Anyone annoyed at the question are you going to have any more?

Sapphire - posted on 06/24/2012

No- it doesn't bother me in the least anymore. it used to bother me. It bothers me more on these community forums when some high and mighty ultra-Christian Bible thumper uses religious propaganda quotes to question my parenting choice to raise 1 child. THOSE are the people that tick me off. But in general, I am no longer bothered by the question. Most people will make general small talk without being offensive. But I am proud to be a mother of an only child.

Rachael - posted on 06/24/2012

to the lady who asks from genuine curiosity to see how other peoples experience shape up, that is totally fine, what I think is the issue is the Way people ask, or assume they can advise you when you are not even asking in the first place. And the comment about what if there is an issue that someone is not aware of .. how amazing people feel they have the right to comment, that is so true, no one ever knows your true circumstances.
Whatever size family you choose as long as it is a decision based on knowing yourselves and what you can handle then you will be fine.

Angela - posted on 06/21/2012

I don't get annoyed anymore and just tell people that she is my maricle and that I can't have anymore. I usually don't get anymore questions after that.

TINA - posted on 06/16/2012

I am a mom of a little girl and a before that a son that was born sleeping at 21 weeks. Having my daughter was so not the joyful experience. I was terrified all the way until the end. I never got yo enjoy the pregnancy didnt have a baby shower and was at the hospital once a week. Nowpeople ask me that and I want to smack them! I adore my child and would do it all again for her but it makes me want to cry because first off I dont think I could go through it again, second I have two children and she has an older brother, and third its none of thier damn difference. I wish people would stop asking. If I do, I do and nothing you say will change my mind! Sorry to vent but this is a sore subject with me.

Sarah - posted on 06/16/2012

Don't hate me guys, but i sometimes ask that... not to be offensive, I am honestly curious. We only have one currently, but we have been debating a second. I ask to hear reasons, and what influenced others. I know that everyone has to make their own choices for their own reasons, i just sort of see it as "research". If your're interested in a topic, it is normal to ask others how theyfeel and why, correct? I sort of see this in the same way, just trying tosee a new perspective.

Alison - posted on 06/14/2012

Yes! I would bet that most people who have one child have a solid personal/private reason for doing so.

Amy - posted on 06/14/2012

I have one and I am tired of getting asked that question too. How do people know if we are even able to have more? She is perfect. I didn't feel the need to have any more.

Stephanie - posted on 06/11/2012

I have only had one person make a comment about how it isn't healthy to have only one kid. I told her something to the effect of "I am an only child, my cousin is an only child and my grandmother is an only child. And we all turned out just fine." She didn't have much to say after that.
It annoys me because it is so insensitive. Some people have only one child because if health issues and if they could have more they would do that. They don't need some stranger reminding them of the fact they can't have more kids.

Julie - posted on 06/10/2012

I am a single mom to an adopted daughter. I am sometimes asked if I would adopt another child. Part of me would love to...and my 6 1/2 year old daughter periodically mentions that she would like to have a baby sister. BUT as I am pushing 50....that is not likely to happen. :) Even so, in the country where we live, an outright "No" is likely to invite the questioner to try to convince me otherwise. I usually just say something like "You never know," and then change the subject. It usually works.

Stephanie - posted on 06/10/2012

I like how your husband handles it. It's not anyone's business.

Gail - posted on 05/31/2012

Yep, but even more annoying are those people who make the comment that my daughter needs someone to play with as if a second child would be a doll we could place on a shelf if she didn't want to play with it. Anyway, I tell them what you said that Robbie was a blessing and we aren'tlookingfor any more.

Stephanie - posted on 05/30/2012

No...I just tell them that I am grateful for the one I have! :)

Lindsay - posted on 05/30/2012

Hi, I just joined today, and yes i get that question all the time. It has stopped surprising me how someone you've never met before can ask that question. I am not the type of person who loves sharing my life plans with everybody, so I usually just say, we'll see and that usually ends the conversation.

Angela - posted on 05/30/2012

I usually don't have to say it, because as soon as someone asks my husband will chime in and say "we're having ONE" (my husband is more sold for sure on the one then me, I usually want only one but you hear from so many places that how can you do that, that I'll start to second guess myself :P), but I was an only child, I have a handful of cousins that were only children, and my husbands family has more only child families then ones that had 2 or 3 kids, so our families have been pretty understanding, and usually ask the question once and its never come up again after so we got lucky. Its nice not to have to field it though, because usually when people start saying "well you can't just have one, your poor kid" my husband will just repeat "We're having one" and they stop asking