values on respect of "Dating" goes. Some chose to just turn a "Blind Eye" to the fact that their son or daughter is interested in the opposite gender. Lets just say that doesn't ever turn out to end very well for the child or the parent. Then there is the Parent/s who think they can still hold the reigns tightly on this and tell their child they can't be interested and think that they will make that decision for their child! OOOops, BIG HUGE MISTAKE on the parents part! By doing this you are telling your child a number of things, 1.) I can't trust you to make life choices (you same parent/s are now mumbling at me, that the child isn't old enough to make those kind of choices yet! True, and right!) 2.) Don't tell me that you plan to date because you'll get in Huge trouble if you do! (Now your thinking, No I just give them every reason why they can't, Reality check people, They are kids they don't care if your being demanding!) 3.) Essentially your mistakenly telling your child to lie to you (Because Most of them will do it any way!)
So then you have the Parent/s who will listen to their children and guide them along the way!
Every single one of these typical Parent/s feel strongly that they are right in their choice in this matter. These are things I as a parent have watched. My daughter is Extremely open with me and we communicate very well. She tells me where her friends are at with these matters and where she herself is at. Luckily I have been able to guide her to make good choices. As for the Parents who are Holding the reigns, Well I have bad news for most of you, Your Daughters are going to date boys when ever they decide it's time and you will decide if you are going to be part of that or Not! I chose part of myself. I have even spoken with some of these girls, and honestly a lot of them are doing things that you would shudder at they have no guidance because you just want to be in control so they don't tell you things. It is very sadd and breaks my heart for both her and the Parent/s because I know you want to hold her back from these things because you LOVE her/him soooo much! Let go of the reigns, take interest in what He/She is saying to you, talk openly together. Let your child know your fears, and why, be honest and respect him/her. Dont chose the path that will back fire on you! Please! K' well I gotta go because I need to pick my 12 year old 2000 baby girl up from school now! Best of luck to all of you Parents, wish I had more time to write to you all. I know I will get a back lashing from lot's of you and that's Okay! Just telling you what I see happening!