Are moms worse off entering their babies into competitions?

Roxanne - posted on 07/14/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have entered my 6 month old into competitions and i get quite worked up about them. she hasnt won any and i know that i need to lose gracefully but she is beautiful and it frustrates me that she doesnt win. I want her to win at least one...

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Roxanne - posted on 07/21/2010

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Thanx, i never looked at it like that. i would never do anything to hurt her, especially not emotionally.

Laura - posted on 07/21/2010

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I also am not a fan of pagents--I find them demeaning and shallow. I also agree with the comment that the pagents reflect the wants of the parent, usually the mother, and are not about the child. Do not project your desires for approval based on looks onto your baby! If you focus on physical beauty your daughter will grow up obsessing about that as the only way to gain approval and have worth and will more than likely develop low self-esteem rather than having a good self-image. Be satisified that you have a healthy, beautiful baby that you love! One more thing, consider counseling for yourself as a means of improving your own self image--you seem like a lovely person and deserve to feel good about yourself! Good luck!

Roxanne - posted on 07/19/2010

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i think it stems from me, i was an ugly child, i was born with Duane syndrom which meant i was squint, had a lazy eye and had to wear God aful glasses. I never had the pretty face to be entered. Makennae is beautiful, she onkly inherited the best of both myself and her dad and i do want her to see one day how beautiful she is now. I dont ever think that she doesnt have what it takes, i think the judges just dont know what they are missing out on.

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I am personally not a fan of pagents, because let's face it-it's all about the mom and not the child. What baby expresses the desire to get all dolled up for a competition? None! It's the mom that wants it done. Ask yourself why it frustrates you that your daughter doesn't win? What is the judging criteria? What are you trying to gain by entering your daughter into a competition? Of course your child is beautiful! Mine is too, as well as every other mom's kid out there. So are you sending a message that a pretty face is the only criteria for winning? Just some things to think about and consider. Good luck to you.

Rhonda - posted on 07/16/2010

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Roxanne I would try to remember that this is just one way of socializing her. Getting caught up in her not winning could began to erode her self esteem as she grows older! I would also take cues from her as to wether she enjoys these competitions are not, if she doesn't you need to stop. Your daughter is beautiful just because she is not because some judge says so! It may be best for you to find other ways to celebrate your daughter's beauty!

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