The start of new year as Mother of grown children/Grandmothers...

Debbie - posted on 01/26/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I hope everyone had a very happy holiday season and this new year brings health and happiness to your family!!! I must apologize for not being on here lately,my life has been so busy (I\'m sure everyone knows what thats like).First of all, my mother has been sick,she doesn\'t live in the same state as I do so that makes it even more difficult.It truley is hard to watch someone that seemed almost invincible become this fragile being that I looked up to so much,and it happened so fast,with in weeks.She still is able to live by herself and is doing pretty good now but not sure how long that will last.I guess this is just another step in this thing we call life that we must go through...God bless................Deb

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Julie - posted on 01/26/2009

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Hi Debbie sorry to hear about your mum I know what it is like to live a distance from family, my mum was recently diagnosed with the onset of dementia I feel for you, my mum is also a women who has always been so strong and on the go. Take care all my prayers and wishes are with you.
Julie

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Gloria - posted on 02/27/2010

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This was posted over a year ago. I'm sure a lot has happened. Reading this reminds me how strong the "mother" bond is. I hope your world is returning to its new normal. With regards, Gloria Garber.

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Hi Debbie,



I can feel for you in this. I had just lost my Aunt in the Adelaide heatwave and then my Mother contacted me facing possible cancer and the removal of her kidney. Both live intersate from me and my family (I moved). Both happened fast as well; I guess that's the way life is when you age. Our age group though are in the middle of aging parents and maturing young people and things can go wrong on either side. Not that we are invincable, though. I'm just sooo glad my God is in charge, where I put Him in charge, so I can relax in Him, when I get over the initial shock of things changing for the worse suddenly. It's so good to read your post that your Mum is recovering. My Mum is too now and she didn't have cancer after all, praise the Lord.  God Bless you in this ministry... Judy

Debbie - posted on 02/12/2009

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I would like to thank each and everyone of you who shared your stories with me about your families, and all your kind words and most of all your prayers for my mom.She seems to be doing better now,of coarse she still has good days and bad.But I hold on to all the good days!!May God Bless each and everyone of you.......Deb

Jackie - posted on 02/10/2009

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Deb, I can relate, I also have my Mom who has been ill right through the holidays and is still hospitalized. Causes a lot of stress, Because you want them still so actively involved in your life as they always have been. But you have to understand as I do, that they are getting older now! And they just don't bounce back like they used to! It is very difficult to comprehend! And yes, It is another step in life we all must go through! I am, praying for your mom & Mine! God Bless both Moms!!......Jackie :)

Theresa - posted on 02/10/2009

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I understand how you feel. My mother passed away five days ago. She had alzheimers disease and suffered for a very long time. It was hard to watch, but I was able to care for her and be there for her, that was a comfort to me. She was the mother of ten children the grandmother of 27 grandchildren, 38 great grandchildren and seven great-great grandchildren. Talk about MOTHERHOOD! She was a great mother and grandmother. She was an inspiration to all her family.

Janet - posted on 02/08/2009

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Deb, I'm going through the same thing with my Mom and it's very difficult for all of us to accept that those strong influences in our lives now need us to be strong for them. I see my Mom become almost childlike in some ways and she looks to me to help with issues that are just too hard for her now. Just know that you are not alone and we will all pray for each other

Margaret - posted on 02/03/2009

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hello this has been the best start to this year for me my latest great grand daughter Cadie Marie was born last thursday & what a little darling, its true what they say that you have more time to spend with grandchildren than you had when your own kids were growing up, I love being a nana & great nana i get so much pleasure from all my grandchildren & you knwo what there is another great grandchild due in june this i am looking forward to also.as we get older we appreciate life more & I cant complain although I myself have health problems I know I can count on my family for support, especially my daughter in law sharon who looks after me in many ways thank you sharon & to all my family for being supportive

Carroll - posted on 01/28/2009

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It is an intense and difficult time when one's parents go through this. My father went quickly and unexpectedly with a desire to never have anyone care for him. He did it his way, but I was able to be at his bedside to care and say goodbye. In three days he was gone after having visited all of his children and grandchildren in a mad dash to head off death. My mother had ALS. She was at a distance of 500 miles, so I did a lot of traveling for the two years that she suffered and then during her stay in a hospice program. Fortunately my siblings all shared responsibility too. We were all with her to say goodbye. Now my life is quiet, filled with memories of them. Wish at times I could talk with them again and hold them in my arms. I compare it to the intense days with our children when they were small and needed us so much. It will end, so embrace those special moments. Blessings to you.

Teresa - posted on 01/28/2009

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So sorry to hear about your mom... my whole family lives about 2500 miles away so I understand how that is... I hope she is doing well by the time you get this... have a good day

Teresa

Deb - posted on 01/27/2009

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I take care of a senior friend, I really encourage you to take her to a doctor. It's possible that she has an imbalance of something. Sugar levels, potasium levels something. There are to drugs for dementia that work well if she has some new memory loss (Nomenda, and ariseph I think-oops for the spelling). You could add some pills that may stabilize her but a doctor would have to see her. Don't wait time is very important. Good luck

User - posted on 01/27/2009

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Life sure is cruel. We get so little time for ourselves. I am taking care of my father who lives in an assisted living home about 50 miles north of me. And a mother who is about 15 miles south of me. They've been divorced for 30 years. So there is no way I can even put them in the same room with each other. Neither has any signifigant others (they past away both about 5 years ago). My only sibling moved to Arizona. So here I am working full time, running 1-1/2 hours north to a hosipital last weekend. Dad's 85, dimentia, and going down hill every month worse than the month before. Mom's been diagnosis with breast cancer and is 75. I was at Sam's Club buying diapers. At the beginning of the conveyor belts was a case for my grandchild who is a year old and food in between and at the end of the conveyor belt was 3 cases of pull-ups for my Dad. I wanted to retire, but my husband lost his job. He was blessed to find a job and not have to go on unemployment. However, he is now taking home in one month what he took home in one week. So when this is all done it'll be my turn drooling.

Debbi - posted on 01/27/2009

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I am sorry to hear that yiour mother is ill. It's always hard to deal with the frailties of people you looked up to. Hope everything works out well for you and her both.



Stay strong.



Debbi

Felicia - posted on 01/27/2009

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Sorry to hear about your mother. My own lived a long time, deterioraring over the last 10 years or so --- Alzheimer's or dementia, the name of it matters not. So hard to watch as she, too, was a smart, willful and vital person in her younger years. All best to you and your mother.

Louise - posted on 01/26/2009

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Hi, I know what you mean about your mother. I take care of my mother .Fortunately she lives 5 minutes away. Added to that I am a mother of 6 and a grandmother of 15 with 1 on the way and loving every minute of it.

Jenny - posted on 01/26/2009

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You poor Love, it is hard i am going through the same thing with my Moth-in-law.

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