Santa!!

Gretchen - posted on 11/25/2008 ( 30 moms have responded )

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Hey everyone, my name's Gretchen! Just wondering, since our kids are basically the same age... I just told my daughter the truth about Santa a couple days ago. The poor kid kind of knew, but had tears in her eyes anyway! How have your kids reacted/do they know yet?

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Tania - posted on 02/03/2011

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This past Christmas my son logicly knows theres no santa but didn't want to not believe. He tried everything for me to make up a story like "Santa gives you the money to buy the toys right." And "you don't have the money to buy all the things we want so there must be a santa right?"
I'm just not sure he's ready to give it up yet. Now my 12yr old daughter stopped believing at 10 but she's a lot more mature.

Lesley - posted on 12/12/2010

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my son was born November of 2000. he and his younger brother who is 16 months younger than him still believe in Santa. i think i will let them ask me and not offer the info.

Kylene - posted on 08/31/2010

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My Son was 10 in January and he has asked before he still believes in Santa, Easter bunny, and toothfairy I did not tell him the truth Im hoping he will believe till he is 12 :)

Margaret - posted on 08/08/2010

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My daughter had questioned it for a few years starting when she was 7 or 8 but I just fobbed her off with the usual "Of courses he is" but one day while out shopping she cornered me with a trick question and so I thought about it for a minute and gave her the answer I thought she wanted and she seemed fine with it until last year when decided to tell me that she was upset but didn't want to upset me so didn't say anything. Bless her ♥
I told her that Santa Clause died a really long time ago but people keep his spirit alive just like they do Jesus because he was so important.

Lindsay - posted on 02/16/2010

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My daughter born Aug 5 knows about Santa same with my 12 year old son. I guess it really doesn't matter to them since they still get gifts.lol
They also know the truth about the tooth fairy, I tried to keep it going but failed

Melanie - posted on 02/16/2010

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my son was born Sept 2000 and still believes. My eldest son is 12 and (as far as I know) still believes. He has asked before, but with the help of YouTube and Norad we have been able to convince him that Santa is real. I want them to believe as long as possible, I LOVE childhood innocence and fantasy :)

Korina - posted on 02/15/2010

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my July 2000 son still believes in santa! and im so grateful :) I thought maybe this year we might be pushing it, but no, he still wrote the note, left out the juice, (he didnt want to leave beer for fear of drink driving!)..I hope he will still believe next year, but of course, I will tell him the truth if and when he asks. ..I enjoy keeping the magic alive, and yes, we believe in fairies!

Brandy - posted on 10/15/2009

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i havent told my son yet. he seems to still believe, and until he starts asking questions, i will just let him be. theyre only innocent so long.

Cristi - posted on 10/14/2009

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My son kind of knows and kind of believes so I have been wondering if I should tell him. I Just don't want to ruin the fun of the magic of Christmas. My older 2 kids were actually 8yrs old when I had to tell them the sad truth about Santa, but I told them that Santa was a real person who did nice things and gave away presents and now that he isn't around any more all of us parents do it for him because we love our kids and we want the magic of Christmas to go on forever. then we talked about how cool it was going to be when they got to be Santa for their own kids. I think that eased the pain a little bit.

Xiomara - posted on 10/02/2009

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My son knows Santa isn't real but loves the idea of it being possible he has a great imagination. We try to have someone dress up as Santa every year to hand out the gifts but he knows they come from family and friends and not really santa. We still try to sneak one in there that he really wants and thinks we can't afford at the time and put Santa's name on it just to see the look on his face.... I also have a 13 year old that I made cry last year from the surprise she got, she thought we weren't going to be able to get her the sidekick 3 she was asking for but by Christmas eve we got a christmas miracle and found it for $100 at an electronics store we put Santa's name on it and put it under the tree even she didn't know what to think.... I guess it all comes down to actually surprising them with one special gift that they never knew they were going to get. The whole Santa Clause thing is a fun way to celebrate christmas but my kids know why we really celebrate even if we don't go to church all the time.

Carly - posted on 10/01/2009

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my children have known the truth for years. we did the santa thing when they were raly little, but the first time one of thier freinds told them otherwise and they asked, i coulndt lie to them. we explained about the real st nicholus, and told them that we celabrate christmas for Jesus's birthday. we told them that since He didnt need presents, people exchanged them with eachother. we always let them pick out somthing to donate to less fortunate children, they realy like that part.

Mary - posted on 08/16/2009

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hi gretchen, my child came to the realization on his own..he knows that there is not truly a "santa." i overheard him discussing matters with his sister, but we continue to go thru the pretense every yr. he has been taught that JESUS is the reason we celebrate...christ birthday.

Lindsay - posted on 08/16/2009

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my daughter hasn't showed any signs of figuring it out yet but a few of her friends know that santa isn't real. i'm trying to keep her a kid as long as possible.

Susan - posted on 07/12/2009

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Currently mine (Dec. 2000) believes, but started hearing things in school this past Christmas. I except her to ask this Christmas season.

Jennifer - posted on 04/17/2009

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My son was born in March 2000 and still believes. He is starting to question it, and we've asked he what he thinks the answer is. He still believes in him. I know that some of his friends know the truth. My son found a piece of white fluff on the Christmas tree a couple of years ago, and I told him it must be part of Santa's beard (the fluff came from the "snow" of my Christmas Village set that I put near the tree). My son believed it and "bagged and tagged" it like evidence. He showed his best friend and when my son wasn't looking, his friend gave me the " look." Yup, he knew already but wasn't going to blow it for my son.



I want to keep the magic of Santa a little longer and then when he is ready or does know the answer, I plan on having him help volunteer at the Salvation Army with bell ringing, their toy castle, and setting up for the holiday meal there. So that he can be part of creating the magic for others; because without organizations like the SA, there wouldn't be Christmas for some. He can be the "Santa" for others. And that would help keep the magic.



At least that's how I feel about it.

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2009

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I am so glad that you asked this question Gretchen!!  I am feeling a little guilty though because I was hoping to see someone else who doesn't enjoy the Santa thing.  I didn't like the idea of Santa when I was a little girl, but I believed because everyone told me to.  When I found out that it was a lie, I was really upset.  Not because I wanted it to be real, but because I didn't see the point of it....I kinda felt stupid for believing it that long.  When I had my son I wanted to find a way to skip that part all together but of course I didn't because it might have been something that he enjoyed.  My son is 8 now and has asked me every year since he was 5 if Santa is real and has asked me to please tell him the truth...and I have hated lying to him.  I know when I have to finally admit to him that it is all a lie, I will also have to explain why I went along with it....this issue has turned me into a total scrooge...I could leave Christmas off the calender all together if it were up to me, but of course I would never do that to the kids.  So I go along with it and tell the lies and pretend to love it, because we are supposed to.  I wish I didn't feel this way about it, but I do.

Beverley - posted on 03/30/2009

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my daughter was born in may of 2000 she still believes in santa 2 and she aswell sort off knows the truth but still loves 2 believe so will leave it that way xx

Melissa - posted on 03/08/2009

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my son was born sept 00 he still totally believes in santa , tooth fairy easter bunny you name it he believes. He has not even questioned it . Ill tell him if he ever asks about it but i love the amazed ,sprakle in their eyes when they talk about santa and how they have to be asleep for him to come and what he is bringing , i cant bare to break the news to him but i know the time will come soon when kids at school start saying stuff;-( LOL plus its good to use when they are being bad LOL if you arent good santa wont come ..usually straightens them out real quick .

Lisa - posted on 12/12/2008

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I always see people saying that Santa is the one who brings all the good gifts...When I was expecting my oldest daughter I had a friend who told me that she never let Santa be the hero....I have always lived by that every Christmas because I feel that my husband and I should be our daughter's heroes on Christmas morning( and every morning for that matter!) and Santa can bring a few little trinkets that make them feel like he didn't forget about them...more importantly we try to instill in them that it is a season of giving my staff and I at my restaurant donate our tips in Dec to the local food drive, we give to the United way and Salvation Army and also make sure they know it is about catching up with family you don't get to see much during the year just so they don't think it's all about getting stuff.

Wynetta - posted on 12/10/2008

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my daughter was born dec. 2000 and she has always known that Santa wasn't a real person. we've always told her that Santa is in your heart. since it is the season for giving with a cheerful heart that's what santa represents.

Laura - posted on 12/10/2008

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I have a daughter born Jan. 00 and a son who is almost 13. They both believe in Santa but I know they know the truth. He won't admit. I never told him the truth but he is 13!. My daughter has an older friend who of course told her there was no Santa but as her brother told her because I told him that if you don't believe you will not have any gifts under the tree, so they play along. They still love to write letters to Santa and I deliver them to the post office. It is difficult when they grow up and question everything. It was fun when they were younger and all awed but they do grow up to become parents themselves.

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My sons are 13,12, and 8, I also have 4yr and a newborn daughters, I've told my older 2 sons that the first time I hear them tell their younger siblings there is no santa then they do not get a santa present christmas morning, so they still all "believe" that santa is real. Cause santa is the one that brings the great big gifts...........

Emma - posted on 12/04/2008

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Hi Gretchen, this is a very difficult one isnt it. I have a 13 yr old so she knows the truth and well my 8yr old she keeps saying that she doesnt believe then changers her mind. I am trying to keep it going as I also have a 3yr old. when our Charlie my 8yr old girl asks me I kinder answer her by saying "if you dont want to believe then its up to you" but I cant give her the bad news! At this age its still a bit of a mystery isnt it?

Amie - posted on 12/03/2008

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Your welcome Gretchen. =) I'm glad I could help and I'm happy your little girl is taking it well. What I said to Nicole (my girl) too when she asked well how did he end up becoming santa? As I was unclear totally on the issue myself was to ask her about the grapevine game they play in school. They all sit in a circle and the teacher whispers something in the first kid's ear and then he/she to the next one beside them, etc. until they come to the end and see what has gotten around. They use it to show how rumors aren't always accurate and can change so drastically but it worked here too! =) Then told her imagine that happening the world over, can you imagine how much it would change? She got it then and is happy as pie to continue things going for her siblings as I said before and in generally is just happy to help out.
Merry Christmas everyone!! =)

Melanie - posted on 12/03/2008

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My son was born in Sept. of 00 and he doesn't know...he asked last year and I showed him videos of Santa going into people's homes on YouTube to continue the charade. I don't want to rush it...he's my youngest so I guess I'd like to keep him out of the loop as long as possible.

Gretchen - posted on 12/03/2008

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Yes, Amie, exactly!! I was raised Catholic, but I am a C & E church-goer, lol. I went online and brushed up on my facts about the real St. Nicholas, friend to the children and all that, (I left out friend to the prisoners, lol!!), and then we found another site that listed the different names "Santa" has all around the world. Also, to make her want to keep the magic going for the younger kids, I told her now that she knows, it's kind of like a "job" to make sure other kids don't find out from her - it's a special thing between parents and children. Nice, and thanks for the reassurance!!!

Amie - posted on 12/02/2008

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My daughter's known since she was 6. Not that we don't still give her Santa presents and she still keeps up the pretenses for her younger siblings but she kept asking and asking as the same thing happened. A christian child in her school told her Santa wasn't real, it was Jesus's birthday and that she should be celebrating that. I was so flipping mad when I found out. But handled it well. =)
Husband and I told her the real story of Santa and how he came about and that yes it is Jesus's birthday. We're not a devout family, I left my church at 16 and my husband is a Buddhist. ha! But she still knows and is happy with it. She's happy with knowing the truth as well, which is something not many seem to know as I've been finding out this year. lol! Santa was a real person, Saint Nicholas, circa 4th century Greece. He was a bishop in his church and was renowned for his selfless giving to the less fortunate. Through his memory, his spirit of giving was spread worldwide and is more commonly known as Santa now. How he became a fat jolly magical being living up north with little elves I haven't been able to figure out though.
Anyway, she now shares in the holiday spirit of giving and with her siblings picks out gifts that we wrap and drop off at our local Salvation Army for the less fortunate. =)

Lisa - posted on 11/26/2008

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I'm incredibly lucky my 8 year old still believes in Santa and the Tooth Fairy!....she thinks parents text message Santa to tell him what they want and if they are behaving.....I'm really trying to keep at least this part of her innocent cause i don't want her telling her 4 year old sister!!!

Gretchen - posted on 11/26/2008

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I agree, I wish I could've kept it going for mine, but she has been asking since kindergarten when a bully on the school bus told her there was no such thing. I think up until I told her, she didn't really believe, but held out hope until I said otherwise. I felt terrible!!

Karen - posted on 11/26/2008

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mine was born in july of 2000 and still believes santa is real. i think she kinda knows but isnt sure so chooses to believe. its a beautiful fantasy so i want to keep it going as long as possible.

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